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    bgk reacted to fuzzylogician in My husband has turned into something horrible   
    Okay, I'll voice the possibly less popular opinion. Your responsibility is to yourself. You don't have to stay with him and you are not responsible for getting him better or for educating him. You need to take care of yourself. If you do decide you want to try and stay, I think it's of utmost importance to get support from others. Can you involve his family? friends? do you have a support system around you to take care of you, if you need it? If he wasn't always like this, something must have triggered this, and maybe you can help him through it. Whatever it is, though, you shouldn't do it alone, and you shouldn't let him take it out on you. This sounds like a situation that requires professional help. I know that posting here was probably already hard enough, so maybe the next step is for you to find counseling on your own, maybe through your school, before you think about talking to him. Figure out your resources and support network, then come up with a plan to confront him. I hope that there is no fear of physical violence, but if there is, let me repeat again: your responsibility is to yourself first. Make sure that you are safe, and take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. If that means you need to leave him, I think that's totally understandable and no one from the outside can judge. And if you choose to stay and try and fix it, again I hope that no one will judge and that you can find the help you need. 
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    bgk got a reaction from sqxz in 2016 Applicant Profiles and Admissions Results   
    Nope :-) 
    Just doing a few upgrades ... poor server has been barely hanging on for about a year.  I think I've got it back under control now.   Good luck everyone!
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    bgk got a reaction from Microburritology in Forum Stats for Dec '15   
    Hey All,
    In a return to times of old, I'm resurrecting the monthly top posters.  Here's the story:
    biosci    176 biochemgirl67    132 rising_star    102 fuzzylogician    91 TakeruK    90 Bioenchilada    79 bicsy    72 Microburritology    65 peachypie    64 Extra Espresso    60 And as a bit of motivation, as of today here's where things stand in Jan '16 .. 
    Yav Friendly    111 piglet33    61 Pink Fuzzy Bunny    60 peachypie    57 onceinalifetime    57 fuzzylogician    57 Need Coffee in an IV    57 TakeruK    56 gingin6789    53 artsy16    52 How will things stand at the end of Jan?  
    Cheers!
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from Extra Espresso in Forum Stats for Dec '15   
    Hey All,
    In a return to times of old, I'm resurrecting the monthly top posters.  Here's the story:
    biosci    176 biochemgirl67    132 rising_star    102 fuzzylogician    91 TakeruK    90 Bioenchilada    79 bicsy    72 Microburritology    65 peachypie    64 Extra Espresso    60 And as a bit of motivation, as of today here's where things stand in Jan '16 .. 
    Yav Friendly    111 piglet33    61 Pink Fuzzy Bunny    60 peachypie    57 onceinalifetime    57 fuzzylogician    57 Need Coffee in an IV    57 TakeruK    56 gingin6789    53 artsy16    52 How will things stand at the end of Jan?  
    Cheers!
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from gingin6789 in Forum Stats for Dec '15   
    Hey All,
    In a return to times of old, I'm resurrecting the monthly top posters.  Here's the story:
    biosci    176 biochemgirl67    132 rising_star    102 fuzzylogician    91 TakeruK    90 Bioenchilada    79 bicsy    72 Microburritology    65 peachypie    64 Extra Espresso    60 And as a bit of motivation, as of today here's where things stand in Jan '16 .. 
    Yav Friendly    111 piglet33    61 Pink Fuzzy Bunny    60 peachypie    57 onceinalifetime    57 fuzzylogician    57 Need Coffee in an IV    57 TakeruK    56 gingin6789    53 artsy16    52 How will things stand at the end of Jan?  
    Cheers!
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from biotechie in Forum Stats for Dec '15   
    Hey All,
    In a return to times of old, I'm resurrecting the monthly top posters.  Here's the story:
    biosci    176 biochemgirl67    132 rising_star    102 fuzzylogician    91 TakeruK    90 Bioenchilada    79 bicsy    72 Microburritology    65 peachypie    64 Extra Espresso    60 And as a bit of motivation, as of today here's where things stand in Jan '16 .. 
    Yav Friendly    111 piglet33    61 Pink Fuzzy Bunny    60 peachypie    57 onceinalifetime    57 fuzzylogician    57 Need Coffee in an IV    57 TakeruK    56 gingin6789    53 artsy16    52 How will things stand at the end of Jan?  
    Cheers!
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from gughok in Forum Stats for Dec '15   
    Hey All,
    In a return to times of old, I'm resurrecting the monthly top posters.  Here's the story:
    biosci    176 biochemgirl67    132 rising_star    102 fuzzylogician    91 TakeruK    90 Bioenchilada    79 bicsy    72 Microburritology    65 peachypie    64 Extra Espresso    60 And as a bit of motivation, as of today here's where things stand in Jan '16 .. 
    Yav Friendly    111 piglet33    61 Pink Fuzzy Bunny    60 peachypie    57 onceinalifetime    57 fuzzylogician    57 Need Coffee in an IV    57 TakeruK    56 gingin6789    53 artsy16    52 How will things stand at the end of Jan?  
    Cheers!
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from artsy16 in Forum Stats for Dec '15   
    Hey All,
    In a return to times of old, I'm resurrecting the monthly top posters.  Here's the story:
    biosci    176 biochemgirl67    132 rising_star    102 fuzzylogician    91 TakeruK    90 Bioenchilada    79 bicsy    72 Microburritology    65 peachypie    64 Extra Espresso    60 And as a bit of motivation, as of today here's where things stand in Jan '16 .. 
    Yav Friendly    111 piglet33    61 Pink Fuzzy Bunny    60 peachypie    57 onceinalifetime    57 fuzzylogician    57 Need Coffee in an IV    57 TakeruK    56 gingin6789    53 artsy16    52 How will things stand at the end of Jan?  
    Cheers!
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from Dareelaheks in Blogging!   
    Hi Folks,
     
