Do yourselves a favor and go to the programs that are best for each of you. Do not base your grad decision on a relationship. Everything in your lives will change once you start school anyway. Whereas suitable grad acceptances are rare and precious (this is your future!), there will always be opportunities for new romantic involvements. If the relationship is worth it, so is the long distance. Attend the "best" (based on relevance to your interests, funding, prestige, job placement record, etc.) program that accepts you.