skgarcia
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If my friends were actually doing things I cared about (or I wasn't jealous of) I would be totally fine. If my friends were going to grad school I would be so supportive and happy for them and helpful, if they were getting good jobs/careers I would be happy for them, but no I'm not happy for them to get relationships or pregnant by God knows who... No sorry not supporting that. I can't. Emotionally I can't I just don't want to be involved or talk about it or deal with it. Their relationships aren't helping me get into one.
I mean this in the nicest way possible, but sometimes friendship isn't always about being around when they're doing things you're interested in or even approve of. My best friend has been in and out rehab and off/on drugs a majority of our friendship. When she relapses, I'm there for her. When she is clean and sober, I cherish those months with her and praise her every step of the way. She's a "super senior" in undergrad and struggles to attend class, much less do the work or make very good grades. Grad school is out of the question with this friend. But I love her regardless, I value her as a person, and I cannot imagine my life without her in it. We laugh until we cry, share an incredible dancing hobby together, and she is my rock when I need her as well. The best friendships and relationships are give and take. I think someone else said this as well, it may have been what you quoted for the above response, but find yourself a truly valuable friendship and you will suddenly find much more joy out of life. I promise.
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You know, I always try to avoid threads when you're in them. You're such a freaking party pooper.
I like self reflection. It can be fun. This was fun. I enjoyed looking at the poll, and I like seeing how other people see themselves. Obviously people can influence their results, but that's also important in a different way.
Anyway, I also enjoyed doing the love languages test. It really helped me realize how I show love to others and helped me appreciate the love they send my way. I highly recommend it to others! (iirc, it's much shorter than MB, too, lol)
Thank you. He's a party pooper for me, too.
I also enjoyed the love languages test. I'm verbal affirmation, you?
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No one was boasting about being an introvert.
This was just for fun, I didn't mean for this to be taken super seriously.
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Wildly intelligent?
She did get accepted into 4/4 of the programs she applied to.
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You just kept tooting your own horn and basically ruled out anyone who isn't an INTJ.
That is absolutely not what I meant. I'm sorry if you got that idea from my posts.
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The latter half of your post makes me believe you should change that INTJ to INFJ.
But honestly, I believe it was in jest. Furthermore, you can logically see how your comments could be misread as boastful by someone who lacks context regarding your personality, tone, etc. Personally, I could care less whether you (or I, for that matter) received any title at any time...others may care more and may take mere mention as rudeness. Couple that opportunity for confusion with someone who has a heavy-handed disposition and brusque sense of humor, and you have the situation that played out above.
Definitely don't take it to heart--in fact, let it go completely. The topic continues to be interesting regardless and I'm very glad that you started it.
Haha, my Feeling is very developed for an INTJ. I also like to take enneagram quizzes, and I'm a very odd INTJ type. I'm an INTJ-4w: Individualist: sensitive, withdrawn type; intuitive, artistic, aesthetic, self-absorbed, and depressive.
Thank you for your kindness. I hope everyone else enjoys it too!
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What do we do when we oscillate between 2 types? The link to the test you posted earlier literally said I have no difference between T & F!
I'd probably read between the two types and go with the one that subjectively feels "right."
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Oh, I definitely was not teasing you, just responding to Gnome Chomsky's silly comment about whether members will come here to declare themselves "genius[es]". Like you, I too was in the Gifted and Talented Education program as a child. Nevertheless, I do not believe there is much that we can read into that label. There is a dearth of information about the value of these programs, different States have different testing requirements (some even have none), and the resources you receive through membership vary.
I know you weren't, I was responding to Gnome. I was even just about to say, in accordance with what you've just posted, there isn't much of a prestige to being labeled "gifted" as it is--some of my peers in the program are not people I would've pegged for it. I was just curious in relation to the MBTI test.
I guess I just don't understand why some people go out of their way to be mean to others. What do you get out of it? Gnome, you hurt my feelings, for sure, and all I wanted to do was discuss an interesting topic to me. What was the point of your comment?
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I scored a 130 on the Q section of the GRE, 160 V and 6 writing. Why be mean, man? I never said I'm a genius, I was just in the gifted program in school.
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Quit trying so hard. As others have mentioned, your attitude towards dating right now is unhealthy.
You're setting yourself up for an unhappy at best, and abusive/dependent relationship at worst.
Obviously you are wildly intelligent and capable of living life while sailing your own ship, alone. The best love will find you when you're a whole, happy person yourself--your radiance will attract other whole, happy people. I know we're probably not deterring you much based on your replies, but please file our posts away somewhere in the back of your mind.
You will be happy. Time is the best remedy for everything. Besides cancer.
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I added a poll. Everyone submit your answers!
I read a lot of psychology articles, and apparently a large majority of gifted college students are either INTJ or INTP. Not that others can't be gifted or are not gifted, these types are most prevalent among gifted data. Coincidentally, these types are also the rarest. As someone else mentioned, INxx types are rare, period. So what's the gist here? The rarest types are abundant among gifted IQ scores and higher education. There has to be some kind of similarity in the way our brains download and process reality.
I love to theorize on the personality characteristics of intelligence in my spare time, and another thread in the lobby right now made me want to ask this.
Just for fun as well, was anyone else in the gifted program during school? I'd LOVE to hear what personality types were in gifted programs. As I already said, I'm an INTJ and I was in the gifted program.
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Thank you Strong Flat White. What you say about aptitude hits home for me; I've never thought about it like that. English and reading have always been easy for me, even when I was very young. I never had to try in the language arts the way I struggled in undergrad and high school with math. I would eyeball my peers who breezed through algebra with disdain, but never really assumed it came to them like reading came to me. I did get a Kaplan workbook, and felt it was way too complicated for me on the quantitative. I winded up using Magoosh for quant instead and Kaplan for verbal studying.
