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    I find that a lot of passive-aggressive people quail before a direct question/confrontation. Usually when someone makes a snide response or refuses to commit, I just look them straight in the eye and say something along the lines of, "Is that really true/what you really mean? I'm sorry, but I can't believe that/accept that as an answer." Most of them get ashamed and break eye contact and try to slither away because they aren't used to being called out on their bullshit. Being nicely passive-aggressive back is exactly what they expect, but if you respond candidly and with straightforwardness, you will put them off balance and they will have no choice but to do the same.
  2. 3 points

    We're in - now Preparing?

    I've been reading several SLP grad student blogs and one thing that seems to be a recurring theme is An Advanced Review of Speech-Language Pathology: Preperation for PRAXIS and Comprehensive Exam (it's purple and yellow). I put it on my wishlist for graduation and have been reading it ever since! It contains basically everything we learned in undergrad with more detail as it is used to prepare for the PRAXIS. Every grad blog mentions it and how they wish they had purchased it before starting grad school so they could have used it to reference and better understand material in their courses. I love it so far! It is a great tool to refresh your memory on topics you may have forgotten or need practice with! Plus, you'll likely purchase it down the road to help practice so might as well buy it now Oh, and you are not the only nervous one!! This is all so exciting but the wait makes me nervous. I want to start already lol GOOD LUCK!!!
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    How To Handle Passive-Aggressive People

    Horse head at the foot of the bed.
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    Proficiency Tests

    Buy a copy (credit card, if you have one) and make sure it stays in excellent condition. If you don't need it anymore, drop the price by a few dollars and sell it to another student.
  5. 2 points
    It *can* be ignoring someone. But it's "an indirect expression of hostility", like being sarcastic, "making jokes", procrastinating because you know it will harm the other person, being resentful, sullen, stubborn, and then using it to inflict upon someone else like intentional inefficiency or sabotaging work, or planned lateness. In other words, being a complete pain in the ass in such a way that it's harder to prove you're doing anything wrong. But it wouldn't, say, be the same as dealing with different regional or even country-based work attitudes (like, say, the commonalities of being indirect in East Asian countries, group work, and "saving face" is not the same because no one is being hostile directly or indirectly, and in actuality, being indirect prevents actions seen as hostile), being passive aggressive is not avoiding conflict but creating conflict indirectly. All that said, I usually maintain a policy of being direct and open with people. If (and when) they become passive aggressive, I look to see if they are actually going to cause me any problems outside of being annoying. If I can "fix" any problems they create by not relying on them, I do so. If I have to rely on them anyways, that's when I'd speak with a supervisor, etc.
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    I'm from a part of the country where "passive-aggressive" is the default, or rather the default mannerisms are similar enough that outsiders can't tell the difference. I don't generally notice this behavior or see it as a problem unless someone else points out specific examples and explains why that causes them problems. So it not implausible that you could be making a tempest in a teacup over situations like this. The "offender" may be behaving normally from his/her perspective, and the passive-aggresiveness is only in the eye of the beholder. And even if this person is directing such behavior at you intentionally, isn't that better than the alternatives? Personally, I prefer folks that act in the way I was acculturated to expect (which I view as a way of being polite and professional even when you dislike or don't respect a coworker), as opposed to, say, a more Northeastern approach where folks are very direct about their hostility. There will be people that don't like you in your life but have to work with you anyway. Passive-aggressive behavior is easy to ignore and live with (for me), but outright hostility is something I prefer not to deal with and view as boorish--and this is the alternative I see.
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    Too old for a PH.d?

