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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Sigaba in Monthly Top Posters Contest - August   
    MOO, the emphasis on number of posts is ill considered given the nature of this BB.
    A member could drive up one's post count in a number of existing pass the time threads. Another member could easily confuse the post count as an indication of knowledge and credibility and, in his haste, accept uncritically guidance that does not reflect "best practices" for securing admission to graduate school.
    I understand that the new ownership purchased TGC to make money. I think that the ownership team should invest more time developing an understanding of this BB and the needs of its members and, from there, develop a sustainable plan that squares the circle of increasing traffic without diluting the overall quality of the posts.
    My $0.02.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from rheya19 in Love, Academia and Success   
    Thank you for your message.
    My emotions aren't the best these days. I created this thread in November 2017 and my mental state has worsen regarding this. A guy I was dating asked me a few weeks ago if I could present him to a female friend. He basically said "you're brillant, beautiful, fun to be around but I don't love you."
    I cannot count the number of times I've had men telling me something remotely similar to that.
    You are good to remain hopeful. I have sincerely lost hope regarding this. I feel devastated and ashamed to be devastated over something like this, at my age. I don't know why it hurts so much.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to AP in Monthly Top Posters Contest - August   
    How does amount of posts speak to the quality of what is being discussed?
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to lemma in The Positivity Thread   
    My research trajectory for the next few years is finally coming together. Excited!
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to PokePsych in The Positivity Thread   
    I'm flying tomorrow to start the next chapter in my life. I'm anxious and excited and I'm sure my luggage is overweight lolz.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to surprise_quiche in The Positivity Thread   
    My partner finally met my extended family and they love him! Great news to end out the summer!
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Carly Rae Jepsen in The Positivity Thread   
    Moving on Tuesday and I haven't packed yet lol. I wanna take with me all my books, but space is so limited. Mainly because I am taking my mattress with me (yay for not sleeping on the floor of an empty, unfurnished apartment.)
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to ResilientDreams in Monthly Top Posters Contest - August   
    Whoa, I didn't realize that I was in the running for an Amazon gift card...better keep posting.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to FishNerd in Moving out - how early to start shopping for your house/appartment?   
    I hadn't thought of store closing sales - thanks for that good idea! And yeah I don't plan on immediately buying a couch so I will shop around a bit. I have no issue with used furniture normally but I am a bit hesitant about a used couch since I know someone who got bedbugs that way... If I could be guaranteed it didn't have bedbugs I would totally shop used.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from high_hopes in FRQSC (2019-2020) for Quebec residents   
    ah okay, after double-checking, no CCV this year and no LORs. Wow. So I just sent my application to get it over with since I have so many to do. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to ResilientDreams in The Positivity Thread   
    I wanted to bump the positivity thread again to tell everyone that I'm wishing you all the very best and that I know you'll all do great things. ❤️ 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to PokePsych in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I miss my boyfriend so so much.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from PokePsych in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I. am. bored. I. am. procrastinating.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from lemma in Love, Academia and Success   
    Thank you for your message.
    My emotions aren't the best these days. I created this thread in November 2017 and my mental state has worsen regarding this. A guy I was dating asked me a few weeks ago if I could present him to a female friend. He basically said "you're brillant, beautiful, fun to be around but I don't love you."
    I cannot count the number of times I've had men telling me something remotely similar to that.
    You are good to remain hopeful. I have sincerely lost hope regarding this. I feel devastated and ashamed to be devastated over something like this, at my age. I don't know why it hurts so much.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from ResilientDreams in Love, Academia and Success   
    Thank you for your message.
    My emotions aren't the best these days. I created this thread in November 2017 and my mental state has worsen regarding this. A guy I was dating asked me a few weeks ago if I could present him to a female friend. He basically said "you're brillant, beautiful, fun to be around but I don't love you."
    I cannot count the number of times I've had men telling me something remotely similar to that.
