Jump to content


Welcome to The GradCafe

Hello!  Welcome to The GradCafe Forums.You're welcome to look around the forums and view posts.  However, like most online communities you must register before you can create your own posts.  This is a simple, free process that requires minimal information. Benefits of membership:

  • Participate in discussions
  • Subscribe to topics and forums to get automatic updates
  • Search forums
  • Removes some advertisements (including this one!)
Guest Message © 2014 DevFuse

Icon Notices

  • [March 2012] February (and January) Stats: Did you make it to the top ten posters? Check here


The first rejection (and the emotions that follow)


  • Please log in to reply
162 replies to this topic

#1 habanero

habanero

    Double Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPip
  • 129 posts
  • LocationUnited States
  • Program:Comp Sci

Posted 19 January 2012 - 10:58 PM

Acceptance letters are beginning to make their way to students (as we can see from the survey). Instead of an acceptance, did you get a rejection? How are you holding up?


University of Illinois-UC offered me an unfunded Masters instead of a funded PhD. It was terrible to get the email, particularly because it said that I had been "accepted". Naturally, this is what my eyes gravitated to first. I rapidly fell from extreme elation to intense depression. I'm worried that this is a sign of things to come, and I'm about ready to quit my job and run away to Mexico. It's upsetting that a 330/340 GRE, excellent GPA, and 3 extremely good letters with a year+ of solid research experience isn't even sufficient to get me a spot on the wait list! I certainly always knew that 100% rejection was a possibility, but the prospect of having it become reality isn't exactly pleasant.

STAY STRONG!

Edited by habanero, 22 January 2012 - 02:41 PM.

  • 0

#2 Italophile

Italophile

    Decaf

  • Members
  • Pip
  • 23 posts
  • Program:Italian Studies

Posted 19 January 2012 - 11:04 PM

That does seem upsetting, especially if they worded it as if you were about to get everything you wanted. Generic advice would usually dictate that you should at least be grateful for having gotten in, but I sometimes get the feeling that for Masters degrees, schools can always "open up" an extra spot if they're making full tuition off of it.

It looks like you applied to plenty of other schools though! I'm sure you'll hear back some great things in the next couple of months. And a bit of advice that I always took to heart is that if you haven't gotten a couple of rejections at all, maybe you weren't aiming high enough anyway :) Keep your head up!
  • 2

#3 Grunty DaGnome

Grunty DaGnome

    Macchiato

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPipPipPip
  • 402 posts
  • LocationNortheast
  • Program:NYU, BU, BC, UMASS-Amherst, CUNY, UVA

Posted 19 January 2012 - 11:39 PM

That's just cold.
  • 0
Applied: NYU, UMASS-Amherst, CUNY, UVA, Columbia, BC, BU, Brown
Results: wash out! Let's go 2013!

#4 habanero

habanero

    Double Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPip
  • 129 posts
  • LocationUnited States
  • Program:Comp Sci

Posted 19 January 2012 - 11:44 PM

Congratulations! We are pleased to inform you that you are being recommended for admission to the Department of Computer Science










- Master of Science (MS) program at the University of Illinois Urbana Champaign beginning with the Fall 2012. With successful completion of the MS program, you can petition and with departmental approval continue on for the PhD program.
  • 0

#5 Grunty DaGnome

Grunty DaGnome

    Macchiato

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPipPipPip
  • 402 posts
  • LocationNortheast
  • Program:NYU, BU, BC, UMASS-Amherst, CUNY, UVA

Posted 19 January 2012 - 11:58 PM

It seems they made a fairly early decision in your favor, so I wouldn't consider it a consolation MA. Call the department and ask them for help finding outside grants. It's a kick in the gut, but don't roll over just yet.
  • 0
Applied: NYU, UMASS-Amherst, CUNY, UVA, Columbia, BC, BU, Brown
Results: wash out! Let's go 2013!

#6 foucaultmania

foucaultmania

    Espresso Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPip
  • 96 posts
  • Locationistanbul
  • Program:politics

Posted 20 January 2012 - 02:25 PM

It's upsetting that a 330/340 GRE, excellent GPA, and 3 extremely good letters with a year+ of solid research experience isn't even sufficient to get me a spot on the wait list! I certainly always knew that 100% rejection was a possibility, but the prospect of having it become reality isn't exactly pleasant.


