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Hi all, There are a few programs which have offered me admission and I wish to decline. I have read threads on other GradCafe forums which explain how to do so tactfully, and also a great blog post here: http://science-professor.blogspot.com/2010/03/go-ahead-reject-me.html However, many have noted that programs may be interested to learn where you have decided to ultimately attend. My problem is that I have not actually made a final decision, but I know I would choose the 2-3 programs still in the running over X University's program. Given how tight knit the research community is (especially since I am a MA student with solidified interests and applied only to programs who excel in that area), how do I decline an offer quickly so as to make room for those who would like to attend, without having to show my hand? Has anyone declined offers so far? Was this even an issue for you? Thanks in advance for your responses!

This sounds like great advice. I am a bit worried because as of now it seems like the ideal program that is the best fit also has the lowest stipend, and is in the most expensive area. Of course my first concern is the fit and quality of the program, but I can't afford to take out more loans to supplement a small stipend. I was definitely planning on treading lightly if I brought this up at all. It is such a highly ranked/regarded program that I don't want to seem ungrateful for the offer. Thanks for the advice!

Hi all, Looking for advice from folks who have been, or are currently in this situation. I have multiple offers from several really great programs, and fortunately they keep coming in. One of my contacts mentioned I should reach out to him if I need to talk about the "competitiveness of their offer." The thought had never occurred to me. My question is this: If the programs who have accepted me seem extremely interested in getting me to join the incoming cohort, what is negotiable as far as terms of the contract? Is it appropriate to mention that other departments have offered a larger stipend? Does this look bad (i.e. wrong priorities) or could it be construed as offensive? If I am able to negotiate, what is the most tactful way of doing so and who exactly should I contact? Thanks in advance!