    Hi everyone. I am just turning 60 in a few weeks. I try to stay in good physical condition, which I believe is highly important if you want to be able to compete with younger applicants. I completed my doctorate at an R1 school in March in a social sciences field. I will be going to commencement next month, a week before my 60th birthday. Everyone on the planet who knows anything about colleges knows the name of my institution, and it is very highly ranked. I applied when I was 55, yet I was the first to defend my dissertation and graduate in my cohort. I had good grades coming in, but my previous masters degree was earned about 35 years earlier. In 2008 I earned a 94% on verbal on the GRE, so that was probably a gating factor in my admission. Upon admission, I was provided with a four-year fellowship. It was a pittance compared to my six-figure salary in earlier years in my career, but because of my age, I was getting nowhere applying to corporate jobs, so I applied to graduate school, was accepted, and now, in 2014, I have a PhD! What about my future? I applied to numerous professional and tenure-track positions in the past six months, and received a lot of rejection...but I finally landed a tenure-track assistant professor position at a really cool but small university a couple of weeks ago. I am stoked to the max! What I would say to anyone over 50 who is thinking of embarking on a doctorate is do everything with your eyes and heart wide open. Then, follow your dreams. Make sure that you are in good health so that those around you can imagine you living a long time. Be energetic and excited about your research and academic interests, after all, if you want to become a teacher, you can't be introverted, aloof, boring or self-absorbed. And you definitely can't be a know-it-all with a rigid outlook. I have done a lot of things in life, but I believe that my best years are still ahead of me. My marriage is intact. My wife and I are on the very same page. We endured a lot in the past 4 1/2 years to get to this point, but seeing those three alphabetical fragments after my name, and being called doctor and soon-to-be professor, makes every second of the journey worthwhile. Now I can go out and be a positive force for changing lives. It's not about the money anymore. If anyone reading this blog is wondering can it be done? Well, I am living proof that it can be done. I remember when I first discovered theGradCafe back before I was accepted to grad school, watching the results come in for admitted (and rejected) students. I finally posted up back then that I had been accepted somewhere. I cannot tell you how good it feels to now be able to post that I am done with my program, and that I have a new (tenure-track) career ahead of me. Whatever you do folks, keep the Faith. Be a realist, but never lose your dreams. Faith can move mountains. All the Best
  8. 1 point

    EPA Star Fellowship 2013

    Surprisingly just got an email from Brandon yesterday saying that I am being offered an award. I guess they are still trickling in as paperwork goes through. Crazy.
  9. 1 point

    How To Handle Passive-Aggressive People

    I think this is a good way to get what you want for the question/answer you want, but in my opinion, this can sometimes turn out to be pretty rude, and much worse than passive-aggressive behaviour. But I think this is a manner of the culture we grew up in. Even if you are in the right, if you do something that makes the other person ashamed then you are now the one in the wrong. Obviously this is just my opinion and is extremely subjective, but I just want to point out how this action can be seen negatively by other people. I think if I already did not have a good relationship with a person like this, this response would make things even worse and probably increase my amount of passive aggressive behaviour because I would want to avoid direct interactions/conflict with them even more. In my opinion, I do not enjoy interacting with people who are this direct with what they want because to me, it seems like they believe that what they want is more important than how comfortable I feel. If I was doing something wrong with my passive-aggressive behaviour (and I might not even realise it), I think the right action would be to have an actual talk so that both of us understand each other better. Direct hostility like this is not helpful in the long run, I think.
  10. 1 point

    We're in - now Preparing?

    I found it on ProEd http://www.proedinc.com/customer/productview.aspx?id=3629 with the Flash Drive
  11. 1 point

    We're in - now Preparing?