    It's been a while since I've had the time to dedicate any attention to the forum.  Many thanks to rising star, Eigen and fuzzy_logician for keeping the show on the road.
     
    Anyway - In past years we've opened up blogging to folks who were interested in sharing their admissions journey with a wider audience.  If anyone is interested in doing that for this season, please reply to this thread!
     
    Cheers
     
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from rish_bhar in Forum Stats Feb '13   
    Hi Guys!
     
    Apologies for the long delay.   Finally, a respectable, 3-4 day delay :-)
     
    Top 10 Posters
    uromastyx 272 asleepawake 272 jmarti37 271 DontHate 259 girl who wears glasses 232 dazedandbemused 215 Pericles II.ii.48 210 CGMJ 203 Quigley 192 RubyBright 175   Congrats uromastyx! Also to Quigley, slowly moving up the rnaks!

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    In total there were 33,176 posts made this month (32,554 in Feb 2012). There were 735,623 visits, 217,630 Unique Visitors and 4.0M pageviews to the forum.
     
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    bgk got a reaction from angel_kaye13 in Assistant Professors - potential supervisors?   
    In the US the full time "academics" i.e. people who do teaching and research are generally all referred to as professor, which is a job title. In terms of seniority it goes "Assistant", "Associate" and "Professor". Generally assistant profs are on the tenure track, but not yet tenured. This means they are essentially being tested for 4-6 years. Assuming they make suitable progress then they are given tenure (giving them all the academic freedom they need without the worry of being fired, say ). Along with tenure usually comes the promotion to Associate Professor.

    There are various merits and demerits of going with an assistant (untenured) vs a tenured prof. My experience has been that the good assistant profs, fresh out of graduate school or postdoc, are full of interesting and relevant research ideas and are willing to help you succeed in your research, they can be quite pushy, which is good. Some tenured profs are like this too, but less so. Joining an assistant prof who is 3.5 years in to their research is a slight gamble, because in 2 more years they may not gain tenure. Although usually they would know this themselves and so would probably not take on any new students.