    You are good to remain hopeful. I have sincerely lost hope regarding this. I feel devastated and ashamed to be devastated over something like this, at my age. I don't know why it hurts so much.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to ResilientDreams in Love, Academia and Success   
    I know this is a really old thread, but I wanted to say that I relate to this so much. I am not a minority, but I have had people (including a male "friend" that I no longer speak to) tell me that because I'm so smart and so driven, I'm "scary". My response is always that it's their loss.
    It does get really lonely sometimes though, and I wish I had someone to share all my passions with and who will stand by my side through life's changes. I know friends can do that too, but it's not the same as someone who has made a commitment to be a lasting part of your life. I know I don't need a partner. I've gotten this far without one, and I will have a smoother transition to grad school and a new city than someone in a relationship. But...I want one. I want someone to give myself fully to and to share all those moments with and build a life with. And it's just super frustrating that it's not working out, and that people are suggesting it's because of a core part of who I am (my academic ambitions). I will NEVER change who I am...but I don't want to be alone either.
    I'm only 22, so I know it probably seems super ridiculous that I'm talking about this in such a dramatic way, but it's difficult especially when you see friends succeeding in their romantic life. It's hard not to compare and think that there is something fundamentally better about your friend, and something fundamentally deficient about you. I try to tell myself it's just a product of circumstance. I even downloaded a dating app because I thought all I needed was a little help actually meeting guys...got myself into an emotionally abusive four month relationship that way. My first relationship ever. So that didn't help my morale and it did teach me that I'm better off on my own than with the wrong person, but...I'm still hoping that right person will come along.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from XVIIA in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I am going to do the interview. #courage #anxiety 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to megabee in Moving out - how early to start shopping for your house/appartment?   
    Getting home necessities from scratch can be difficult and expensive. Easily movable things like kitchen stuff (pans/small appliances/utensils/tupperware/dishes/etc) can add up. I've been buying a few things every paycheck and when I see them on sale so I don't get hit with a huge bill. These things don't take up that much space and can be tossed in a car. Buying this stuff early is worth it.
    As for furniture, I'd hold off. I'm buying stuff near my new place, since it's a bit far from where I am now. My university sells old office furniture out of a warehouse, and I just don't see the point in buying something sturdy like a desk or a filing cabinet brand new. Of course, even without that option, there's always thrift stores and estate sales and such. 
    Spending the money to move furniture is only viable if you already have the furniture, I think. Buying furniture where you live now + moving expenses probably costs a lot more than buying furniture there. Or, if you're shopping online, feel free to set aside a list of things that you like and be ready to order so it arrives the day your lease starts.
    Random furniture stores close all the time. You can generally find a good quality, new couch for a significantly reduced price if you seek out those closeout/clearance sales. Used is cheaper than new, obviously, if you're alright with that. A couch also isn't something that you necessarily need to have ready the minute you move in. You can wait a bit, shop around, and hold off on buying for as long as you need (or until you make enough friends that the seating situation becomes embarrassing).
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to iwearflowers in Moving out - how early to start shopping for your house/appartment?   
    Since you have some time, I'd start looking now to get a sense of (a) what you like and (b) what you can afford. I used a Pinterest board to keep track of ideas. However, I would strongly recommend not buying things until you're actually in your space so you have a better sense of how things will fit. 
    I've had a lot of success ordering things online that come flatpacked. Amazon, Walmart, Wayfair, etc often have affordable options and will deliver to your home for free/cheap. As a bonus, online options often have very specific measurements, so you can get a sense of how things fit. I also used an iPad app that allows you to plan rooms (kind of build a blue print and lets you customize furniture so you can see how things fit), which was super helpful because I'm SO BAD at spatial logic.
    I would also say, don't feel like you have to move in, decorate, and get everything just perfect before classes start. Over my last couple of moves, I've found that I really have to be in a space for about 6 months before I really have a sense of what it "needs". Set it up as much as you can and then give it some time before you commit to all the final, homey touches so you end up with things that really work well for the space.
    I'd also echo @a_sort_of_fractious_angel's recommendation about figuring out neighborhoods and rental patterns now. If you can make some visits to your new city, that would be particularly helpful. When I moved to DC, I signed a three month sublease and then spent weekends wondering around the city with the PadMapper app open to see what I liked and could afford.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to FishNerd in Moving out - how early to start shopping for your house/appartment?   
