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    Halek got a reaction from bibliophile222 in The Positivity Thread   
    I'm working with an native american tribe this summer and they had a conference on planing and ecology for indigenous people last week.
    My coworkers being who they are, I had no choice but to come. Even though sometimes I felt awkward as one of the only white people, it was honestly a life changing experience. I'm now reconsidering how ecologist view the world. Everything in ecology is so centered on competition, and now I'm starting to wonder if that is actually just a reflection on cultural values (ie everything in the west is based on competition, so we have come to understand our environment based on those values) and passing it off as some objective reality.
    It's a hard question to grapple with. And I'm sure whatever idea this leads to won't be popular with other ecologists. But I'm excited for this journey, and I'm thankful for everyone at the institute for allowing me to participate!
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    Halek got a reaction from Teaching Faculty Wannabe in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    Oh yeah I totally agree with the leading on thing! It's why I didn't let the situation draw out.
    I actually had a situation similar to yours right when I was leaving working as a tech and going into grad school (so last summer). The situation turned so abusive I no longer consider the person a friend and I've honestly just started to really seriously heal from it. 
    That's also why I knew it wouldn't work, because with how early I am in healing from that, I need to feel really secure if I were to go into a relationship right now. 
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    Halek got a reaction from Teaching Faculty Wannabe in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    Update:
    I turned him down. It was the right thing to do. But I also feel horrible because I REALLY want to be in a relationship. But I know that a relationship with him wouldn't be healthy for me. 
    I'm so tired I can barely move. And I don't know if it's from the field work or from him.
    I should be reading some Ethnographies but I feel like I just need to sleep.
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    Halek got a reaction from Maylee in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    Update:
    I turned him down. It was the right thing to do. But I also feel horrible because I REALLY want to be in a relationship. But I know that a relationship with him wouldn't be healthy for me. 
    I'm so tired I can barely move. And I don't know if it's from the field work or from him.
    I should be reading some Ethnographies but I feel like I just need to sleep.
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    Halek got a reaction from Sigaba in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    Update:
    I turned him down. It was the right thing to do. But I also feel horrible because I REALLY want to be in a relationship. But I know that a relationship with him wouldn't be healthy for me. 
    I'm so tired I can barely move. And I don't know if it's from the field work or from him.
    I should be reading some Ethnographies but I feel like I just need to sleep.
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    Halek got a reaction from Hossurc in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    Sometimes it feels like I don't belong in grad school because I don't like to get drunk and I don't really smoke. 
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    Halek got a reaction from XVIIA in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm tired to defending my adulthood to people. I worked in the "real world" before coming to grad school, you can't just take my "adult" status away from me like that.
    But the more I defend the more it's used against me, like a teenager saying they're an adult. I'm 24 year old, I live separate from my parents, I'm financially independent, I actually live on the opposite side of the continent from any sort of support network. I'm pretty sure I'm an adult. And yet, at least once every few weeks, I gotta have this same argument again and again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from _angua in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm tired to defending my adulthood to people. I worked in the "real world" before coming to grad school, you can't just take my "adult" status away from me like that.
    But the more I defend the more it's used against me, like a teenager saying they're an adult. I'm 24 year old, I live separate from my parents, I'm financially independent, I actually live on the opposite side of the continent from any sort of support network. I'm pretty sure I'm an adult. And yet, at least once every few weeks, I gotta have this same argument again and again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from Teaching Faculty Wannabe in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm tired to defending my adulthood to people. I worked in the "real world" before coming to grad school, you can't just take my "adult" status away from me like that.
    But the more I defend the more it's used against me, like a teenager saying they're an adult. I'm 24 year old, I live separate from my parents, I'm financially independent, I actually live on the opposite side of the continent from any sort of support network. I'm pretty sure I'm an adult. And yet, at least once every few weeks, I gotta have this same argument again and again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from Cheshire_Cat in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm tired to defending my adulthood to people. I worked in the "real world" before coming to grad school, you can't just take my "adult" status away from me like that.
    But the more I defend the more it's used against me, like a teenager saying they're an adult. I'm 24 year old, I live separate from my parents, I'm financially independent, I actually live on the opposite side of the continent from any sort of support network. I'm pretty sure I'm an adult. And yet, at least once every few weeks, I gotta have this same argument again and again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from Adelaide9216 in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm tired to defending my adulthood to people. I worked in the "real world" before coming to grad school, you can't just take my "adult" status away from me like that.
