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  1. 7 points
    hccgrl

    PhD applicants: Fall 2018

    Just got an email to set up a phone interview with Maryland!!! So excited !!!
  2. 5 points
    mparrish429

    NSF GRFP 2017-18

    At least I'm self-aware, right?
  3. 5 points
  4. 4 points
    cat_not_kitty

    Canadian MSW Applicants 2018

    Fingers and toes crossed, stomach in a knot, heart full of trepidatious hope, butt cheeks clenched — this could be the week we start hearing from U of T!! Hoping the York hopefuls hear back this week too!!
  5. 4 points
    mars667

    NSF GRFP 2017-18

    I don't trust random redditors, especially not ones that avoid answering questions, but comment on their downvotes. I think it'll be next week based on what I've read while creeping through threads from previous years (um, this is a judgement free zone, right?). There seems to be a pattern to the fastlane closures: one the weekend before announcements (sat-sun), followed by the previous year's list of awardees/HMs being unavailable, which seems to be where we're at now, and results the following week (closure announcement typically day of-sometimes late at night!) Or maybe all of this waiting is finally getting to me and I am just losing my mind.
  6. 4 points
    Straightoutta

    NSF GRFP 2017-18

    Based on me skimming through the last few years worth of forums. Seems to be that the maintenance alert we are on the lookout for typically goes up the day before results are released (Monday if results are posted Tuesday). This alert could be posted as last as 9pm on the day before announcements. It is usually a maintenance alert that lists the end time at being 3am or 5am. Additionally, I would say that we are in the home stretch given last year's awards and honorable mentions are no longer listed. That list tends to go down a week or two before announcements.
  7. 3 points
    corgi7

    MPH Canada 2018

    Also got an offer to U of T MPH Epi! Congratulations to everyone who received acceptances!
  8. 3 points
    goalsforgradschool

    MPH Canada 2018

    I'm so sorry to hear that I bet you're a great candidate! It's so weird when you realize how competitive admissions to an MPH is these days. The fact that you applied and gave it your best shot counts! And it is a real bummer to get a rejection. I hope you do something today to make the day a bit better <3
  9. 3 points
    HomewardBound

    Fall 2018 French

    Good morning, everyone! Well, I did it. I declined 6/7 of my offers of admission. All of the offers were incredible, and there isn't one program that I wouldn't strongly recommend. However, Penn State was the best human, intellectual, and...locational? fit for both my wife and myself. Plus, this way, anyone on the waitlist at some of my other schools will hopefully get some good news! @Carly Rae Jepsen I hope my rejection of Pitt's (really generous) offer will mean more funding for you. If you haven't already accepted Wash U.'s offer, I'd encourage you to look into Pitt a bit more. They have some really incredible faculty and students, and the grant possibilities are out of this world! My wife and I are just weird, and we prefer living in really quiet areas instead of cities.
  10. 3 points
    lawine

    100k debt for IR Masters worth it?

    Just wanted to jump in here: For undergrad, I double-majored in Russian and IR at an Ivy. I've applied for IR-related graduate programs twice, and while not much on my resume has changed, the funding offers I've received during my second round of applying have increased, in some cases, by more than 100%. The first time, I applied during my senior year of undergrad for Georgetown MSFS, SSP and Columbia SIPA with the expectation that I would only go if I got Pickering. I did not get the Pickering haha. The only money I got was 50% for SSP, and I wouldn't have been able to continue taking Russian there because their "free language classes" policy does not apply to courses above the 300 level. And I didn't have an extra $600 a semester to pay for classes that wouldn't count toward my degree. I reapplied this year for interdisciplinary M.A. program in regional studies. I got full-tuition at Yale, Columbia, and Harvard, with living stipends at two of the programs. I will continue to study Russian and start studying an additional language. I can take policy-focused courses at the Kennedy School (if I choose Harvard) or SIPA (if I choose Columbia). And I will have access to the career services center at either of the three universities. No, I'm not in D.C., but I think the other benefits far outweigh this. TLDR: If you have language skills or a regional focus, applying to area studies programs might be a better bet than generalist IR degrees.
  11. 3 points
    Once I wrote up an endorsement of myself and asked a letter-writer if he wouldn’t mind sending it into the uni where I was (more-or-less) WL’ed. He said that he thought it risked annoying the faculty and that it was better to go by the book in these things. At this point I am even wary of asking one’s place on the waitlist because there are various reasons why they might not want to communicate that information. I think it is better to ask a leading question like “is it common for students to get in off the WL?” Then, if they want to tell you your place, they will. Basically it is best to keep in mind that asking your place won’t actually help your chances and asking too many questions could actually hurt by suggesting you aren’t confident or that you need too much. On the other hand, if you know you would accept the offer if it came through, it can sometimes help to tell the faculty, or have a letter-writer tell the faculty, that you would do so. They want to give offers to students who will accept them, of course. Those are my two cents.
  12. 3 points
    TMP