Your strong profile does not say that you will be accepted. the important thing is the statement. does your research subject fit the faculty research fields?
  • 0

Accepted: McMaster - Political Science (PhD), York - Environmental Studies (PhD)

 

Attending: York


#7 Jwnich1

Jwnich1

    Latte

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPip
  • 154 posts
  • LocationNew Jersey
  • Program:Political Science

Posted 20 January 2012 - 03:05 PM

Congratulations! We are pleased to inform you that you are being recommended for admission to the Department of Computer Science










- Master of Science (MS) program at the University of Illinois Urbana Champaign beginning with the Fall 2012. With successful completion of the MS program, you can petition and with departmental approval continue on for the PhD program.


That seems like quite a let down. Perhaps phrasing it differently would have been nice. Just remember - I'm sure you will be accepted to one of your other programs. (As foucaultmania said - its all about research interests!), plus now you definitely have a program to attend should the unthinkable happen. I know this is not much of a consolation, but it's not a disaster!

Best of luck with your remaining applications!

Justin
  • 0

#8 icthere

icthere

    Caffeinated

  • Members
  • PipPip
  • 37 posts
  • Application Season:Already Attending
  • Program:Computer Science and Engineering

Posted 20 January 2012 - 05:06 PM

And a bit of advice that I always took to heart is that if you haven't gotten a couple of rejections at all, maybe you weren't aiming high enough anyway :)


Good one!
  • 1

#9 Amogh

Amogh

    Latte

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPip
  • 160 posts
  • LocationStony Brook, NY
  • Application Season:Already Attending
  • Program:PhD CS

Posted 20 January 2012 - 06:21 PM

Well look at the bright side, in the end you can go to UIUC if nothing else works out. Maybe even get funding after a semester there? Apply to external scholarships. And really don't worry. You have yet to hear from so many places!
  • 0

Fall 2012: U Michigan Ann Arbor(MS), U Wisconsin Madison(MS), U Maryland College Park(MS), Purdue University(MS), U California Sanata Barbara(MS),Utah Salt Lake(MS), UNC Chapel Hill(MS), U California Irvine(MS), SUNY Stony Brooks(MS), North Carolina State University(MS)

Final Destination: Stony Brook University, M.S. CS

I've since converted to the Ph.D. program at Stony Brook.


#10 habanero

habanero

    Double Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPip
  • 129 posts
  • LocationUnited States
  • Program:Comp Sci

Posted 21 January 2012 - 01:19 AM

Your strong profile does not say that you will be accepted. the important thing is the statement. does your research subject fit the faculty research fields?


A little less than the other schools, maybe, but it did mesh.



Thanks for the support and sweet words, y'all. I apologize for the wallowing post. :)
  • 0

#11 SocHope

SocHope

    Espresso Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPip
  • 89 posts
  • LocationCA

Posted 21 January 2012 - 04:02 AM

I don't think being offered an unfunded MA is uncommon. U Chicago often refers sociology docotoral applicants to a masters in social sciences. People on this forum have said that those who opt for the masters program often have great success in applying to doctoral programs after.
  • 0

#12 starmaker

starmaker

    Mocha

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPipPip
  • 359 posts
  • Program:Computer Science

Posted 21 January 2012 - 06:04 PM

UIUC is super-prestigious in CS (as you're probably aware). I wouldn't take it as a sign of impending 100% rejection.
  • 2

#13 Bats

Bats

    Decaf

  • Members
  • Pip
  • 18 posts

Posted 21 January 2012 - 07:28 PM

Just seeing that two people have heard fom two of my application schools has me convinced that I am out of contention everywhere. Maybe I can at least just stop thinking about it.
  • 0

#14 habanero

habanero

    Double Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPipPip
  • 129 posts
  • LocationUnited States
  • Program:Comp Sci