    Hope that helps?!

    PS For your Stanford professor, I'm sure she gets a lot of email asking about the application process. Some profs have time to respond, but many do not. I wouldn't take it personally.
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    bgk got a reaction from iphi in Blogging!   
    Hi Folks,
     
    It's been a while since I've had the time to dedicate any attention to the forum.  Many thanks to rising star, Eigen and fuzzy_logician for keeping the show on the road.
     
    Anyway - In past years we've opened up blogging to folks who were interested in sharing their admissions journey with a wider audience.  If anyone is interested in doing that for this season, please reply to this thread!
     
    Cheers
     
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from maelia8 in Blogging!   
    Hi Folks,
     
    It's been a while since I've had the time to dedicate any attention to the forum.  Many thanks to rising star, Eigen and fuzzy_logician for keeping the show on the road.
     
    Anyway - In past years we've opened up blogging to folks who were interested in sharing their admissions journey with a wider audience.  If anyone is interested in doing that for this season, please reply to this thread!
     
    Cheers
     
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from biotechie in Blogging!   
    Hi Folks,
     
    It's been a while since I've had the time to dedicate any attention to the forum.  Many thanks to rising star, Eigen and fuzzy_logician for keeping the show on the road.
     
    Anyway - In past years we've opened up blogging to folks who were interested in sharing their admissions journey with a wider audience.  If anyone is interested in doing that for this season, please reply to this thread!
     
    Cheers
     
    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from ignoldend in Forum Stats for Sep' 11   
    I can't believe it's October already ... here are the stats:

    Top 10 Posters
    Sigaba 85
    George2248 82
    ktel 70
    orst11 68
    runonsentence 66
    dimanche0829 56
    Timshel 49
    InquilineKea 43
    Eigen 43
    gellert 41

    Congrats Sigaba! Yet another newcomer, welcome.

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    In total there were 3,514 posts made this month (2,547 in September 2010). There were 133,302 visits, 77,189 Unique Visitors and 533,419 pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from ReidGN in Anti-spam measure   
    Hi Guys,

    As you may have noticed we've been facing massive amounts of spam over the past several weeks. As a countermeasure I've made it so that all new members must wait for a moderator to approve a post before they will display.

    This is obviously burdensome on the moderators, all of whom have better things to do be doing, but will have to do for now.

    That reminds me - if anyone is interested in helping out with moderating the forums, your help would be greatly appreciated. Obviously we would only accept certain candidates, but if you want to throw your hat in the ring .. send me a PM.

    That's all for now.

    -bgk
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    bgk got a reaction from ReidGN in Forum Stats for Apr' 11   
    Top 10 Posters


    kroms 155
    jendoly 143
    newms 118
    psyentist4good 114
    Bukharan 100
    Eigen 89
    farnsworth 88
    IRdreams 84
    crimsonengineer87 83
    Mal83 77

    Congrats kroms! 3rd to 1st place.

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    In total there were 15,040 posts made this month (9,138 in April 2010). There were 444,438 visits, 141,774 Unique Visitors and 2,271,802 Pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from VBD in Forum Stats for Nov '12   
    Hi Folks, (Not entirely sure what happened to October!)

    Top 10 Posters
    TakeruK 84
    rems 63
    midnight streetlight 62
    fuzzylogician 56
    Bearcat1 55
    Chai_latte 52
    1Q84 51
    econosocio 51
    Quant_Liz_Lemon 46
    iowaguy 44

    Congrats TakeruK! Nice to see some new faces in the top ten club!

