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    American students are nice but sometimes they are unapproachable Just like students from *any* country...? Is it American's TRADITION for an american to take a stranger home for the Thanksgiving meal without permission from his parents? Why are you generalizing to other Americans from the experiences you had with ONE American roommate? Some American young women might do things like this...most probably wouldn't. It seems that she was trying to be nice to you by bringing you to Thanksgiving dinner, but she was inconsiderate to her own family by not warning you ahead of time. You had a negative experience with your American friend, which is sad, but that doesn't mean that you have to assume that any and all American friends you made would treat you that way. Either way, I don't know what you mean by 'I don't know how to handle native American students.' We're people, just like any other people - some of us are outgoing and approachable and others are a little more introverted and solitary. You have to find your niche with students who are interested in the things you are interested in. Attend social events at your university, go to the gym, go to bars or restaurants or coffee shops or wherever it is people in your university town meet people.
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    One out, one in

    Two weeks ago I was rejected from the University of Toronto. Thankfully their letter was not snarky or mean, but it was short and I feel like I wasted too much of my time impatiently waiting - not to mention the couple hundred dollars I spent to apply and to have a copy of my transcripts sent. I wasn't too discouraged when I first received the rejection, it wasn't my top choice of school and I had a conditional acceptance elsewhere. But, as time passed, I soon became more and more worried about my situation come the fall. The rejection slowly ate away at my self confidence concerning my acceptance at City University London, especially since I had that panic a few weeks back. From the realization I might not be going to grad school, to the blow of a rejection I have realized a couple of things. I want this degree, and the career that comes with it more than anything. At first I was most excited about the prospect of moving to London, or Toronto, places that I have dreamed about moving to for years. I forgot that this was all about my education. After the scare of not going I remembered what it really was about. Education and then career. I'm not going into academia like many of the other people here, but in Canada a Master's degree is worth it's weight in Tuition. Since I feared rejection from both schools so badly I began on my quest to learn the content I needed to succeed in the career of my choice, not an easy feat when you only possess about half the skills required (for those of you curious, I want to be a UX Designer/Researcher eventually becoming a freelance consultant in the field, something where I only possess the knowledge of Human Factors, and no design experience . . . about 50% of what I need to get a job). I could do it alone, but I'd rather go to school. It has been a whirlwind of a month, to say the least, my emotions have been all over the place in regards to this grad school thing. Additionally I am dealing with the repercussions of graduating during an economic downturn. I haven't worked for 3 months now and my bank account is running on empty. Thankfully my parents were more than happy to have me move back into their home, even if I am stuck in the now spare bedroom (which used to belong to my sister) because my room has been transferred to someone else. The situation has all culminated to this morning, when I got my long awaited UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE to City University London. The financial fears have long been dealt with, and I've already paid a deposit on a place to live so I needn't worry about that anymore either. AS of 12:30 today I began working on gathering my things for a Tier 4 VISA to the UK, and applying for OSAP (Ontario Student Assistance Program) once again - the fifth time in my life I've completed this task. The next couple of weeks are going to be filled with embassy and bank visits, and browsing the many websites which allow me to search for the cheapest possible flight to Heathrow. I'm feeling like a huge bundle of nerves from the excitement, and fear. But mostly I'm glad I don't have to keep trying to learn design on my own - I'll have a well versed professor helping me out in a couple of months. Now, to start brainstorming on a dissertation topic. Thank you to everyone who has followed along on this journey with me. I am so glad for all your kind words, and encouragement, as well as helpful advice and ideas for what I could do if I didn't make it in. This community is so wonderful and I am so glad to have found it to help me out.
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    Tall Chai Latte

    I got scooped

    Thanks everyone for your encouragement and support. Sigh, I'm not sure what to think now. Nothing is ever transparent when it comes to project details and potential outside collaborations with my PI, and I feel this will become a bigger problem in the future. I tried to approach my PI with this, but apparently I got the impression that I've overstepped my boundary, and I only need to "just do your experiments". While I do have other projects that I can based my thesis on, I find it difficult to carry on without fully trusting the PI. People always put their own interests first. I just had to learn it the hard way.
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    Gap Year Reading Suggestions?