    Fall 2018 Applicants

    Dear Professor X, Thank you very much for the encouragement to work with you at University A. I appreciated our conversations and I learned a lot. However, after much consideration, I have decided that University B is a stronger fit for my needs. I look forward to continuing our conversations and seeing each other at future conversations.
  13. 3 points
    asfold

    DAAD 2018-2019

    hey man,, i called bonn just now nad they said that news should have been last week, but there is a delay... and that everybody will be informed in the next cpl of days.. goodluck. she said: ''this week, hopefully in the next couple of days ''
  14. 3 points
    What the grad students told me was that if you were admitted with the expectation of going from MS to PhD, a professor would have contacted you by now. When I said "Really? That's like the exact opposite of what we've been told all day" the current PhD students said that even though they've asked the professors and people in charge of admissions to be more honest and upfront about this, they just aren't. So they get a bunch of people to come for the unfunded masters because "people will pay for a masters from Stanford." I found this super dishonest. Honestly, just directly admit to PhD if that's the case. I emailed the graduate coordinator on Saturday asking if I'm being considered for funding or not (I was originally waiting until the end of march to be polite). My guess would be not since I haven't been contacted yet, but I'm checking because they did offer to reimburse some expenses from the visit day. I'll let post on here whatever I hear back. A few other negatives I got from the visit day: -It seems like funding is incredibly scarce in the department. I had one professor mention that it's not usual, but definitely possible, for your advisor to run out of funding for you, say during your last year as a PhD student. It kind of makes sense because when an advisor takes you on, they financially provide you the tuition and stipend money. But you'd think the university would wave your tuition so that each PhD student doesn't literally cost the advisor half a million dollars of grant money (not an exaggeration). -I heard a few other grad students say that their advisors are never around "because they're really important people." That might be true, but I'm looking for an advisor who has enough time to be a mentor, just not my cup of tea. -The master will cost $99.7K and TA and RA positions are reserved for PhD candidates so that their advisors aren't paying tuition from their own grant money. I was told there is practically no possibility of getting TA or RA positions as a masters student. -I got the feeling that MS students who do join in on the research groups (what they recommend you do to advance to the PhD) are pretty much free lab work (i.e. undergrads) and the likelihood of doing your own project is slim. I got this vibe from hearing some PhD students talk about MS students in the lab. Positives: -The program requirements are really flexible. The head of the department said you can even substitute the "mandatory" program requirements for whatever you want as long as you can make a reasonable appeal to your masters advisor. -Most of the PhD students seemed to enjoy the program, they just really don't like how the department handles admissions and the whole MS thing. My whole take on Stanford at the moment is a little jaded and I do realize that there are probably a million great things about the masters program and to be fair, one of the professors there started as a masters student with no funding at Stanford, so I guess transitioning to the PhD isn't impossible.
  15. 3 points
    If you are interested in sharing your responses, please submit below! I have left the responses able to edit as I know not all interviews have finished, so if you want to fill out now based on how you feel, you can always go back and edit after you've completed interviews. I will share the results once there are a decent amount of responses. Please be honest, but no trash talking programs (or individuals within the program!), I will delete those responses. It is completely anonymous though! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfveStRW-jk2FIeM0qE6w9L7gxkTFrdCP9KuZJwnjZjG1wZOA/viewform?usp=sf_link
  16. 3 points
    p(ache)d

    Vanier CGS (2017-2018)

    @PsychBoy Tangibly, it's just given me more time to work on research. I only get one TA a year (as opposed to two pre Vanier) so it's freed up time. Additionally, I think in some ways it's added more pressure to be a "good academic", but much of that is probably concocted by me. Re: publications, I didn't have any peer reviewed journal pubs going into applying and I ranked middle of the pack of Vanier recipients. I remember what it was like for me this time of year, and it was unbearable. I was a wreck. Don't be like me. Take care of yourselves and remember that so much of this is subjective and luck of the draw in terms of who you get reviewing your application.
  17. 2 points
    Aline1995