    Thanks for sharing! I just checked, and the book is sold out right now on the ASHA website, but they accept backorders. I checked amazon, too, but a lot of people were complaining that the amazon listed book doesn't come with the flash drive with 4 practice tests that the ASHA site mentions (and it's mentioned in the beginning of the book). Just wanted to let you all know in case you were considering getting it from a site other than ASHA. -- I really want to order it now so that I have the next 2 months to go over it, but I think I will just wait. if I'm going to spend the money on a book I need for the praxis, I want to make sure it has the practice tests!
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    Thank you all so much for all of the advice/kind words! I appreciate it so, so much I will definitely start narrowing down my list of potential schools and begin getting in touch with the program directors - hopefully it goes well! @twinguy7 - Thanks so much for the suggestions, and CONGRATS to getting in!! So excited for you I'm actually really quite confused when it comes to my transcripts. When figuring out my cumulative, I just looked at the transcripts for each school I've taken classes at (four, which is a huge pain in the butt!) and added it up using the all credit points/all attempted credit hours=GPA formula. I'm just not sure if my classes that I retook will count? For example, in that awful freshman year I had a general psych course and wound up with a D, and an intro to sociology course that I got an F in - both of these were worth 4 credits. I eventually retook both and got A's, but it was at a different college and they were only worth 3 credits there. All of my other classes were ones that I ended up not touching again since I was an education major at the time - philosophy, geology, media and society...really random stuff. I'm actually a little excited for the CSDCAS applications just because I'm curious as to what they make of my mess, haha.
  13. 1 point

    Textbook for Inorganic Chemistry

    I used Miessler for undergrad inorganic and found it very clear. Go get it!
  14. 1 point
    I want to first say I am sorry about your cousins passing. I am also glad you have fought through it and have found ways to cope. Like Daisynic said, Email program directors now and basically copy and paste what you just shared with us in this thread and ask for advice. Be completely honest and ask the program if they would look favorably on an applicant with your circumstance, stats, etc. The programs will be straight up with you and I'm sure you will find that even the "harder to get into" programs would look VERY favorable on your last 60-90 unit GPA and your GRE's are even better than average. Your experience is another thing that seems favorable as well. By emailing programs you can also eliminate programs who feel you wouldn't stand a chance in their applicant pool. I ended my B.A. in Communicative Disorders with an overall GPA of 2.77. My last 60 GPA was 3.35. My SLP GPA was 3.28. I got into 2 schools and wait listed at 3. MY only question would be.... If you got many F's those first 2 years..... wouldn't all of those F's been replaced by your A's that you got since returning to school in 2011? A's and D's can be retaken and eliminated from a transcript/Overall GPA. I had 2 or 3 in my CC days. The C's and B's normally cannot be retaken for better grades(depends on the school). Either way, you will get into a school if you start emailing them now and show your passion and determination early on. Good Luck!
  15. 1 point

    Preggers in Grad School

    I am close to my delivery date and must say that pregnancy in grad school was much easier than I anticipated. My professors, clinical supervisors, and bosses at my assistantship were/are extremely supportive. My first trimester was not so good with lots of nausea but was doable--even though classes were intense that semester. I did comps in my second trimester and found that baby gave me a zen aura I normally don't have... I'm extremely type A, but for comps I studied a moderate amount and never got anxious. A total win! Also, the timeline (delivering in June) made me extremely conscious about the fact that I could not procrastinate on proposing my dissertation. I worked my tail off and proposed in late April, making me the first in my comps cohort to propose. (Have done absolutely nothing on it since.) Got two months of "working from home" for my assistantship which will be my maternity leave (which is awesome--I am technically not allowed to do that, I don't even get paid sick days based on my contract), and I will start that AFTER baby is born--I plan on working until I deliver unless something goes wrong. Sitting at my desk with a huge belly and some Braxton Hicks right now. I'll be back right in time to start the fall semester when I will resume coming to the office, practicum, and data collection for my dissertation. I was/am prepared for any problems (including potential leaves due to illness, etc), but luckily so far everything went smoothly!
  16. 1 point