    I agree with some of these but I also think it is worthwhile to read them on your own and see what get out of them. Foucault can be difficult, for example, but some of the best analysis I've ever seen is by people otherwise unfamiliar with his work. I also don't think it ever hurts to read these types of books more than once and in different contexts.
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    What Ph.D. programs are realistic?

    Hi texasteacher, Regardless of one's "greatness" in terms of academics, which can be measured in different and sometimes conflicting ways, I think anyone who responds to you and says you can attend this university or that university for sure is blowing smoke to say the least. Graduate school admissions vary greatly by university, or even by department or program, so there are no absolutes. It seems like most grad schools use a holistic approach, choosing candidates who have a number of strengths (or perhaps strengths in certain highly regarded areas). That said, you're in control of a number of the creation of several variables, even if you aren't the one who is actually evaluating them. The masters from Teachers College certainly is a positive CV item, as is the teaching experience you mentioned. Your GRE score is also something within your power to change, and you may want to consider putting some time into GRE prep and retaking the test since you have the summer to do this before the application cranks into gear again. Again, how much the GRE weighs in to the admission decision varies greatly from program to program, but you can retake the GRE and use the best scores, so it's at least worth considering. The biggest things in my mind, and I suspect some of the readers might agree, are the more subjective elements of your applications, namely your statement of purpose and your fit with the programs to which you apply. Your statement is hugely important, as it should outline your experiences and your research/career goals. Departments will use this evaluate your fit with the program and the school, in a manner that is much more engaging than a silly GRE school or university GPA. If you can use your statement to demonstrate that your research interests match well with one or more faculty members affiliated with the program, I have to believe that this is going to carry more weight than the difference between a 2.5 and a 3.0 alone, just to name one arbitrary statistic. If "big time" is what you're after, I would recommend vetting a number of schools that meet your general criteria, and then applying to a number as well. In my own search this past year, I only applied to three schools, two of which were highly selective (University of Pennsylvania, Teachers College) and one that is far less so (University of New Mexico--I was admitted there previously five years ago). Given the chance to repeat the application--and the desire to put up with the waiting and everything!!--I would surely apply to additional schools to increase my chances of making something work out. As things stood, I was interested only in certain schools, and I was fortunate that something worked out for me. I wouldn't leave things as much to chance if I applied again. Rather than list schools "in your range," I think you should pick schools that YOU want to go to, that are a GOOD fit, and that encompass a range of different institutions--be it highly selective, moderately selective, and maybe even schools you like that are not selective. People here may give you their opinions, but few if any of them are admissions officers or affiliated with graduate departments and their admissions decisions, so what they say is only worth so much. It definitely isn't worth your interests and what you feel is a good fit.
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    You pretty much hit the nail on the head. Ph.D programs are pretty hard to get into, and as it stands, you don't have very much to show that you're qualified for a Ph.D program. You don't have to know exactly what you want to do going into a program, but most programs need to know that you a) understand what linguistics is and have potential in succeeding as a scholar. Although many people come to linguistics from a variety of disciplines (math, computer science, foreign languages), they usually have to have some demonstrated familiarity with the field before getting into the field. What classwork have you taken so far in linguistics proper? In fact, how certain are you that linguistics (rather than "applied" linguistics/TESOL/SLA) is right for you? Do you know what kind of direction you want to go in, for example, what subfield you want to study or what questions you want to answer? If you can't answer this, then you almost certainly need to take more coursework, but from what I can tell from your post, your interests seem bent towards L2 acquisition. If that's the case, SLA programs would be better for your interests than linguistics programs (which tend to focus on L1's). Here are a couple of SLA programs I know: Arizona: http://slat.arizona.edu/prospective-students Indiana: http://www.indiana.edu/~dsls/ Maryland: http://www.sllc.umd.edu/sla Contrast these programs with linguistics programs at the same schools: Arizona: http://linguistics.arizona.edu/node/541 Indiana: http://www.indiana.edu/~lingdept/ Maryland: http://ling.umd.edu/about/ Also, you didn't mention research. One of the best ways to increase your chances of getting into a program is getting experience with research and many skills are transferrable. If you haven't already, ask the linguistics faculty (if there are any in your school!) if they know of any research opportunities.
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    Fall 2014 applicants??

