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Things are starting to become clear

Posted by cokohlik, in Grad School, Me, Accepted 28 March 2012 · 209 views

accepted transition moving questions courses

Some things are starting to become clear in my new adventure, and some things still remain a mystery.

I've been in touch with two graduate students (one is one of my POI's students and one is from hereeee

) and they've been awesome answering all my questions and going above and beyond what I would have ever imagined. I feel so much more at ease about this crazy transition that my husband & I are about to undertake (no matter how much I flip flop in the following paragraphs ... it's true, I feel much much more prepared, peaceful & knowledgable about all this).

I now have a list of apartments to check out and I'm making a To Do list for when we get to Newark. The #1 thing on that list besides meeting my POI & current students and the like is to try Brew HaHa! which is a coffeeshop there. I have super high expectations. I love coffee and was a barista for two years during my undergrad so I really hope it's as good as it sounds. Their website shows that they make latte art (bears, hearts, etc.) so that's really exciting. (Sorry, I abuse the word "exciting" lately...)

One graduate student told me about a mandatory TA conference where for two days, everyone TAing in the next year goes to this conference and talks about teaching methods/engaging your students/grading/etc. and oh my goodness it might as well just be renamed "Amy's Heaven Conference" because two days talking about teaching?? Yes please. I'm not sure how UDel can get any more awesome than already is... but I'm sure it will once we visit and meet people and see how pretty the campus is and so on. I'm so ready for classes to start.

I noticed that my funding stops on May 31, 2013, so I'm a little worried about funding for Summer 2013, but I hope that I'm just overthinking it and it will fall into place. Mostly I'm anxious for my husband, having to find a job. He's in IT but he's multi-talented so I feel like he won't have much trouble finding a job with comparable pay, but I haven't really started looking to see what people in the area/Wilmington/maybe even Philly if we have to are making (trying to get away from that commute).

I have so much to do before we move! Reading, packing, more reading... Mostly reading.

Thanks for listening to me ramble on! I wonder how long I'll get to blog on here. :lol:

cas

Mar 29 2012 12:05 AM

I love your enthusiasm and passion for what you're doing. Best of luck to you and your husband in your new adventure.

stilnovista

Mar 29 2012 12:57 PM

You sound like me in regards to your husband's looking for a job-- my boyfriend won't be moving with me to Amherst, mostly because he has a really great and stable job in Rhode Island, in IT (he's vice-president at a small networking business). We'll technically be long distance, but it's only about an hour and a half drive between Providence and Amherst, so we'll be seeing each other every weekend at least. I think he's struggling with what he wants to do in the long-term, because really the only thing for him to do is to step up as president if his boss ever retires, and he doesn't want to run a business. It's the only job he's ever had, and he's CONVINCED he wouldn't be able to find something with comparable pay and responsibilites if he ever left. I think he's nuts. Let's sympathize!

cokohlik

Mar 29 2012 02:52 PM

You sound like me in regards to your husband's looking for a job-- my boyfriend won't be moving with me to Amherst, mostly because he has a really great and stable job in Rhode Island, in IT (he's vice-president at a small networking business). We'll technically be long distance, but it's only about an hour and a half drive between Providence and Amherst, so we'll be seeing each other every weekend at least. I think he's struggling with what he wants to do in the long-term, because really the only thing for him to do is to step up as president if his boss ever retires, and he doesn't want to run a business. It's the only job he's ever had, and he's CONVINCED he wouldn't be able to find something with comparable pay and responsibilites if he ever left. I think he's nuts. Let's sympathize!

Oh my gosh, stilnovista! This is the only job my husband's ever had, too (well ok, the one in high school doesn't count

)! He's been there for years and years!And he's the same way with pay, but I think the right pay is lurking out there somewhere. We haven't really started looking yet. We're almost twins!

stilnovista

Mar 29 2012 05:01 PM

So strange! I bet you two have had very similar conversations about your academic inclinations. My boyfriend went to a technical high school, got certified, and started at his company right afterwards, so he's been there for something like almost seven years. My experience is completely foreign to him, but he's lovely and supportive because he knows it's now or never for me and that this is what I truly love to do. It does help to frame it in practical terms, though: I want a museum job, and I need an advanced degree for that. It's also 50% that I love school, but I don't think I can quite convince him of the practicality of that

It's funny, though-- I know that if he ever did decide to look elsewhere, I'd be the one helping HIM with his search and resume and interviews, because he's never had to go through it (and I've been through it a million times).

Almost twins indeed! One on each coast

I wonder what will happen when we're both on the same side of the country!

cokohlik

Mar 29 2012 05:53 PM

So strange! I bet you two have had very similar conversations about your academic inclinations. My boyfriend went to a technical high school, got certified, and started at his company right afterwards, so he's been there for something like almost seven years. My experience is completely foreign to him, but he's lovely and supportive because he knows it's now or never for me and that this is what I truly love to do. It does help to frame it in practical terms, though: I want a museum job, and I need an advanced degree for that. It's also 50% that I love school, but I don't think I can quite convince him of the practicality of that It's funny, though-- I know that if he ever did decide to look elsewhere, I'd be the one helping HIM with his search and resume and interviews, because he's never had to go through it (and I've been through it a million times).Almost twins indeed! One on each coast I wonder what will happen when we're both on the same side of the country!

Haha! I read this and nodded with each word! It's all so true!

The only difference is that I want to be a professor, but professor jobs and museum jobs are two sides of the same coin

(Cue Twilight Zone music.)