    How To Handle Passive-Aggressive People

    Honestly? I usually deal with it by being passive-aggressive in return. It's the thing they're most familiar with, and what they're least likely to have experienced.
  17. 1 point
    Cocote--some of your schools may be reaches, and they may be longer reaches if your GREs aren't great. Your internships are good, but getting some professional experience (are you still in undergrad?) would really help your chances and give you direction. A year or 2 as an entry-level research assistant or program assistant with an organization that synchronizes with your interests (and a LOR from your supervisor there) would go a long way to balancing out less-than-ideal GRE scores. Lots of students apply for MPA/MPP programs straight out of undergraduate, lots of them have great GPAs and GREs, some of them get in, even fewer get reasonable levels of funding. How will you stack up against your peers? I'm a big proponent of not going to grad school straight from undergrad, so keep that in mind. You're just a much more attractive candidate to grad schools with 2-3 years of work experience after undergrad, whether it be entry-level NGO/nonprofit/gov't agency work, Peace Corps, other international work, etc. Aspirant #3--Given that it's spring 2014 now, I assume you mean fall 2015 matriculation? At any rate, it depends largely on your GRE scores and how your GPA compares to a U.S. university's system, assuming your undergraduate was in India (if it was in the U.S., disregard that). Your experience is interesting, and if you can tie it into what your interests are long-term, that will certainly help your chances. However, to be honest, without a GRE score in the 160s in both math and English, I don't see much of a shot at HKS. People with 4.0 GPAs and 16+0 GREs get rejected from HKS, just as people with lesser numbers but a more compelling direction/background/focus get in. If you want to get an MPP in the U.S., then definitely consider Harvard, but you should broaden your search as well.
  18. 1 point

    Where can I find average GPAs/GREs?

    schools sometimes self report acceptance rate in NASPA directory
  19. 1 point
    You can ask them to tell you what the SEVIS number is even before they send you the I-20, assuming they've already issued it and are just waiting for information about your wife and child's passports to complete the process. It's entirely possible that you already have an assigned SEVIS number. If not, I don't see what else you can do but wait, since they've already refused to send you your I-20 independently of your family's I-20s. Again, once you've submitted all the information they require, you can ask for the number before you get the actual document in the mail. If you submit the information this week and are able to get an answer from them next week, hopefully that won't hold you back too much.
  20. 1 point