    OK this is one of those DUH THIS IS SO OBVIOUS WHY HAVEN'T I BEEN DOING THIS ALL ALONG moments, but here is what I just realized: The BEST way to find POIs is to do this very simple thing, go on the department website and look at the past few years of courses, and figure out which courses look the most interesting to you, and see which professors teach those courses. VOILA. I mean, seriously, I'm sure many other applicants already realized this was the thing to do, but I've been parsing through those one paragraph self-descriptions instead of just checking out courses. I was doing it all wrong! Anyway, thought I would share this forehead-slapping discovery with you all. Edit: Make sure you look at only the graduate-level classes, those are the ones taught by the big guns. Another big duh, but you know, sometimes the obvious things just slip right by us.
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    Looking for Ph.D Programs

    We are all impressed
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    The Next Step: Fall 2013ers

    Sure thing! Unfortunately, our first offer didn't go through. Fortunately, we had a second house we really liked, so we are waiting to hear back. Turns out, obsessively watching HGTV doth not a real estate expert make. Edit: WE GOT A HOUSE! In Washington DC! Wow. Just, wow.
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    practical cat

    The Next Step: Fall 2013ers

    I have an apartment and the kitchen is magnificent. (As is the pizza place around the corner.)
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    Ozymandias Melancholia

    Romantic Literature

    Hello, It varies depending on how you'd want to approach Romanticism. Most schools rarely have more than three Romanticist, so it might be difficult to locate a scholar whose work directly aligns with yours. That said, I haven't had too much trouble finding suitable programs that could match my intellectual needs. At any rate, here are some schools to consider: UC has several very prominent Romantic scholars, such as James Chandler and Frances Ferguson, among more. Also, check out UCLA and Berkeley. Kevis Goodman, who teaches at the latter, is amazing. UW-M is pretty good, too. CUNY. Rutgers. Duke. UNC-Chapel Hill. Duke. UT. Boston College is also worth checking out. I hope this helps.
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    Program suggestions, please.

    I found a bundle of professors/programs for you: Petra Dierkes-Thrun, Comparative Literature, Stanford (https://www.stanford.edu/dept/DLCL/cgi-bin/web/people/petra-dierkes-thrun) Elsie Michie, English (Women's and Gender Studies specialization), LSU -She doesn't mention New Woman lit as one of her research interests, but she directed a student's dissertation on New Woman lit in 2006. Beth S. Newman, English, Southern Methodist University -Teaches an undergrad course on New Woman lit Talia Schaffer, English, CUNY Graduate Center Elizabeth Carolyn Miller, English, UC Davis -Wrote a book entitled: Framed: The New Woman Criminal in British Culture at the Fin de Siecle Maurizia Boscagli, English, UCSB -UCSB has a graduate minor in Gender Studies Holly A. Laird, English, Tulsa -Teaches a graduate-level course involving New Woman lit and Fin de Siècle Joseph Bristow, English, UCLA -Teaches a undergrad course on Victorian Lit involving fin-de-siecle and the rise of the New Woman Emily Harrington, English, Penn State Also check out: Notre Dame's PhD in Literature. They 'accomodate' you and give you freedom to research many different areas in combination, with fin de siecle mentioned as an example. Wayne State University's PhD in English. They have a graduate-level course involving fin de siecle/New Woman lit, and a PhD minor/cognate in Gender, Sexuality, and Women's Studies Rutgers' PhD in English. Also offers a graduate certificate in Women's and Gender Studies. Sources: https://www.google.com/search?q=fin+de+siecle&oq=fin+de+siecle&aqs=chrome.0.57&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8#newwindow=1&sclient=psy-ab&q=%22new+woman%22+%22fin+de+siecle%22+%22PhD+program%22+OR+%22Ph.D.+program%22+site:.edu+-academia&oq=%22new+woman%22+%22fin+de+siecle%22+%22PhD+program%22+OR+%22Ph.D.+program%22+site:.edu+-academia&gs_l=serp.3...25536.33888.6.34316.,or.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.47534661,d.dmg&fp=25f6a726e19c6949&biw=1396&bih=1164 https://www.google.com/search?q=fin+de+siecle&oq=fin+de+siecle&aqs=chrome.0.57&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8#newwindow=1&sclient=psy-ab&q=%22fin+de+siecle%22+literature+%22PhD+program%22+OR+%22Ph.D.+program%22+site:.edu+-academia&oq=%22fin+de+siecle%22+literature+%22PhD+program%22+OR+%22Ph.D.+program%22+site:.edu+-academia&gs_l=serp.3...93612.96941.8.97196.,or.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.47534661,d.dmg&fp=25f6a726e19c6949&biw=1396&bih=1164 I recommend looking through that second link. There's probably a lot more. Note: I understand you are looking for Mid-Tier programs, but I am not in this field, so I don't know what programs would be considered Mid-Tier.
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    Virginia Tech