    DAAD SCHOLARSHIP 2018-2019

    Dates only change when you did not enter a one year period at the time of application. for example i entered the whole period for phd (3 years) and they changed it to one year, so if you already entered one year, they wont change it. and in my case they asked me if i want to participate in language training and also concerning status / dates changes.. there seems to be no "frame" which they follow. they always seem to do something different with all applicants.
  18. 2 points
    just got email acceptance from hunter. Hope the rest of you waiting for that decision got in too.
  19. 2 points
    Erin32796

    Canadian MSW Applicants 2018

    I could cut diamonds with how clenched my butt cheeks are. I do hope we start finding out soon. Would they be calling, posting on ACORN, the SGS Application Page, or via mail? What is U of T's preferred method of sending out acceptances?
  20. 2 points
    Sprinkle

    NSERC PGSD 2018-2019

    This is killing me haha. Forwarded by Acadia - project is for Dal though.
  21. 2 points
    blind_faith

    MPH Canada 2018

    Just got an offer from uoft epi!
  22. 2 points
    I seriously hope *everyone* who applied at the priority deadline hears back this week!
  23. 2 points
    New week, more expectancy! Crossing fingers for letters tonight ?? Don’t forget to share lol
  24. 2 points
    Pennk

    PhD applicants: Fall 2018

    I'm out at NYU (whatever the general public health thread was). That's my application cycle done-zo! I'm in at 3 out of the 8 schools I applied for. One with guaranteed funding and two with funding I am waiting to hear back about! 1. U of Memphis - full funding for 3 years 2. U of Wisconsin-Milwaukee - interviewed for funding for first year 3. UT Health - I applied for a fellowship that would cover 4 years
  25. 2 points
    SWYorkie

    Canadian MSW Applicants 2018

    As long as the strike did not delay things more so than it already has, admission phone-calls should be out by mid-end of the week. Fingers crossed everyone!
  26. 2 points
    Left Skew

    Fall 2018 I/O Psy

    I decided to roll with George Mason. Good news for me, bad news for all those at George Mason. Those of you that got offers congrats! Those of you that didn't get an offer your app is stronger from the process. As an older applicant time was on my side, I didn't transition straight out of school (undergrad and masters) into a PhD. I worked for a little bit to develop personally, salient research ideas. This will provide with a valuable perspective going in. Every cohort needs an OG, every Fellowship needs a Gandalf. It's almost over....
  27. 2 points
    kal407

    NSERC PGSD 2018-2019

    For those of you waiting to hear back: The NSERC website states that results are sent out 17 weeks after universities submit their recommendations, or 23 weeks after the deadline for direct applicants. This means that results are expected on March 23rd.
  28. 2 points
    I haven't heard anything yet. I will be in Toronto this week and visiting Ryerson - I will check in with admissions about timelines if possible.
  29. 2 points
    mppmgaapplicant2018

    Applying to Munk 2018

    Hey folks, just created the facebook group! Looking forward to seeing you all there! https://www.facebook.com/groups/219448248793589/
  30. 2 points
    E-P

    Humor: The Reveal Cake

    @GreenEyedTrombonist Badger badger badger badger badget badger badger MUSHROOM MUSHROOM (Hopefully I'm not reaching too far back into the history of the Internet on that one!)
  31. 2 points
    sheriberi

    Moving abroad with pets

    @E-P @bumbleblu Thank you both so much! Lots of great tips! I'm definitely gonna try feeding him in his carrier and getting him used to the travel harness. I also bought the Feliway calming spray but haven't tried it yet. I'll give him an extra pet/cuddle
  32. 2 points
    Averroes MD

    PhD Applications Fall '18 Season

    Georgetown must be waiting for the second coming of Christ...
  33. 2 points
    Daenerys

    2018 Acceptances

    Congrats! I got in off the waitlist there too and will probably attend! Are you planning to go to campus on April 6? If so, I will see you there!
  34. 2 points
    Found out yesterday that I have been admitted to St. Louis University in rhetoric and composition. I was originally third on the waiting list. I’m pretty happy about this one. Admitted students day is April 6, which I will attend. I think I will most likely enroll, though I won’t make a final decision until I visit the department. For me this makes two admissions, two wait lists still pending, and two schools that I have heard nothing from. I finally emailed Purdue to find out what was up with them, and they replied saying that my application was still active and would remain so until April 15.
  35. 2 points
    nickel28

