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Thank you for this. This made me feel a little better. I am taking two classes and most of them are in those classes. There was a group activity today, but of course I attempted to make a group but ended up working alone. I am begining it is just how these students are as I never encountered this. *sighs* I am really missing my old university and friends. As everyone says, it takes time but it is hard to see everyone interacting and hanging out with each other and I am in the background. It is almost as if I got left behind. Even during initial orientation, I was the first to approach everyone and introduce myself and asked others about their research interests. This is the first time I ever thought about having this kind of attitude, but I am done trying with the new gradsand need to focus on my own research. They seem to already found who they want to socialize with. In time, I will go out to meet other students from entirely different programs. It would have been nice to talk about research as my family has no idea what I do or even study (I have been frowned at for going to colloege) so I cannot really talk about it with them. And my office is in another building from all the other grads. I started in the summer and everyone else started a few weeks ago so they have offices in the new building (their desks are in one big open space). On the brightside, I have a huge office to myself and bring my dog in there on the weekends when I work

Yes, the group of grads are all mixed in reguards to masters and PhD students. There is about 30 new grads this year in the college, with all differing interests and advisors. It just sucks that at meetings and social events the department holds, they go straight to their little groups. We have known each other for several weeks and I seen to be the only one who ends up alone. Even when I initiate conversations, they ignore me. Maybe I am just being too needy, but I really do not want my time here to just consist of me and my desk.

Actually, I just finished my third week and orientation started 5 weeks ago. This is probably the main reason why every has established groups already. I am always one to start conversations and approach new people, but this group is horrible for me to be myself.

I am a new graduate student in my dream school. Despite orientation and various social activities with the other new grads, I am always finding myself with no one to speak with or socialize with. Today, really hit me hard. We had a meeting and a new grad sat next to me. To be honest, I got excited to start to make a friend at my new university. Not even a second later, another group of new grads sat down and told the one who sat next to me to move and sit with them so they moved and I sat alone. Another similar experience happened earlier this week when a grad flat out ignored me and began conversing with the grad next to me. I am a very social person and had many many friends at my last university. I never felt so out of place. All the new grads made their 'groups', and it feels as if I am in high school all over again. It is to the point now that I do not arrive to class until a couple minutes before it starts to avoid being ignored, and mainly confine myself to my office to work. I have never been treated this way and do not know what to do.