    Hi All, I shall be attending VT as a grad student in EE, Fall '13. Could anyone give me any pointers (or any helpful links on the internet) about whether to go for On Campus housing or Off Campus. I am what they would call a mature student (34 y.o.), Male, from India. I would want a room and bathroom to myself, apart from that I'm pretty flexible. I would prefer someone near about my age (25+would be good, but as long as the room mates are quiet and sane, I don't particularly care). How do I go about finding suitable accommodation? I already did extensive Google search on "graduate/housing/room mates" but all it took me to was VT's own links. I would like to know of any sites where there are reviews and active users seeking room mates. Thanks!
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    Simply familiarising myself with the work (past and present) of faculty members who are of interest to me. Also keeping up with general things in my discipline. And working on French. Duolingo is wonderful.
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    Signing emails with "Best"

    Everybody does it. It's like saying 'have a great day!' to service providers or signing your email with '(warm) regards.' It's a polite communications convention. Trust me, you wouldn't like it if everyone signed the email with what they really think about you! Don't you think you're reading too much into this?
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    I fail to see the problem.
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    Thank you guys for your suggestions and contributions. I eventually graduated this Spring semester. But, it took great efforts from the Provost as well as the Provost's Associate to assist me graduate despite all efforts made by my advisor not to let me. As you guys suggested, I already quit the program before getting to know the University's ombudsman. I was able to set up appointment with him and eventually convinced him that my advisor is deliberately making me not to graduate I knew that certainly I had to stop working with my advisor 'cos his support is annually. By last Fall, I had no obligation with him. The only outstanding issue I was having with him was for him to sign my thesis. The University ombudsman took up my case seriously. I was in touch with him till I graduate and later I started talking with the Provost directly. Sometime last semester, the Provost got in touch with my advisor to give the reason in writing why he did not pay for my last Spring tuition on time. Well, he gave flimsy excuse 'cos he knew the Provost would be on him since he cannot use his grants to pay for any past semester. Somehow, the Provost paid all my tuition and fees till I graduated this Spring semester. I am so glad the Provost and the University ombudsman understood my situation perfectly. It only took one meeting for them to understood what I was passing through. I got to know later that the school's admins are aware of how this prof take advantage of students. They told me they were glad I reported to them and that they wished previous students had open up as well to the Provost. Thank you guys once again for your suggestions, I appreciate.
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    We did the trip (~22 hours, not including stops or getting stuck in traffic) with our small dog last summer. Some thoughts: - Read up on what pet-friendly food can be calming (special treats, parsley, etc) or they especially like and prepare special treats to give at rest stops (if your cats aren't the sort to throw up, I made up peanut butter and dried liver kongs) - Screw on "coop cups" are a great idea for water/ice cubs. This is the one we use http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000GDVUE6 - Take a bottle of your home water to slowly introduce pets to new water - I *highly* recommend a solid vari kennel/plastic shell crate over a soft crate, and especially loose or harnesses. If you are in an accident, your pets will be contained and are more likely to be protected than a soft or non-existent crate. They're just good to have around if you are in area where you could potentially have to evacuate because of weather as some rescues/shelters will only take pets if - Pack more food in accessible than you need for the trip by at least 2 days (I think I packed for 3 because I wasn't sure how fast we would unpack). Travel food cups are nice too if you normally use larger bowls. - Make an ICE packet to attach to the kennel with the following information- names, physical descriptions, and photos of all animals, DOB, important medical information (allergies, current vet contact info, etc), emergency contact info, permission to treat up to X amount if you are unable to give verbal permission, etc. Because of the contract we signed to adopt our dog I also have a statement saying if we are unable to provide future care (ie dead) she is to be returned to such-and-such rescue and the following phone numbers. This one sounds like overkill but I'm paranoid that we'll be in an accident and she'll be in limbo since we haven't drafted a will yet. - Towels and potty training pads are excellent to line crates with, wouldn't hurt to put one near the opener sides of/underneath the crate.
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    If there's nothing like an essay to re-grade, I don't think you'll have much luck... and I don't think one grade will make much of a difference long-term anyway, especially if you're not going to grad school for German. You could perhaps ask to go over what you were scored down for and then retake the oral, but I don't think you'll get very far. A friend of mine is a TA, and a kid complained that he did better than other people but got a worse grade (he didn't take into account how different portions of the grad were weighted). When the TA said the grade was legit, he went behind her back and emailed the prof, who of course forwarded the email to the TA, who told him the same thing as before, but was ticked off this time for his bad move. He then replied that it was "an obvious displace of corruption." Seriously? Weighting that was outlined in the syllabus since the beginning of the year is corruption? What an entitled douche! Don't be that guy.
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    Vocabulary is still very important for the GRE. However, compared to the old GRE -- esp. those pesky antonyms! -- the new GRE allows you to rely on context. For those who are avid readers of The Economist and magazines of its ilk, being able to rely on context is a boon. The other piece of good news is that much of the archaic and formal vocabulary that had crept into the old GRE (basically as a result of everyone cramming most of the high-frequency vocabulary) is absent from the new GRE. As long as you can recognize most of the words in a edition of the New York Times you should be fine. The only downside to Revised GRE's emphasis on context would be for those who were good at devouring stacks of flashcards, but who didn't really have a good sense of how those words functioned in context. If you fall into this group--or even if you were planning to use only flashcards for vocab prep--I'd encourage you to use the web to help give you a more fully developed sense of how words function in context. One such tool, wordnik.com, provides plenty of example sentences drawn from the web. Also, you can go to nytimes.com and enter a word into a search box and you will get scores of example sentences. If no sentences come up for that word -- or if that word has only popped up one or twice in the last few years -- then that word is far too esoteric and in all likelihood won't show up on the GRE. As for as actual GRE vocab resources go, I'd recommend the Manhattan flashcards (as one student mentioned). These flashcards provide excellent example sentences, so you'll learn how a word functions in context. What I wouldn't recommend are the 3,500 or 4,500 word lists, which offer vague definitions, little to no context, and obscure words that wouldn't pop up on the GRE.
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    Studying for the GRE Thread