    Fall 2018 Cycle

    Finally heard back from my last school, and I have officially accepted an offer to University of Rochester’s Chem Inorganic program! Hang in there everybody!
  36. 2 points
    Great idea to compile all the lessons we've learned! Here's hoping it'll help next year's round of applicants. I was fortunate enough to receive interviews from all 5 programs I applied for, and offers from 4 (one waitlist). It's been a whirlwind, but an incredible experience! As a bit of context, I applied for Psychology PhD programs, specifically for Cognitive Neuroscience (memory). Below are my tips. Applications Choosing programs As a starting point, speak to your current mentor (if you have one) about where to begin your search. Post docs and PIs have excellent advice about big names in the field, up-and-coming researchers, mentorship styles, and the inside scoop about the atmosphere of different institutions. Only apply to programs that you would seriously consider attending. If you know that you would definitely not want to take an offer from a backup school, don't bother in the first place. I have friends who submitted a dozen applications, multiple to places that they weren't very excited about, just in the hopes that something would stick. When it came time for interviews, they realized that it was impossible to proceed with multiple conflicts, and they had to triage. Application components Letters of reference are SO important. I was lucky to have developed really fantastic relationships with PIs at my undergrad institution, and they apparently provided such high praise that it was repeatedly mentioned when I attended interviews. My current mentor gave me excellent advice about writing my personal statement. Of course you should convey that you are passionate about your chosen research topic, but bear in mind that when everyone says the same sort of thing, claims of passion fall hollow. Instead, focus on highlighting your own unique accomplishments right off the bat, in the first paragraph. What are the key points of your past experiences that demonstrate that you have the necessary skills and enthusiasm? I fretted over my GRE scores because the quant component was lower than I had been getting on practice tests. I considered re-taking, but ultimately decided not to, and I am very glad that I did not waste my time and money on another shot. It didn't pose a problem in admissions, and nobody commented on test scores at all in any of my interviews. One program that I applied to "strongly recommended" the Psych subject test of the GRE, but I decided that I didn't want to bother taking it (again, time and money). Omitting the subject test didn't seem to hurt my application at all. Interview Trips Travelling Always dress for your travel day in an outfit that you would be okay with wearing to the first interview event. At 2 of my 5 interviews, I experienced massive travel delays. I lost all the buffer time in my schedule and ended up going directly to the first event from the airport. If the travel agent sends you an itinerary that you don't like (e.g., leaving very early in the morning after the end-of-interview party), you can just ask for a different one. Travel-sized dry shampoo will save your life. Would recommend bringing some melatonin pills. Personally, I am a night owl, and interviews required shifting my sleep-wake cycle by quite a few hours. Combine that with nerves, and it can be very hard to sleep without some help. Interviews There will be many profs interviewing you, not just those you mentioned in your application. Many of them will conduct research that is completely irrelevant to your interests, but that's okay. You do not have to feign interest in joining their lab. I suggest looking up their lab website blurb and the abstracts of a few recent publications. Try to do some theory of mind and imagine what sort of angle they would take when hearing about your own research projects. You can change the way you frame your research to match the sorts of questions and methods that they clearly favor. The best possible preparation for knowing what to say in an interview is to have presented a poster on your research projects in the past. If you have that experience, then you have several versions (varying in brevity) of a walk-through speech about each of your projects. You'll also have learned how to deal with interruptions and questions. If you haven't presented a poster on your research, I would strongly suggest practicing telling that scientific narrative. When you meet with graduate students, remain on guard! Remember that they are there because they care about what they do, and they want a peer who will be like-minded. At my home institution, I overheard graduate students in my lab discussing how an interviewee had made a poor impression by asking "fun" questions instead of sensible ones (e.g., "What are your favorite pizza toppings? What would your lab mascot be?"). The "middle-school sleepover" vibes made them think that she did not take the research seriously. You may think that you have a "ranking" of your program choices in your head, but keep an open mind! I went into the interview process agonized about not knowing which school I wanted to attend. After my second interview, I was completely convinced that I had found the right place for me. I was wrong! Interview #3 changed my mind, but not until I had taken several days to process everything. I strongly encourage you to attend all interviews and treat each one as a serious mission to get all the information you might need, even if you think that you don't want to attend the school. Other applicants will have impressive backgrounds, but try not to succumb to imposter syndrome. If they invited you to interview, you earned that spot. As I am still finishing up my undergrad, I was a little intimidated to find that the vast majority of other prospective students were around 4-5 years my senior. We had different experiences, but each one of us deserved to be there. Making a Decision If a program wants you, you will know. They will make that very clear with strong and swift communication, friendly follow-ups from POIs, messages from current graduate students, offers to answer additional questions, etc. Personally, I thought that such positive and prompt responses seemed to reflect a department that values its students and has a solid organizational infrastructure in place, both important things to consider. You are in data collection mode until the end game. Don't worry if you're halfway through the process and you still have no idea where you want to go. Just keep on doing your best to learn more about each program! You can get a dozen opinions and attack the problem with rationality (I initially tried making a giant spreadsheet with 20 criteria weighted by importance...), but ultimately, you should choose a program that feels right. That comes down to research fit, interpersonal dynamic with the POI, and potential future peers (Could you see yourself being friends, or are people competitive? Do you care?). Personally, I was looking for a program that was interdisciplinary and collaborative, PIs who were approachable and responsive, and peers who would be friendly and genuinely passionate about their research.
  37. 2 points
    have formally accepted Columbia's offer!
  38. 1 point
    Wow just checked out your site, you seem to be a perfect fit for this masters. I really hope you get an interview! From what the trend is, it seems they send out offers on Fridays. Are you an international student?
  39. 1 point
    AllieKat