Geodude, there are plenty of people who learn visually-spatially. Just because you're good at studying those topics doesn't mean I am. I'm not interested in them to begin with, the method I learn with magnifies my frustration with those subjects.
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Hi everyone.
I have an intense curiosity about the Myers-Briggs types. According to some journal articles I've read, there are types more common among higher levels of education and IQ. These types are usually introverted intuitive; their type begins with IN.
Anyone know what their type is? If you don't, here's the test!
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
I'm an INTJ according to this test, but I've also scored as INTP on others.
I'm interested to hear everyone's replies!
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Does anyone else feel sick when they think about their already submitted SOP?
There are so many things I wish I could go back and change now. I can't even bare to read the damn thing.
Anyone else feel this way? Gah.
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It sounds like a good sign. Also, please accept my apology for the dickish comment I made the other day. The tone came out wrong. Best of luck!
Thank you! Apology totally accepted
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Question for you guys, since my post in applicants forum didn't get many opinions:
One of my hopeful schools' graduate coordinator e-mailed me personally yesterday and told me my statement of purpose was missing (I know, so fail) and asked if I was still going to submit it. I don't know how I missed that, but I immediately uploaded it and thanked him. The application deadline has long since passed.
Is this a good sign? I know it wasn't an automated e-mail. What do you guys think?
I guess I got excited thinking perhaps they liked the rest of my application enough to reach out to me for an opportunity to submit my statement of purpose. I didn't think such generosity happened very often in graduate school admissions
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Bump. Anymore opinions?
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Do you guys think no news is good news? At what point of the year do you think it's bad to not have heard anything?
I've noticed PhD applicants appear to get sorted through before MA applicants. Do you guys think any MA'ers have heard anything back?
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Just a thought.. maybe we should be more concerned with all the people who come on Gradcafe and talk about the prestige of their undergraduate school, or its lack of prestige, or how the ranking of a school doesn't matter.. except it really does matter.. and those of us who didn't know any of this before leaving undergrad were sort of at a disadvantage.
I realize the above isn't written very clearly, but I think it's important to remember that we are all just following our dreams and doing what we can to reach them, hopefully without hurting people. Just because someone's parents can pay for an M.A. doesn't mean that the standards are NECESSARILY lower, and I'm not sure I see how it's all that different from someone getting into a certain undergraduate institution (that will adequately prepare them for grad school) by virtue of who their parents were, or where they live, or whatever.
Thank you. There are so many ways to disagree with me without being so angry about it. I never meant to put anyone down.
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Why are people so harsh on this forum? I truly, sincerely never meant to come off elitist or anything like that at all. I really didn't. I just answered a question someone asked with what I did on my application. Don't attack me for it. My application is not better than any other applicant's due to my personal source of funding. But if I get accepted, it's win for the program that I can pay for it, and it's win for me that I'm in. I just don't see how this is so ridiculous?
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I'm inclined to disagree with you.
First - I can't imagine "my parents are paying my bills" is the kind of privilege that most humanities professors want to surround themselves with. This isn't an insult - I'm just looking at my profs and I'm keeping my finger on the pulse of the blogs at The Chronicle.
Secondly - I really doubt fiscal security is a criterion when building a class. Departments build classes and select students for their intellectual capabilities.
Second-and-a-haf-ly - HOLY SMOKES! Win/Win? is this to suggest that the standards for people who can pay their own bill are somehow magically lower? You recognize this right? and you're okay with it?
All I did was say I can afford to attend without funding, because I can. Should I have not answered it at all? It was a specific question on the application. My parents don't pay my bills for me, but they would pay for more schooling. I didn't go into any detail.
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As I've argued elsewhere, there are immense benefits to being in an unfunded MA program. At least half my professors were in debt from their MA programs. I'm not from a wealthy family at all--my parents couldn't afford to have me live at home and I couldn't find work with a BA in English. When I was offered an unfunded MA at a top 50 school, I jumped at the chance. It has helped advance me a lot as a scholar and should help me get into a better program for PhD (theoretically). I'm currently working with my school's adcomm head to possibly publish. There's a decent chance I'll get into my current school's PhD program, which is fully funded at $20k a year and has an 80% placement rate. I was told I'd be insane not to take it by my undergraduate advisors.
There are plenty of benefits to an unfunded MA. It depends on your circumstance. No one should declare that any circumstance is never an option for others.
And yes, I have a ridiculous amount of debt. But I think it's worth it.
Thanks for the encouragement.
I wouldn't have any debt if my parents paid for MAPH at Chicago; I want readers to understand that. It may seem unwise to some, but I'm in a different situation, as shortstack said. I'm a full time professional writer, right now, at 22 years old with a BA in English. I want to attend graduate school for personal reasons, not just professional. I want to learn and better myself, and I'm fortunate enough to have parents who can foot the bill.
I also totally agree with Mikers, only each of us knows what's best for us.
MBTI types? Personality test
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Hallelujah! Seriously, I wonder every time I come into contact with Gnome and select others on these forums why they go out of their way to belittle others. His reputation in the positive two hundreds+ makes me feel very sad about the state of mind some forum members have. I just don't get it. No one in this entire thread bragged about anything.. I just asked questions I thought were interesting.
Gnome, picking on others constantly and consistently makes you appear to be the inwardly hurt one (for one reason or another, I'm not your therapist, just a sufferer of your negativity) and your "followers" also appear to suffer from the same cynical attitude. Kindness is the universal language. Learn to speak it.
Humor at the cost of others is never funny. It does, however, reflect on you negatively.