    I don't recommend this book for those who are comfortable with math, but the Cliff Notes, "Math Review for Standardized Tests," is an excellent place to start if you haven't touched math in years! By the old GRE scale just going through this book alone should get you somewhere in the 600s. Of course, everyone wants to be in the 700s, so you need to do more than just this book.
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    (the following is in no way meant to disparage any previous posters) While I'm sure that on occasion reverse academic snobbery exists, I think more often than not it's a phenomenon much like "reverse racism" - in that the very people who feel they are being wronged are in fact simply worried they will not get the advantage they feel they are owed. I'm not an anti-intellectual, and there is certainly a strange cultural undertow which sometimes makes me feel as if I'm swimming upstream when I strive to be well informed, articulate, and logical. For example, the constant need for politicians in America to make a big show of being "plain spoken" and folksy. So in a broad sense, yes, I think culturally there is an annoying smart vs. "real" perception problem. But, on an individual basis, I have to assume everyone is trying their best. I just assume an intentional posture of niavete in order to not become an ass-hat myself. Because for me it is better to assume if someone boasts to me that they would never be bothered to read a book that perhaps they have an undiagnosed learning disability, or an incredible strength in art, or simply a strong preference for auditory learning but they listen to pod casts religiously - whatever, than to assume they are just a big stupid idiot who hates smart people. I barely graduated high school, I'm the only one of my friends from that period of my life who did finish high school, I married a high school drop out, and I spent much of a decade working in a hair salon. Many of my clients were college students, graduate students, law students, or scientists from the nearby national lab. The most articulate, interesting, and accomplished people also tended to be the people who just spoke to me like I was a person and were completely unconcerned with impressing me or impressing upon me the importance of education. Occasionally I had a jackass in my chair, and it's 50/50 that person thought I was an elitist high brow snob or an uneducated idiot rube. I have strong feelings about this, because I've been on both sides, and have been perceived as being on both sides the entire time depending on who I was with and what I was doing. In the end I found that as with anything, you won't change anyone who isn't interested, who has their guard up, and the more you push the more they will build up a defense against you and what you represent. If you have a jackass in your salon chair, or in your life, treat them well until you get get them out the door and don't let them back. And if you're dealing with a non-jackass, don't push an agenda or a belief system, and if someone is interested in your views, your beliefs, or your value system (including placing a high value on education) they will see that in your actions and ask you directly if they want to know more. (All this is, of course, just one blue collar lady's opinion)
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    The general chatter that I have come across over the past couple years of research into Grad programs is that if you received your BA from an ivy or from a top Leiter department, you can most likely get accepted into a PhD. program without the MA. But, I know the MA route is becoming more common. I think admission committees view it more positively than negatively these days. A few factors in this change of perception regarding the MA would be that admission committees feel safer accepting some one with an MA because they can assume that that student got a 'taste' for grad work in the MA and the fact that they are still applying to the PhD. means they have some sense of what they are in for. Another reason, which I think is an overall plus of doing an MA anyways, is simply that you are exposed to more philosophy. Maybe you have time to go back and read the Critique of Pure Reason, or take another course in ancient philosophy. Whatever the case may be, the MA gives you the chance to do more philosophy, and that always looks good on an application (provided you have good letters, of course). That's just my take. Of course, MA route is often unfunded and expensive and thus prone to aversion... and I am not so sure about what LawrenceVonBuskirk said about that reasoning at Vanderbilt... as far as I know, most programs will still expect you to get their MA equivalent in your first couple years into the PhD., and thus i believe they will still be funding you for those early years. It's not as if they just accept the MA and then automatically kick you into 3rd year PhD. work. Sure, you might be able to get credit for a course or two, but I think it's still common practice to expect you to complete their MA. It's also advisable to mention in your SOP that you are 'excited' to continue to take taught courses, even though you may have the MA already, just makes you appear eager for more philosophy: which we all are.
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    Virginia Tech