    But the more I defend the more it's used against me, like a teenager saying they're an adult. I'm 24 year old, I live separate from my parents, I'm financially independent, I actually live on the opposite side of the continent from any sort of support network. I'm pretty sure I'm an adult. And yet, at least once every few weeks, I gotta have this same argument again and again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from PokePsych in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I was sharing a meme about how smokey the bear is propoganda (I work in fire ecology and anthropology) with some friends. I thought it'd get some questions. I was not expecting my friend who had made a video game for the DNR to call me a liar, try to send me the emails of people who run smokey the bear in Michigan, and say that she doesn't trust academia.
    Everyone is now saying that the meme was "clearly" a bad choice, even though people have sent more obviously controversial things to the chat. I'm prepared for people to disagree with my research. I'm not prepared to be attacked by people that I thought were safe around. I no longer feel comfortable sharing what I'm going to spend the next six years of my life researching with my friends and I'm angry and sad about it.
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    Halek got a reaction from jmaginary in State College, PA   
    Avoid the area directly south east of downtown, this is where the frat houses are so it's quite a bit louder. I live on Westerly Parkway and I've seen some houses for rent over in this area, but that could be the "by room" situation that you mentioned. Overall, the area by the high school is nice and quite. I walk in, another member of my cohort bikes in, and several take the bus. So depending on how you like to commute you can make anything work at this distance. 
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    Halek reacted to Adelaide9216 in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I just wanted to let you know that I also feel isolated. Take care. ❤️ 
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    Halek got a reaction from Adelaide9216 in The Positivity Thread   
    I ended up accepting the nomination to be the go-between between the ecology students and general grad school. While I'd love to be president in the long term, I don't have a lot of connections within the department yet so maybe next year when I feel a little better connected (hurray first year student problems)
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    Halek got a reaction from Teaching Faculty Wannabe in The Positivity Thread   
    I'm starting to meet people in the Anthropology department, I might be teaching half of the new cohort how to play dnd, and I'm going to visit old friends next weekend~
    Also research stuff is slowly moving forward. Which is both exciting and terrifying.
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    Halek got a reaction from Teaching Faculty Wannabe in The Positivity Thread   
    Two people (I'm assuming in my cohort) nominated me for two ecology grad student association positions (one of them being president). I'm both flattered and horrified and unsure if I should accept the nominations.
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    Halek got a reaction from Adelaide9216 in The Positivity Thread   
    Two people (I'm assuming in my cohort) nominated me for two ecology grad student association positions (one of them being president). I'm both flattered and horrified and unsure if I should accept the nominations.
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    Halek got a reaction from Teaching Faculty Wannabe in The Positivity Thread   
    I ended up dropping in on a meeting an undergrad was having with my advisor about life after college. I ended up talking to her for an hour. After, my advisor said I did a good job. I'm really happy that I was able to give her some really honest advice. 
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    Halek got a reaction from AllieKat in The Positivity Thread   
    I remembered that Hamilton exists. This was my writing music back for my capstone in undergrad and also seems like perfect "angry about relationships" music. Thank you, Lin Manuel Miranda. You've made and PhD student sing while writing in lab. 
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    Halek got a reaction from MettaSutta in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    Nope. It's not gonna work. God damn it. This is the closest I've ever gotten to a real relationship. Damn it. 
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    Halek got a reaction from XVIIA in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I wish that I had a support system here. I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety and having no one at all here to lean on is making it really hard. I'm more worried about being alone here for 6 years than I am about course work or research. 
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    Halek got a reaction from jmillar in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm currently signed up for a group.....but I'm the first one to sign up. So who knows when it'll start. Also, there are rules against making friends in the group. Which makes sense. But I feel like I'm grasping at straws.
    Everyone keeps saying "just wait it'll happen". But I've lived in so many places where I've been there half a year and still haven't been close to anyone and I'm so scared of that happening again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from Adelaide9216 in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm currently signed up for a group.....but I'm the first one to sign up. So who knows when it'll start. Also, there are rules against making friends in the group. Which makes sense. But I feel like I'm grasping at straws.
    Everyone keeps saying "just wait it'll happen". But I've lived in so many places where I've been there half a year and still haven't been close to anyone and I'm so scared of that happening again. 
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    Halek got a reaction from MettaSutta in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I'm currently signed up for a group.....but I'm the first one to sign up. So who knows when it'll start. Also, there are rules against making friends in the group. Which makes sense. But I feel like I'm grasping at straws.
    Everyone keeps saying "just wait it'll happen". But I've lived in so many places where I've been there half a year and still haven't been close to anyone and I'm so scared of that happening again. 
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