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    In total there were 4,513 posts made this month (4,928 in Nov 2011). There were 279,522 visits, 168,987 Unique Visitors and 919,513 pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from _Si_ in Forum Stats for Mar '12   
    Top 10 Posters
    oseirus 388
    abc123xtc 272
    Sigaba 174
    TripWillis 147
    FutureEdStudent12 141
    erry3779 141
    cafeomuerte 127
    ANDS! 123
    cokohlik 121
    Stately Plump 121
    Congrats Oseirus (moved up one spot from last month :-) )

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    In total there were 32,194 posts made this month (27,524 in March 2011). There were 710,190 visits, 200,907 Unique Visitors and 3,877,073 pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from Zermentitarax in Forum Stats for Nov '12   
    Hi Folks, (Not entirely sure what happened to October!)

    Top 10 Posters
    TakeruK 84
    rems 63
    midnight streetlight 62
    fuzzylogician 56
    Bearcat1 55
    Chai_latte 52
    1Q84 51
    econosocio 51
    Quant_Liz_Lemon 46
    iowaguy 44

    Congrats TakeruK! Nice to see some new faces in the top ten club!

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    In total there were 4,513 posts made this month (4,928 in Nov 2011). There were 279,522 visits, 168,987 Unique Visitors and 919,513 pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from Soleil ت in Forum Stats for Dec '12   
    Hi Guys!
     
    Well.  Hard to believe it's almost been 7 years of the Gradcafe .... (Feb 2006 is its anniversary as best I remember).  Anyway, here's the stats for Dec '12.  Thanks for all contributors.
     
    Top 10 Posters
    DontHate 272 asleepawake 123 girl who wears glasses 123 rems 116 econosocio 104 DarwinAG 87 bamafan 86 Eigen 77 waparys 75 PhDreams 75   Congrats DontHate! As always great to see new names (and some old faithfuls = dedicated Mods )

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    In total there were 7,270 posts made this month (5,616 in Dec 2011). There were 307,552 visits, 159,950 Unique Visitors and 1.2M pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from Nduwayo Hermenegilde in Blogging '12-'13?   
    Hey Guys!

    Who's interested in blogging their admissions story on the GradCafe? See previous journeys here. I've heard that it's quite cathartic ... :-)

    PM or reply to this thread.

    -BK
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    bgk got a reaction from arraleErabe in Forum Stats for Nov '12   
    Hi Folks, (Not entirely sure what happened to October!)

    Top 10 Posters
    TakeruK 84
    rems 63
    midnight streetlight 62
    fuzzylogician 56
    Bearcat1 55
    Chai_latte 52
    1Q84 51
    econosocio 51
    Quant_Liz_Lemon 46
    iowaguy 44

    Congrats TakeruK! Nice to see some new faces in the top ten club!

    By the number(s)

    In total there were 4,513 posts made this month (4,928 in Nov 2011). There were 279,522 visits, 168,987 Unique Visitors and 919,513 pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from devonte in Forum Stats for Nov '12   
    Hi Folks, (Not entirely sure what happened to October!)

    Top 10 Posters
    TakeruK 84
    rems 63
    midnight streetlight 62
    fuzzylogician 56
    Bearcat1 55
    Chai_latte 52
    1Q84 51
    econosocio 51
    Quant_Liz_Lemon 46
    iowaguy 44

    Congrats TakeruK! Nice to see some new faces in the top ten club!

    By the number(s)

    In total there were 4,513 posts made this month (4,928 in Nov 2011). There were 279,522 visits, 168,987 Unique Visitors and 919,513 pageviews to the forum.
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    bgk got a reaction from Seatbelt Blue in Forum Stats for Sep '12   
    Hi Folks,

    Woot! New top ten time!

    Top 10 Posters
    Usmivka 74
    Eigen 50
    Dal PhDer 45
    SymmetryOfImperfection 40
    fuzzylogician 31
    New England Nat 31
    amlobo 31
    emmm 30
    aberrant 28
    TMP 27
    Congrats Usmivka! Welcome (or welcome back) to the top 10 club all.

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    In total there were 3,192 posts made this month (3,497 in Aug 2012). There were 202,238 visits, 127,278 Unique Visitors and 632,250 pageviews to the forum.
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