    State College, PA

    Hey neighbor! Or, kind of. That apartment complex is huge. Nittany Gardens, Vairo Village (owned by the same folks who manage Toftrees, but cheaper), The Allenway, University Terrace, Parkway Plaza (I think this one has a lot of undergrads). You may also want to check out Craigslist. Sometimes people are subletting. http://pennstate.craigslist.org/search/apa?sale_date=-&bedrooms=1
  21. 1 point
    Achille Mbembe's On the Postcolony is the best book in the area. Other than that, as a somewhat brief list: Fanon — everything, anything Césaire's Discourse on Colonialism C.L.R. James' The Black Jacobins Spivak — I think there's a collection/reader of essays now, but "Can the Subaltern Speak?" is the most common starting point. Bhabha, The Location of Culture the Subaltern Studies group (Partha Chatterjee, Dipesh Chakrabarty, Ranajit Guha, etc) — Provincializing Europe and The Nation and Its Fragments are probably the most commonly read books Ngugi wa Thiong'o, Decolonizing the Mind Paul Gilroy, The Black Atlantic + Against Race Balibar & Wallerstein's Race, Class, and Nation Denise Ferreira da Silva, Toward a Global Idea of Race Bill Ashcroft's anthology, The Empire Writes Back Fred Moten & Stefano Harney, The Undercommons: Fugitive Planning and Black Study If you google there are also a few lists available, like http://www.english.ucla.edu/part-i-reading-lists/146-postcolonial-studies-department-reading-list and https://english.unm.edu/resources/documents/post-colonial.pdf. Lurking syllabi is also helpful.
  22. 1 point
    Yay! Prospective International student. Phd Biomedical Sciences Fall 2015.
  23. 1 point
    You could do #4 if you really wanted to. You just need to have a passion for fitness and dance, get your group fitness certification, and then your Zumba B1 license. I'm a Zumba instructor and a certified group fitness instructor, and I'm far from the best dancer out there, and I certainly don't look like the models for Zumba wear. But I deliver a fun, safe, effective class, and that's all that matters!
  24. 1 point
    ^ RE the stuff on 'whitey' above - this is off the subject of men in women's groups and probably opening a whole can of worms, but I'd've thought that we'd all now pretty much acknowledged that there's racial slurs and racial slurs. The difference between a term like 'blacky', which targets a group who are still the subject of widespread institutionalised discrimination and have a long history of oppression based on the colour of their skin, and a term like 'whitey', which targets a group who, by and large (I know there are exceptions, I'm talking generally here) aren't and haven't, is enormous. Both terms are insults, and insults aren't cool - but the weight of those insults is entirely different. If, in say Europe or the US, you insult a white person based on their skin colour you're definitely being a dick, but you're not oppressing them and you're not contributing to massive institutionalised discrimination. If you use racial slurs against a POC then you pretty much are. The two things just aren't comparable.
  25. 1 point
    I am incredibly skeptical of cis men in my women's studies courses, but have been won over by some. Same as 2520s in Africa American studies, or any other person who is part of the supremacy entering into subjugated spaces. Talking about masculinism as if it were equatable to feminism is how you'll get some side-eye though. That shows you don't have a true understanding of the patriarchy or oppression, and also that you're stuck in a gender dichotomy. Understand your privileges (esp. when it comes to dominating classroom discussions) and make sure you know what your endgame really is in taking the course. Susan Bordo does some work on critical masculinities, and may be a great starting place for allies.
  26. 1 point
    Hmm, this is a question that plagues most grad students. The very first thing you should do is create a balance sheet in Excel and plan out how much money is going to be incoming (underestimate) and outgoing (overestimate). This will give you a good idea of whether you'll be in the red every month or have a little bit left over. Regarding food--learn to get by on cheap foods. This includes the notorious ramen, delicious canned tuna and soups, and scrumptious lunch meat sandwiches. All sarcasm aside, you can treat yourself to a nice meal every now and again. Just don't make this a habit. If you know how to cook, great. If you don't, learn how to cook cheap and easy meals like hamburger helper, spaghetti, chicken breasts, etc. Of course, cook for more than one meal. Invest in some tupperware and store leftover food in the fridge. Today's dinner can also be tomorrow's lunch. Stay on top of your monthly bills. That is, plan well ahead of time--months, even a year, if possible--so you don't find yourself one day asking, "Gee, how am I going to afford this month's X,Y,Z payments?" If you DO encounter this situation, know that there are ways that you can get help. Donate blood plasma, ask your parents (I know), ask your school's financial department (if your school was as helpful as mine, you can count this out), and ask to delay your payments. I gotta get going, but I will help with more tips when I have more time and when I can think of ones that are helpful.
  27. 1 point
    I am sure you will! For me ANYTHING other than Binghamton (if I am lucky) is happening if I kill the GRE. I think all sociologists should strike against the GREs on philosophical grounds lol.
  28. 1 point

    Rate my GRE ESSAY!

    I didn't think I was being harsh. I thought the passage was too short in length and too shallow in content. I thought the awkward vocabulary lacked precision and that the grammatical errors made the passage generally unclear. Additionally, I didn't really see how any of the examples provided support for the conclusion. Pointing to a couple of historical examples of one person or idea influencing another may establish a descriptive fact about how the past can affect the future, but in no way does it establish the normative claim that the past ought to ground our future decisions. On this note, the author doesn't indicate any possible counterexamples or develop at all the matter of how we are actually supposed to apply our past "learnings." By what criteria do we choose to follow the example of Gandhi but not Hitler? What is stranger is that the author concludes the significance of Gandhi, King, and "Mendla" by saying that we must learn from our past mistakes. Also, as you observe, the Steve Jobs reference is irrelevant, and, along these lines I count no fewer than three sentences which add zero value to the passage but actually hurt it by reading as trite and obtuse. So, I stand behind the 1/1.5 evaluation, since the passage contains not just the minimum of "at least one," but all of the following problems: (1) "content that is...mostly irrelevant to the assigned tasks"; (2) "serious lack of analysis or development"; and (3) "errors that obscure meaning."
  29. 1 point

    Rate my GRE ESSAY!

    http://www.ets.org/gre/revised_general/prepare/analytical_writing/score_level_descriptions Seems like a 1 or 1.5 to me.
  30. 1 point

    Too old for a PH.d?