    For houses, I would suggest Hethwood or Woodbine, both are nice places. I lived in Hethwood, its about a 5-10 minute drive from campus. For apartments, Foxridge is the nicest place in my opinion (It's right next to Hethwood). In terms of daycare, Rainbow Riders is definitely the best, but I've heard that it is difficult to get into so I would check them out as soon as possible. I wouldn't necessarily live in Christiansburg, but if that is the best pricing, etc, then it is only a 15 minute drive to tech (just get on 460 and go a couple exits down).
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    Hi... I am new here but wanted to give my stats as a sub 3.0 undergrad Undergrad- Chemistry 2.7 overall, 3.0 in sciences Masters GPA =3.6 Biology GRE-V=158 ,Q=155 writing =4.5 Work experience- 3 years as a teaching assistant/tutor both at undergraduate and graduate level, professional work experience in the chemical environment working as a lab manager Research conducted at both undergrad and grad levels- working on a paper for grad level Applied to all Ph.D. UIC-GEMS=Pharmacology, UCincinnati- Pathology, U of Louisville- IGPBM- Pharmacology, Rosalin Franklin- Pharmacology, Purdue- PULSE program, NIU- Biochem, IIT- Biochem, Rush- Pharmacology Results UIC, NIU- waitlisted Rejected from UCincinnati, Purdue, RF and probably Rush( havent heard boo word back from them) Accepted to IIT for a second masters( declined), U of Louisville Ph.D fully funded and accepted I am still hoping for UIC so i wont have to move, but frankly a change would do me good ( love the Sheryl Crow song) I think what helped me was taking a break after undergrad to work and really get my priorities in order then returning to a mid institution to get a masters and show what i can handle. I also think not getting overly adventurous with where i was applying given my undergrad issues helped me a lot to gain acceptance to a good(in my opinion) school. While I am doing well in my MS program, when i interviewed i still had to account for issues in my past. I think it is best to acknowledge them and move forward and show who you are now is not who you were before. My next step is to move up a realm for the post-doc to a UChicago or Rush or something like that. For me the journey has been taking baby steps to where i want to be and it has worked for me thus far. Happy Acceptance Times Pp1
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    I have to say, Gentlelife, I was giving you the benefit of the doubt based on your original post. Given your clarifications, however, I think you're being both a bit judgmental and a bit oversensitive. You went to bed early when someone asked if you were tired based on a fragment of a conversation you heard earlier that you interpreted as them wanting to "send you to bed". You are upset that she didn't tell you that she hadn't told her parents, because you view this as "unacceptable behavior". What she did or didn't tell her parents was between her and her parents, and not really for you to judge. From what you've written, her family seemed quite friendly and accommodating to you. If they hadn't been due to short notice on your roommates part, I could see a reason for you to get in the middle of it, but otherwise how/when she chose to tell her parents is something between her and them. I'd also say there's a difference between her parents being "unwelcoming" and wanting to get some alone time with their daughter who's away at school. It seems overall like you're trying to apply the cultural mores you're most familiar with to everyone else you're interacting with, and judging their behavior based on that. When you're in a new cultural environment, you should try to learn how that culture operates, and adjust your expectations accordingly. When I'm overseas, I don't expect everyone to act the way I'm used to or would think was culturally acceptable, I try to learn what is considered culturally acceptable where I am. As the saying goes, "When in Rome, do as the Romans do".
