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  1. While I'm not familiar with those schools, I have heard that it's beneficial to have experience at multiple institutional types (both for your resume and personal knowledge when choosing where to work professionally). So if UWM allows the opportunity for internships or practicum at different schools, it may not make a huge difference. But that may be something to take into account.
  2. That's terrifying
  3. https://studentaffairscollective.org/product/from-the-beginning-perspectives-from-new-emerging-student-affairs-professionals/
  4. I've been meaning to write this post (and another that is hopefully coming soon) for a while but life happens. I was able to go visit my future grad program a few weeks ago and I plan to write about that next but for now, I want to talk about something I think will be a little more universal - the mental side of the grad school process, as far as I've experienced anyway. For me, and I'm sure many others, grad school was always just a far off thing I knew I'd do eventually but didn't put an incredible amount of thought into until I was about halfway done with college (about a year in for me). Then, the time came to decide what program and school I wanted to apply to and it got exciting. I'm a higher education nerd with a bit of wanderlust so it was exciting to me to be able to check out all of these schools around the country, even if it was just through their websites. Next, it was time to apply and the pressure was on. Did I really have what it would take to get in? Did I develop the right relationships for strong letters of recommendation? Is this even the right time for me to go to grad school? It's been 4 months, will you finally just sit down and write the essay?! So after months of procrastination, I finally admitted my application. I just turned in one so that was it, no more stress, now it was just a waiting game. But then, the Internet threw a wrench in my plan to peacefully await a decision. I started looking for stats of admitted students to the program. Did I make the right decision to apply to only one. Did I put too much stock in program location. And a bunch of other things it was too late to second guess considering it was already late January and the deadline for most programs had passed. Then I made a decision that probably wasn't the best for me mentally - I joined gradcafe. I never see it mentioned here on the site but being on here, talking to (and comparing myself to) people I'm essentially competing against was nerve-wracking. That guy has way more experience than me. He conveys his passion over writing better than I do. And even when it wasn't people in my field..you applied to 3 schools? 5 schools? 14 schools?! Man, those odds were way better than what I gave myself when I only applied to one. My stress levels skyrocketed but I was still in the same exact position of not being able to do anything but sit around and wait for a decision. Finally, after what seemed like an eternity but was only actually a couple of weeks, a decision came through. I got in! I was accepted to the program of my dreams and I was thrilled. But that feeling of pure elation barely had time to settle before I started doing more stress-provoking Google searches. Now I was comparing other programs to my own. That one offers more funding? That one pays for travel to interviews? That one offers more assistantships? All things I could do nothing to change. A few weeks later, I was able to visit my new school and meet other newly accepted students. Many of my fears were soothed. I wasn't the only one worrying about those things. I couldn't have been happier with the campus, program, and professors once I was introduced to everything in person. I didn't feel imposter syndrome even when talking with all these other great people were also admitted and the current students who seemed to be on a completely different level. After that weekend, I left completely happy with the results of my progress and have barely been on gradcafe stressing, doubting, worrying since. Now this isn't to say that I think gradcafe is bad. It's great to connect with others that are in the same situation as you, have the same interests as you, and understand the struggle of putting yourself through this rigorous process. But your own mental wellness should also be taken into account. There's always going to be someone who's application is a little stronger in some area. Maybe their GPA is one point higher or they went to a brand name school in the field or they have more research experience. But you have to trust YOUR process (not the process) and realize you have just as much right to be in the admissions pool as the next guy. The grad school process is all about selling yourself, trying to get a school to realize you're a good stock to invest in. So at the end of the day, you and the work you've done up to now are all you have to rely on so don't lose faith! You're great. Now you just have to get an adcom to realize that
  5. That's so fantastic to hear. I'm really happy things worked out for you. I wish you all the best in your academic and professional aspirations!