Posted 21 January 2012 - 10:13 PM

Bats, don't think of it like that! Maybe you have been placed on the waiting list, or maybe they have not even gotten to your application yet! Perhaps they have just offered spots to those who they already knew would be getting in (i.e. those who had already worked with the professors or those who came with funding)!!! Don't lose hope until May. Some schools are just very slow with the whole process.
  • -1

#15 axc

axc

    Caffeinated

  • Members
  • PipPip
  • 35 posts

Posted 22 January 2012 - 02:42 AM

I got a straight up, simple and automated rejection email from UCSD. All that work and I get the feeling they never bothered looking at my materials. When I read the title of the email I had a sinking feeling despite it not mentioning rejection. At first, upon reading its contents, I didn't feel anything, moments later I felt seriously depressed, hours later angry/shamed. Now, a few days later I'm back to not feeling much except a bit depressed when someone mentions my application.

Trying for UCSD in my situation was a bit of a stretch anyway, doesn't mean the rejection didn't hurt though.
  • 0

#16 bythesea

bythesea

    Espresso Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPip
  • 61 posts
  • Locationby the sea
  • Program:Education/Psychology

Posted 22 January 2012 - 05:39 AM

Hey, axc, hang in there - people here are rooting for you! I have rejections too, 2/5. I guess we'll just walk through the feelings now and then later work on the next step. Whatever happens, you will be moving forward next year, in one way or another (yeah, not much consolation right now, but....).
  • 0
Applied: 5
Accepted: (sigh) + 1

#17 Deema

Deema

    Decaf

  • Members
  • Pip
  • 8 posts

Posted 22 January 2012 - 10:14 AM

Haven't recieved a rejection yet, but the results page shows that one of my schools has gotten back to 4 students this month and the offers were made to people with numerous publications. I have none. I can almost feel the rejection email coming :( This is so depressing :(

Edited by Deema, 22 January 2012 - 10:14 AM.

  • 0

#18 Ameonna

Ameonna

    Espresso Shot

  • Members
  • PipPipPip
  • 69 posts
  • Program:Experimental Psychology (Quantitative)

Posted 22 January 2012 - 03:12 PM

Haven't recieved a rejection yet, but the results page shows that one of my schools has gotten back to 4 students this month and the offers were made to people with numerous publications. I have none. I can almost feel the rejection email coming :( This is so depressing :(


Don't give up the fight just yet! It isn't a rejection 'til the letter comes in the mail, and you never know if they might still be considering admitting more students. One possibility is that you might get waitlisted. Those people with a million publications are likely to get more than one acceptance, and there's probably a good chance that not all of them will go to this particular school. I guess the best advice I've gotten on this particular matter is to hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
  • 0
"Don't you think dreams and the internet are similar? They are both areas where the repressed conscious mind vents." -Paprika

#19 Deema

Deema

    Decaf

  • Members
  • Pip
  • 8 posts

Posted 23 January 2012 - 09:24 AM

Don't give up the fight just yet! It isn't a rejection 'til the letter comes in the mail, and you never know if they might still be considering admitting more students. One possibility is that you might get waitlisted. Those people with a million publications are likely to get more than one acceptance, and there's probably a good chance that not all of them will go to this particular school. I guess the best advice I've gotten on this particular matter is to hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

You're right, I should be more optimistic. Thank you for the words, I needed to hear them.
  • 0

#20 Abby9999

Abby9999

    Decaf

  • Members
  • Pip
  • 4 posts
  • LocationEau Claire, WI
  • Program:Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies

Posted 25 January 2012 - 12:22 AM

Hey everyone --

I was really relieved to see this thread. I've applied to four Ph.D. programs in Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies -- the University of Minnesota, Emory, Ohio State, and Arizona State. Within the last twenty hours, I've been rejected by both Minnesota and Emory. Rejection is never fun, but the first one (or, in my case, two) really stings. Plus, I can't help but feel like these two rejections are indicative of what's to come.

I've spent the last seven years of my life in Bachelor's and Master's programs with the goal of attending a Ph.D. program. I worked my butt off to receive a 4.0 in grad school and do well on the GRE. Now I feel like it may have all been for nothing. I just sort of feel like a failure, I guess. Does anyone else out there feel this way?
  • 1




0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users