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    I'm not sure if this is due to a language difficulty or not, but this phrasing right here makes it seem like you don't really care to learn about American culture or the ways in which Chinese and American culture differ -- you just want to declare that you are categorically "right," and desire commiseration in that respect. Speaking as someone who has been an international student before (in China, no less), you'll find it is much easier to get by in a foreign country once you stop thinking of their culture as inferior to your own or somehow less-evolved/less-civilized. What you think is "careless" or "poor-people-skills" is really just "not-Chinese-culture." There is nothing wrong with a culture being different from your own. Accept that it is different, and that it is what it is, and learn to work within those parameters -- not against them. It can be challenging, especially when things that are considered normal in one culture would be denigrated in your own, but that doesn't mean they're wrong. Part of the beauty and the educational value of being an international student is being exposed to different cultures and different ways of life.
  28. 1 point
    I have to say, I really don't see how inviting you to thanksgiving dinner without aking her parents was rude to you... Ive done it lots of times with a variety of International students. As for them canceling games on your account- that could be viewed as either rude or quite accommodating to you, not doing things that you couldnt participate in. As to it not having to do with culture shock- it really does. You see it as a large deviation to have brought you without asking her parents, but it doesn't seem very out of place to me. Just my thoughts. I enjoy it when my Chinese lab ages invite me to do things with them, and I don't consider it rude if they only talk in English half the time or less. I still appreciate the invitation, and the time during the activity that they do spend talking in English so I can follow the conversation
  29. 1 point
    I am an American student doing a double master's in France and Germany, and I have had plenty of culture shock to go around. The French can be especially difficult, even when you speak the language well - to them, you'll never be Français. It's just a fact you have to live with! So I learned to have a sense of humor (albeit a French sense of humor, which involves a bit of bitchiness - not at all my personal style, but I saw it as an investment to get my hands a little dirty). I'm in Germany now and Germans are much closer to Americans in terms of personal style and directness, but they, like the French, often start off on the wrong foot vis-a-vis my Americanness...they always want to tell jokes about fat Americans who don't want to walk anywhere, don't speak foreign languages, are too loud, etc. To our Asian guests, welcome to the U.S., and I can guarantee that Americans are slightly more complex than they seem - most U.S. students grew up in a bit of a cocoon, and think that if someone doesn't speak their language or follow their mores, then they should be happy to get any attention at all; that's the somewhat regrettable conclusion. However, one piece of advice that I will offer, and that I have learned for myself, is try to learn to joke around in English. Just do it. No matter how hard it is, no matter if you trip over yourself, do as one poster said - put your head above your heart. If you can hybridize your identity between your own culture and American culture, and can do so in an expressive way, Americans will love you. I learned to do this in France by drinking wine with friends. I started off getting so annoyed when people would drone on and on about American ignorance. I would react when people would correct my accent (grammar is one thing, but accent...c'mon, I'm never going to be French), and it got me nowhere. So, I learned to joke and laugh - sometimes *at* people, sometimes with them, and sometimes at myself. And somehow, after a few weeks of this, it clicked, and I was finding it easier to get over my own anxiety in many situations; my French was getting better because I stopped thinking so much; and I was making a lot more French friends, with whom I could practice and improve my French. I realize this is not the best solution, and will not immediately erase the pain that you felt at being excluded. But if you learn to laugh at some things, and even to assert yourself a little bit, you'll find most Americans are a lot more responsive than you thought, especially if you can still show that you respect their boundaries. You have chosen to be in the country for a few years - I chose to be in Europe for 2 years (without money, without a program of other Americans to connect with) and at one point, I just had to drop the pretense and learn to embrace the role of the joking, dumb foreigner who is at least interactive. It was a good choice, at least for my situation. Best of luck for you guys.
  30. 1 point