  6. Man, that's really rough. Most of the people that posted on this entry though, including myself, only applied to one program so I think posting this on another thread would yield much better results for you. I'll try to be of some help though. I don't have much advice for the GRE because I only took it once and ended up not even using it to apply to the program I was accepted to. But if my memory is correct, there's at least one thread specifically about the GRE on the application part of the site. As for getting the schools to see that your military service is applicable, I would try explicitly stating that somewhere in your application, if possible. Whether that be in a statement of purpose or a cover letter. The program I applied to is more objective and qualitatively based as opposed to quantitatively based though so your application process may be completely different from mine and that may not be possible. Long story short, I'm not really qualified to speak on any part of your comment and suggest you post it in another thread to yield more helpful advice.
  7. This is such a great story! I'm glad it worked out for you too. Congratulations!
  8. Hey guys! Just wanted to drop in and say I hope everyone is doing well. If you have interviews or visits coming up, may the odds be ever in your favor! Sending good vibes~~~
  9. I agree with the last point blacknighterrant made. All we can do is speculate, we can't get into the minds' of the adcom. It sounds like you put your best self forward in your application and that's all you can do. Now, you just have to sit and wait and hope. I also agree that lining up a back up plan isn't a terrible idea. Not because I think your application sounds weak but because you really never know.
  10. I think what you're essentially saying is - don't doubt yourself, reach for the stars. I 100% agree with that. The field I'm interested in, Student Affairs, is pretty different from research based fields though. While it makes sense for research focused applicants to apply to a lot of different schools because, after all, their research focuses and progress in that research is what really counts. But in SA, connections and networking matter a lot more than I think they do in those research fields. And obviously no 2 schools will have the same faculty members that teach the same way and focus on instilling the same ethical and personal values in their students because it is a very subjective field. So while applying to more schools may have made more sense in terms of increasing my probability of getting accepted, going to a school that was say my 5th choice and I was not completely thrilled with the culture of would not fulfill my wants and needs in a masters program.
  11. After being on this site for a while, I realized that applying to just one school made me one of the few, the proud, the...naive? I felt confident about me decision until I logged on here and realized people were applying to 4..5..14!? schools. And I started thinking I might have screwed myself. But then the news came -- I was accepted! To say I was elated would be an understatement. To keep what could be a long story short: No, I don't advise just applying to one school even though it worked out to me, it's always nice to have a backup plan. But if just one school gets your blood flowing, you think it'd be a fantastic fit, and you realistically think you could get in, go for it! Don't let other people psych you out. You know you better than anyone else and this is your process and yours alone. One was enough for me and I couldn't be happier with that decision.
  12. I really appreciate your thoughtful response. I actually heard back from my program last week and was accepted! I'm planning on writing a blog post about that, and a few of the things you mentioned in your response, soon.
  13. ~~~~~(Extended version)~~~~~ I was checking my email every 5 minutes or so that day as it was a Thursday and we were told to expect emails that week if we were accepted (and to wait for a letter in the mail the following week if rejected). This was the only program I applied to so I was anxious to hear back as I planned to try to put in a few more applications to other schools if rejected but those deadlines were quickly approaching. Anyway, it's Thursday. I went to take a mid day shower, got out and dressed to take my elderly father to the store and decided to check my email once more before leaving and there it was - "congratulations! You have been admitted." I was completely floored, to say the least. I smiled a smile bigger than I thought possible and said a quick prayer thanking God for allowing me the possibility and hoping to be able to pursue him and reflect well on him through my future work. I told my dad, we decided to hold off telling mom (she's a teacher and was at school). At the store, we also bought cake and ice cream and roses for mom and I cooked fdinner or her to come home to. She didn't really question anything when she came home because my parent's anniversary was the previous day. That is, until I told her she wasn't allowed to cut the cake because it was mine. She asked why I had a cake and I let my dad tell her the good news. I've never seen the two of them so proud. I'm my dad's 6th kid but the first nto ever go to jail and the first to graduate from college and the first in our family (at least 4 generations) to go to grad school.
  14. It's kinda early in the game but anyone else planning on attending?
  15. Wow! 14 is A LOT. You probably shouldn't find a few. Only applying to one worked out for me but I don't know if I'd suggest it.