    I like reading that everyone's tips kinda lined up with what I decided to do for my move. I am also planning on buying a good chunk of my things once I'm in my new city so that's nice to hear that other people agree that that is a good plan. I am however bringing some furniture with me in a moving truck that I didn't want to part with. I have really nice furniture for my bedroom that I got as hand-me-downs and I really didn't want to have to pay to furnish all of those things again (and I think it is cheaper to get a moving truck to bring them with me than buy all of those pieces again). Also it means I don't have to worry about buying a new bed which makes me happy because I sleep like a dream in my current bed! So I suggest if you can afford to move some pieces you really like and are willing to put in the effort to move them then definitely do that! But if buying all new things is most feasible
    Like @iwearflowers and @a_sort_of_fractious_angel, I also suggest watching the rental market to get a good idea of rentals patterns because I think by doing that myself I was able to plan my trip out to my new location at a time that a lot of listings would be available to view for the time period I was wanting to move in. I think doing this is what helped get me an apartment that checked off almost everything I wanted!
    Side note to others that might see this: any suggestions on where to get a couch that is good quality and won't have saggy or mishaped cushions after a year or two that also isn't outrageously expensive (I'm think 500-1200 range is the range I'm expected to spend)?
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to TGCA in Monthly Top Posters Contest - August   
    August Top Posters Week 1 Update:
    1) @Adelaide9216
    2) @Sigaba
    3) @BabyScientist
    4) @Warelin
    5) @ResilientDreams
    6) @JDtoPhDmaybe
    7) @Hk328
    8 @bayessays
    9) @E-P
    10) @kgras13
    Great to see a few new members on this list! Remember, top 3 receive a $25 Amazon gift card. The difference between 10th place and 3rd is still quite slim.
    Announcement:
    I'd like to introduce @telkanuru and @punctilious as new moderators on the forum! Very excited to have them on the team.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from Minerva1917 in Working full-time during your PhD?   
    Don't want to repeat what's been said above, but I don't think it's realistic to work full-time while doing a PhD full-time in my opinion. I think it's setting yourself up to failure. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to TakeruK in What piece(s) of advice would you give to new TAs?   
    I agree that TAs should be nice and not overstep their "powers". But I definitely do not agree that we should be nice with grades and only give grades we would also want. Remember that TAs are graduate students who, on average, got into grad schools because they tend to do better in courses than the average undergraduate student. Therefore, it's not surprising that some of your students will do fairly poorly in certain classes and I would say that you should not be afraid to fail or give a D grade if that is indeed the quality of their work. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to EndlessAshley in What piece(s) of advice would you give to new TAs?   
    My little piece of advice, silly as it may seem, is to use a binder and carry it with you to every class. Preferably a binder with tabs. 
     
    During my first semester as a TA, I made PowerPoints and uploaded them to the course website after each class, I always handed back graded assignments by the next class meeting, I developed lesson plans, and I brought print-outs with all answers to the preassigned study questions. Basically, I did my job. Nevertheless, some of my student evaluations were "neutral" about whether I was prepared and organized, and some even disagreed. I couldn't help but wonder (a smidge bitterly) what more they could ask of me. 
     
    This time around, all of my students gave me highest marks for preparedness and organization, even though I didn't alter my preparation time or methods at all. The only thing that changed was that I began to carry around a binder with all course materials separated by week, rather than bringing only that week's materials. It's such a simple little thing to do to reinforce the impression that you're organized, which I'm beginning to discover carries almost as much weight as actually being organized. (But of course, do be prepared and organized! Off weeks really don't go unnoticed!)
     
    So there's one quick trick that can elevate at least that part of the students' perceptions of you, and I also found that it made me feel more put together as well - and so more confident. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to fuzzylogician in First TAship ever. Could you share yours?   
    There is lots of advice you can find by browsing this section of the board. Here's a place to get started: 
     
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