    What's your specialization?

    Yeah, distributed morphology is a bear. I spent almost half a quarter studying it in a syntax class though, so that'll tell you where IT lies at least. On another subject, I've had this conversation too many times: "I'm particularly interested in phonology." "Wait, what? You mean . . . analyzing the bumps on people's heads?" At that point I have to just say yes and offer to do a reading.
  31. -1 points
    Apparently, there's something I need to clarify here. My original post does not go down into specifics...My bad... I've never denied the fact that my housemate was quite open-minded because I do sense that she endeavored to do all she could to make me feel welcomed, to make me feel at home away from home. Meanwhile, as I mentioned previously, I cheerfully accepted her invitation with pleasure and have always been willing to embrace exotic culture. I was happy to go to dinner with her and I personally believed this could be a golden opportunity to get involved. However, if I knew she hadn't actually asked her parents if I could come, instead of turning her down, I would probably want her to get permission from her parents. I believe thanksgiving dinner is a big deal in America and her parents had every reason to be informed of me showing up ahead of time. I don't think giving her parents a call just before we finally arrived was acceptable. As I could only hear her part of conversation between she and her parents, I did feel bad that I was unwelcomed by her parents. Her mother might ask her where I was on the phone, and my housemate's reply to that was that I was with her and her boyfriend in the car. After that, they began to discuss some mundane issue, i.e what language do I speak? At the end of the conversation, she SIGHED and told her mom that I would stay with them after dinner for only a few games and then I would go to bed. After talking to her mom, my housemate bagan to explain what we were gonna do after dinner, told me the rules of some games I was expected to be a part of. I then spent the rest of our journey in the car preparing... But after the dinner, I just had a small talk with her father, and then was asked if I was tired and if I wanted to go to bed. Though they were not that straightforward, I did feel like they were eager to send me to bed. That night I shared the same room with my housemate (BTW I am a guy) and her boyfriend. They went to the room with me and I settled myself in bed for sleep. They had been inside the room with me barely ten minutes when my housemate received a call from her mother to ask her to take her boyfriend out at 11 p.m, and upon that time I was confirmed that her parents didn't actually want me to be included while my housemate did want me to join them with the game. I felt terribly bad that night and regretted having coming with her for the dinner. I admit that I was unhappy with my housemate taking me to dinner without letting her parents know in advance. The biggest challenge I've been encountering is that I can never handle a bunch of people in the US as we are living in "a small social group". I'm not handling an isolated person living on an isolated island. It is my pleasure to know of someone broad-minded and frank disposition but if my housemate could me a little more considerate, I might not be hurt. They are some other awkward occasions I've experienced, and honestly I felt uncomfortable with some of her words and behaviours as well...(she should look at the face of her boyfriend's when she picked up a chat with me on some sensitive topic and when she did something with me around! Americans give me the impression of being too careless) That's why I find americans are somewhat difficult to deal with in genral...
  32. -1 points
    Well, it is true that I am the only child of my family, but I am by no means "a spoilt kid". No one has never got hurt since he left his mother's protective shelter but it is human nature to be self-defensive. I never take it for granted that I should be invited, and I do be grateful to those kind offer, but surely I'll not accept any "humiliating" offer. A red carpet welcome? Your buddy or female friend would not make that remark if he or she faces that situation. This has nothing to do with one-child policy. Many Chinese students do compare the bad of America with the good of China, which I admit is bad, but in this case, I'm talking about culture, or people skill if you would like to call it that way. Mind you asians might be the most sensitive people in the world while Americans are really just careless.
  33. -1 points

    Breaking up with programs

    Good for you that you got accepted to that many programs, but to the point that your letters of rejection would be stained with tears is a bit extreme (and it's greedy on your part to want to send clones of yourself...).
  34. -1 points
    Please try not to be biased for this poll...

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