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  1. The link works now. It must have just been a temporary glitch. Thank you! I'll go read it.
  2. That sounds like a great article! The link doesn't seem to be working for me . . .
  3. Thank you for the suggestions. I'll find out who I need to be talking to and see what steps should be taken. I don't want to make a case for anything as much as I want to be able to have an honest conversation about it and make sure my concerns are heard.
  4. Yeah, there's something in me that gets riled a bit about this. It doesn't seem right. I really do admire my advisor, and she puts a lot of work into making sure I do well, but the disconnect is a problem. I will practice, and collect info. I want, and need, a strong letter of rec. This market is hard enough without anticipating a less than enthusiastic endorsement from the person who knows my work better than anyone else.
  5. In response to #2: I don't know, but those are good ways to get perspective. Thanks!
  6. Human: no, I'm not upset that she compliments my fashion sense. There was a bit more to my post than that.
  7. fuzzylogician: Thank you. Those are really helpful suggestions, and I will definitely keep them in mind moving forward. I'm sure she doesn't realize it, which is part of why I'm confused about the whole thing. It seems like a strange disconnect. And yes, those differences between letters written for male vs. female applicants are concerning. ImpulsiveNixie: Yes, I do think that I could be particularly sensitive to her interactions with me because I admire her, although I think that is a gendered framing of the situation as well, but there is a marked difference between being told you are going to be a star in your field (her reaction to my colleague) and being told not to "read too much into" the positive language she is using to describe my work to others in the department. It's not that she is less willing to compliment me, but that those compliments come with a disclaimer, that bothers me. I know that she sees promise in my work. I'm just troubled by the way she responds to it and to me.
  8. Have any of you had issues with advisors interacting with you in very gender-specific ways? My advisor regularly compliments on my sense of fashion and admonishes me for not "softening" my language enough when commenting in seminar, but does not recognize those same behaviors in male students. My advisor is well-versed in feminist and queer theory, so it is especially surprising to me. She also gives lavish compliments to male advisees, but each time she compliments me, it comes with a caveat that I basically shouldn't get above my station. Does anyone else receive this kind of feedback on a regular basis, and what do you make of it? Is there an appropriate response, aside from silence? There are other examples, but I don't want to post too many details.
  9. finally got an acceptance! Still waiting to hear about funding.

  10. No worries, supposedly-random-and-anonymous-grad-hopeful. Those of us who know you in real life know how hard you've worked and how much you deserve this success. Your experience has been both valuable for and encouraging to me. You do, however, need to tell me where your third acceptance came from.
  11. "I agree- I dislike the term "disability" as well. It is a classification that ETS uses, although I never had problems with learning either. I just have anxiety and focus issues that cause problems with time sensitive test taking. Good luck with Harvard! " What terminology would you prefer?
  12. I don't think I'm seeing your entire logical trajectory on the page. This section is what doesn't make sense to me: "My point is that you don't do yourself any favors if you make all of these excuses for a bad score. You need to be honest with yourself and figure out all of your weaknesses and address them upfront." Are you saying that documented disabilities are a sham? What about the OP's posts leads you to make this challenge to honesty? I'm not sure what I'm being spared by virtue of my screen name, but I suppose I'm grateful.
  13. And yet, seadub, you appear to feel perfectly justified in accusing the OP of using his/her medical condition as an excuse.
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