    Northwestern

    I haven't officially decided, but I've narrowed my list down to two, including Northwestern's biological sciences program! PM if you wanna chat
  40. 1 point
    RunnerGrad

    Fall 2018 CANADIAN universities

    Come on Queen’s - give me an admission offer for a birthday present!
  41. 1 point
    teb

    MFA Creative Writing

    Are you referencing the one result on the Grad Cafe results page? That one looks weird to me. It's from mid-Feb and the way it talks about the program ("offered $27,500 in funding") doesn't really seem like the way the program works--there's the Constance Rooke scholarship, covering 2/3 of tuition, which all MFA candidates get, and then there are other merit- and need-based scholarships. So I'm just gonna assume that post is some sort of glitch and ignore it, hah. I applied for this program last year as well and didn't get in, but I didn't find out until early April, so I think we're still within the reasonable timeframe for responses. Good luck!!
  42. 1 point
    You can list them on your CCV!
  43. 1 point
    @PsychedSloth I understand, in the end its just up to you and where you feel comfortable! Postbaccs are amazing in that they can be gateways into the PhD programs, so Im sure you'll thrive whoever you end up. Definitely agree as well, the NW director is very hands on and was incredibly helpful in giving feedback on my essays to edit. Fingers crossed this week!
  44. 1 point
    CambridgeHeismanLord

    Maryland Program Strength

    I wouldn't be so quick so as to brush off Maryland as some of you are already doing. Its placement record is quite great especially regarding how difficult it is to get a job in the political science field in the first place. Personally speaking as to some of my friends at Maryland, the quant is quite good (and according to them, the website hasn't been updated in ages) and I don't see any reason why one shouldn't go there. But as much as I disagree with @Comparativist on his other issues with the program, I do wholeheartedly agree on the factor where it's up to the student to make their own success. This isn't limited to Maryland at all, but rather to the general field of academia. I have had the fortune of having been grown up throughout my life surrounded by family and friends in academia, and, on top of my own observations, the current atmosphere of academia has changed a bit from what it was 20-30 years ago. Back then, the name of your school certainly limited where you could end up at, but nowadays, so long as you aren't attending somewhere like Hawaii (no offense but I grew up there and know all about UH as a "retirement school" for old professors), your own work will stand out for itself and help get you the position you want. No absolute guarantees, as with all things in life, but it can help immensely. Above all, you CANNOT be inactive during the summers and must be continuously researching/publishing/presenting in order to make yourself stand out. My professors have said themselves that they would rather take the Ph.D. candidate from West Virginia University who has a plethora of work and shows PROMISE rather than the Harvard candidate who has done nothing but just get a Ph.D. with no other recognizable skills. That being said, all else equal if both candidates are the same (which happens more often than you think), they will take the Harvard guy over the WVU as a tie-breaker. But in the end, the factors you control are what you make of them. Do all the work you can do to make sure you stand out and don't look like another factory degree who thought a Ph.D. alone was enough to get a job. It's not, and if you approach a Ph.D. program with the same mentality you did in undergrad, you will be lucky to make it past the qualification exam and have a microscopically low chance of even making use of that Ph.D. in the academic field.
  45. 1 point
    Hello everyone, Yeah, by experience, the school won't release the results before April 1st. Don't lose hope. Last year, on April 1st, I learned that two universities out of three funded me with SSHRC and I was SO surprised. I was so sure I wouldn't get it. I'm hopeful for each and everyone of you and can't wait to hear about your (positive) decision letters. And for those who won't be funded, there is always next year. Next year you'll have a stronger, better application. <3
  46. 1 point
    maxhgns