    I think the adage that women have to be twice as good than men to be taken as seriously holds true for non-traditional students. You cannot be just as good as the traditional age students, if you are a non-trad student. You have to expect that you need to impress everyone twice as much with your abilities and skill set to be taken equally seriously as traditional students. Your goals might have been to be just as good or slightly better, but you need to be much much much better I've seen. I'm the only Ivy, M.A. degreed, published student in my current PhD cohort but many of my accomplishments are ignored, dismissed, and denigrated by faculty when it serves their purposes. They only acknowledge which parts of your experience they want to acknowledge.
  31. 1 point

    BU or BC PhD

    Hello, I know this reply is quite late...but I just discovered this site. I'm currently a MA student in BC's English department. I have inquired about BU's English PhD program, but found the people rude...plus I believe it is hard to get good funding at BU, while at BC PhD students are normally given generous TA positions and stipends. Even 12 of each year's incoming MA students get full tuition remission...for an MA English program this is unusual. Plus, the faculty at BC are wonderful, at least those I have worked with.
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    Rate my GRE ESSAY!

    Hi rated your essay using the free online tool available at gmatawa.com Your score: 4.28 on a scale of 6.00 Explanation for the score Coherence and connectivity: 2.5/5 Paragraph structure and formation: 3.5/5 Vocabulary and word expression: 4/5 You can yourself verify at gmatawa.com
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    Do you have any other neat numerical racial slurs? I went to a primarily black middle and high school, and they would just say 'cracker' if they wanted to insult us. Not that any significant fraction did, but that's just what they would say when they did. Using numbers is so much cooler. Like how white supremacists encode nazi slogans like the 14 words or heil hitler with numbers.
  34. -1 points

    Fat-Friendly Campuses?

    And people gave her good advice. They also threw in that she has time to get fit. You're quite the sensitive one. I see you've been vote-trolling my posts for a while. Anything that Jeff Foxworhty wouldn't approve of seems to offend you. By the way, your advice was great. We should close this thread now. You summed it all up. P.S. And the thread I was referring to (the one you quoted) was unrelated to "fat friendly" campuses. It was a thread about fitness and she was basically asking how she could avoid fit people. Obviously, since the topic of the thread and all the responders were fit, we were trying to give her encouraging advice. The only advice she responded to was from people saying how they hate "fit movements."
  35. -1 points
    When you put it that way, most of the other reasons to leave seem pretty feeble, too ;-). I wouldn't have transferred to placate an SO. Then again, I am equally unattractive everywhere.
  36. -1 points
    IMO combo MSW/PhD programs are a very poor idea. You need post-MSW experience in social work, at least two years. If you want to do policy, it is very helpful to have post-MSW experiences in programs that use policy. If you want to teach, schools give strong preference to graduates that have at least 2-years post MSW experience, and CSWE requests it for instructors who will teach any practice classes. Some schools define practice classes broadly, to include research. Your PhD curriculum will be grounded in practical application if you have post-MSW experience that you can use to apply the concepts. Of the students that completed a sw PhD with me, the ones without two years MSW are lingering in low-paying contract work or have returned to MSW-level practice positions to get the experience.
  37. -1 points

    Grad. School Supplies?

    I am not joking, but buy a lot of instant ramen.
  38. -2 points
    Let me get this straight: You are upset because someone told you that you're not qualified for admission? He did you a favor by taking time out to respond to you. I tell people all of the time that they're not qualified for admission. What makes you a special snowflake? You'll need to grow some thicker skin if you want a PhD.