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maelia8 last won the day on June 13 2014

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    Modern European History Ph.D.

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  1. This is a really, really helpful thread, folks! I'll be leaving for a research year in September and am still pretty unsure about how I want to manage my time and my documents, and, in addition, have some concerns about self-motivation/regimentation in a place without any colleagues or graduate students monitoring me or working with me regularly. Some of you have touched on this, but how did you motivate yourself to work when no one was watching, and keep to a set schedule with less appointments or performative aspects than usual? As an extremely social person in a grad department that facilitates frequent colloquia and panels, and encourages grad students to work together in a shared space on campus, how did you get used to working alone and setting your own schedule (without getting lethargic, unmotivated, or even depressed)? This is one of my biggest research year fears, as it was a problem for me when I did summer research a year ago.
  2. Just wanted to say how inspiring all of you are to me as I face my oral qualifying exam next week ... I'm only halfway through this process and you folks are finishing, but you really make me feel confident in keeping with it to the end! You folks were old hands when I got here three years ago, and I've been so happy for all of your advice throughout this time. I hope all the good karma you have earned through your kindness on grad cafe is reciprocated on the job market!
  3. I agree with @Cheshire_Cat about the ability to make your own schedule and to be as flexible as you'd like! Another thing I love is the amazing access to all kinds of talks, trainings, resources, books, discounts, counsel, advice, support, camaraderie, etc. If you want to, there is a club or organization or committee or office to help with anything you need under the sun, and all you have to do is ask and be tenacious. In normal life, often all you have as a resource is the internet and friends you know who may have expertise. At a large university, so many people are experts in their field, whether librarians, administrators, professors, theater directors, etc. that you'll always have access to the best of the best, if not the most vibrant examples of cutting edge thought and engaged community.
  4. As a born and bred Bay Area native, I can concur, the words "San Fran" make me cringe big time. The proper ways to refer to San Francisco beyond its actual name are "SF" or "the City" (I know, New York people say that too, but bear with us, that city is far enough away that there's no confusion. Maybe it has something to do with crossing a bridge to get there?)
  5. @hbfisch00 pretty sure it means you're funded, or at least, that's the consensus on the forum! Like you, I've held off telling anyone officially, but I think I may have to on Monday.
  6. Actually TakeruK you understood perfectly - option two is not allowed (or at least, not allowed unless I receive conditional funding during sixth year for a seventh year, which can't be determined any earlier). Year two abroad would not be a side project, merely a continuation to deepen and strengthen my dissertation with more evidence and also to take advantage of having the archive right next door to check/expand as necessary. In year two abroad I'd be expected to write just as much as if I were home (about 2-3 chapters).
  7. @TakeruK this would be part of the dissertation - the pay would be exactly the same whether I was in the US or abroad, since my department tops up any outside fellowship to the amount that they deem necessary for maintenance. So basically, if I go for one year I'd research the whole time and then start writing when I get back, while if I went for a second year I'd be expected to start writing while I was still abroad (but still have access to the archives right there in case I needed more info or if the direction of the dissertation changed). Normative time to degree would also not change. In short, it would help my research/dissertation prospects, but probably hurt my departmental connections, teaching experience, and personal life (I have a long-term partner who can't accompany me).
  8. Dress in what makes you feel comfortable and confident. If you are wearing heels and a slip and stockings but don't have experience wearing them, it will be very obvious that you're outside of your element and you may come across as stiff. On the other hand, if putting on clothes like that has traditionally been your "battle armor" and makes you feel like a badass, then go for it, as your confidence will shine through
  9. After 3 years of PhDing, and now planning to take my quals in two months, my best advice is as follows: Don't try harder, try different. and Your best is good enough. As mostly high-achieving undergraduates, we are are generally taught that if we just try a bit harder, work a few more hours, put a bit more detail into that review, or polish that outline with a few more quotes, then everything will be better, and that if we aren't doing those things, then we aren't trying our hardest and achieving the standard that we should be able to. Well, in graduate school, sooner or later, you will hit a point where you realize there aren't enough hours in the day to "try harder" without compromising your relationships, your physical/mental health, and even your professional future (working too hard causes burnout, and 6-7 years is a marathon, not a sprint). Instead of always assuming that the answer is to work a bit more, try to learn ways to work differently - to use time more efficiently, to set strict time limits on how many hours or days you devote to preparing a specific something (a lesson plan, for example), and to take breaks at set intervals and not get caught up on finishing that little thing that makes you skip cooking dinner and thus miss eating a quality meal that could raise your spirits. It's the little things that count - getting enough sleep, eating regularly, and spending time with friends on a consistent basis. Instead of going to bed thinking "man, I should have just stayed up 45 minutes longer to polish that review," say to yourself, "I did my best for today and it's 11pm, so I'm going to go brush my teeth and call it a night." Doing your best does NOT equal doing your hardest, if doing your hardest means detracting from your happiness. As long as you gave it your best effort and put in your time as scheduled with focus and dedication, you've done enough and you deserve to eat/sleep/cuddle/go to the park on Sunday for a few hours. Since I started prepping for quals, I look in the mirror every morning and say to myself "your best is good enough" at least once. I know it's cheesy as hell but I need the reminder, and it's helped me a lot.
  10. @kasskart I don't think you need to worry, German universities' timeline is very relaxed. If it's not due until June you're solid. I'd even wait for the official award letter from DAAD before you apply as you can provide it as proof of funding in your application.
  11. So this funding cycle turned out really well and it looks like I've been offered two prestigious 10-month overseas research grants. They cannot be used at the same time, but I might be able to defer one a bit and use them back to back. If so, should I do it? I know that in my department this does not mean that I get to add a year to normative time, and I'd be leaving my home department for relative isolation for quite some time and be expected to have a great deal of writing done before I come back. That being said, it's a whole lot of funding and freedom that I'm looking at here. Anybody who's done this want to weigh in on their experience, or whether it was worth it? This would be for archival research, not time in a lab.
  12. I'm from the US and applied through DAAD NY (though it was in consultation with the San Francisco Information Center close to where I live).
  13. @pup no idea, the online interface changes mightily each year Fingers crossed we hear soon! Their notification times are notoriously weird.
  14. Congratulations guys!!! Mine went to "funding" this morning too!!! What a great notice to wake up to
  15. @pup do you think that they are doing several rounds of gradual acceptances and eliminations, or does the fact that we are still at "selection made" when others seeking research grants already got rejected a week ago is a good sign?