    Writing Sample Question

    Those seem to me like concerns worth addressing. The problem with editing down a thesis is that theses are long, and the powerful conclusions you draw depend on quite a bit of prior work. It's hard to boil them down, especially without much prior experience doing so. To my mind, your advisor's concerns don't necessarily sound like reasons not to use part of your thesis as a writing sample. They sound like concerns you should aim to address in the paper you spin out of your thesis. In fact, to me they sound like versions of the same concern: you don't want your sample to be too esoteric. So careful exegesis is not ideal, and neither is the stereotypical (for history) tactic of asking what X really meant by Y, or what happens to W's system if you tweak premise P. That seems right to me, but I also don't think it's anything to freak out over, nor do I think it means you need to write anything from scratch. Just bear it in mind as you're revising your chunk down, and work to make it broadly accessible. Don't assume that your readers will know much of anything about Kant, limit your use of specialized terms, etc. Write it so that a smart undergrad with no Kant background can read it, understand the significance of the problem, and make sense of what you're trying to do.
  47. 1 point
    mph2018

    MPH Canada 2018

    Just got a conditional offer for MPH at U of T (Health Promotion) - didn't meet the stats requirement but they are allowing me to take a class this summer. If any of you is stressing about their stats req just know that there's hope! Congrats to everyone accepted yet, and for everyone still waiting hang in there. Was rejected from McGill so an acceptance at U of T was so out of my mind. So excited!!!
  48. 1 point
    msmith1990

    Fulbright 2018-2019

    Slack GroupMe Google sheet chat There's also a facebook group, although I'm not in it, and the subreddit, which is much less active.
  49. 1 point
    fuzzylogician

    Crying in front of professor

    @Dalmatian Yes, I have had students cry in my office, usually in circumstances not unlike what you're describing. It happens. Not much you can do about an uncontrollable emotion that sweeps over you, so I'm glad to hear that your professor handled it well. @Berk Oh, that really doesn't sound healthy for someone in their first semester. I would strongly advise you to look for support elsewhere, be it through moving to another lab/supervisor or by simply finding a mentor who isn't your advisor. It can be an advanced student, a faculty member, maybe someone in a specialized support group (those exist!). But don't just keep going like this for too long, because you'll find it very hard to finish, and I'd personally question whether you should. A PhD is not worth 5 years of suffering.
  50. 1 point
    AP

    Rejection hurts

    I've had a good share of rejections so here are my two cents: Rejections, like coursework, are part of grad school and your academic career. You are going to be rejected so many times in the future that I can't even find a nice sugarcoat for it. You will submit articles that will get bluntly sent back. You will apply for grants that take months to prepare and one day you'll get the horrible letter. Every one of those rejections is going to hurt so, if you want to succeed, you will need to eventually develop some type of coping mechanism. I give myself chocolate. Rejections hurt right now because they are too personal. Academia is too personal. You will see that you will be trained to behave like a professional but at the end of the day, you are leaving things aside to pursue this. Everybody knows this. I don't have kids, but friends of mine do and I can see how much at stake they have in their hands. So, of course it hurts! It's natural, it bothers us, but wondering about it, unfortunately, does not make us any good. Take rejections as an opportunity. I was rejected from a program that I thought was the program. Great fit, great funding, and extended conversations over Skype with POI. I mean, I just knew it was my place in the world. I was rejected with that cold letter that gives no explanation. That pushed me to the program I am now and I couldn't be happier. I seriously doubt I would have come to this program if I hadn't been rejected in the other one. Also, a rejection is a chance to re-evaluate how you deal with life itself. In my case, I used to cry for a day or two. Then I figured that was a total waste of time so instead I would give myself a nice meal -any of my choosing- and tell my advisors once I had dealt with it. I am surprised of myself! Rejections are not shameful. I don't know about you right now, but I am always ashamed of telling my advisor that I didn't get a grant, again. I feel like the ugly duckling who never gets anything. She never made me feel that way and is always encouraging me to move on, but still, I am the only one of her students who didn't get even a tiny grant. This is the hardest part for me, but as I said, I learned to deal with it. Being hurt is an emotional response. We cannot control what makes us angry or happy or sad. But we can control how to react and what to do with it. Yes, take your time to be blue, but don't make it your sole response.


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