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    hyperjulie reacted to dr. t in How to Deal Problem Students as a TA   
    Were students in a class to have such disabilities, it is also incumbent upon them to contact the appropriate university resources, who in turn have a responsibility to create a proactive plan of action with the student and help both the student and instructor to implement it. An instructor may recommend such resources to a student, but is in no way obligated to accommodate a student who fails to utilize them. In other words, disability, visible or not, may explain bad behavior, but it does not excuse it. 
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    hyperjulie reacted to dr. t in How to Deal Problem Students as a TA   
    I understand I'm a bit more sensitive than most to the nuances of language for professional reasons, but when you say that someone has an issue "that would cause them to say or do things when they are triggered that you may find offensive," your word choice, deliberately or not, exculpates the person whose behavior is in question. If you did not intend this, you should have said that certain actions "may act as triggers and cause them to behave offensively." Swearing at your TA (the example given above) is offensive, regardless or originating circumstances. And to put the discussion in this thread as you have, where there is no real indication that any of the factors you raise are in play, is similarly questionable.
    I'm not going to deal with each point you bring up, both for reasons of time and because most of them don't seem particularly relevant to any of the things being discussed here. But your example, that of a TA acting like a little fascist, is a useful point. If a person cannot, for whatever reason, handle someone with no real authority being overbearing and bossy without physical or verbal violence, they should never have been put in the classroom to begin with. They are not ready for it. And, as adults, it is their responsibility to make sure they are.
    Triggers and the psychological conditions that underlie their activation are incredibly serious things, and every TA and professor should treat those subject to them with respect, understanding, and kindness, but your posts here trivialize the concept while simultaneously infantilizing those so afflicted.  
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    hyperjulie got a reaction from fencergirl in Any thesis suggestions in sociolinguistics!!   
    @fencergirl  - I don't know if this is how it works for everyone, but in my experience part of the reason why you have an advisor is because you can bring ideas that aren't maybe 100% but are in the right ballpark, and they can use their many years of expertise to guide you. Some advisors are really harsh and difficult to please, so YMMV, but if you work with a reasonable person, even if they don't like your idea as is, they may help you to shift it in a good direction. Even as a fourth year, I went to my most recent advisor meeting with an idea for my dissertation. He liked it, and made a suggestion to improve it, and now it's something we're both super excited about.
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Lol Ratlab... Umm I will probably still join eharmony, still have the 50s lifestyle and also have a social work degree. I have to do something until I find the husband. Haha the fact that you're actually mad is funny sorry it just is.

    GEO I watched Sex and the City when Charlotte became Jewish for her husband... I don't know think I want to do that. Lol
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    I'm not even going to sit up and lie about this anymore because it's dumb, I'm just jealous.  I have no control over being so jealous.  I wasn't lying about never having a scare or being responsible.  For the most part I have always been fairly responsible when it came to BC and condom usage and even in the very VERY RARE times that I may not have been the absolute MOST responsible person I still didn't get pregnant, but I always did things to prevent getting pregnant like taking a Plan B if I needed. Anyways I don't even know the OP I don't really care that much.  I still think that if you don't want kids then be careful but whatever. This post popped up literally like 5 mins after my friend told me she is pregnant and so it was definitely not my day.  I don't feel bad about what I said though and I'm still going to school for social work and counseling.
     
    And yes I understand how "long term relationships" work and I don't care a lot about PhD programs because.. I'm never going to pursue one.  Just being honest. 
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Ok but who got the OP into the predicament that he is in? Like honestly? 
     
    I get the whole it COULD happen, I don't know anyone it has happened to but I get it, it happens but still.. It's just annoying like seriously people get themselves in these positions and then freak out, whose fault is it.. honestly. 
     
    I have thought a lot about the fact that when I am working I am going to see people like this and I am obviously going to have to tell them how "oh it's ok blah blah" and that does worry me BUT there are other aspects I like and I won't have to deal with totally irresponsible people all day every single day I figure. 
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Lol monochrome it's a little late on the social work thing.. Like I said I'm glad I didn't make THOSE mistakes.
     
    I also never said that I was going to school to find a husband solely.  I am going to school to pursue a career, finding a husband is a major want but I mean I could find that before I start a program and be just as satisfied. 
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Haha I have friends thanks, funny enough my friend is going through this same thing right now. She JUST found out she's pregnant and I have actually been pretty decent with her even though I think she's making the most awful decision but whatever. That's the whole reason this post even stood out to me and I felt the need to say something. People are just so irresponsible nowadays.. I'm so glad I'm not. I haven't had so much as a pregnancy scare so I just don't get it but whatever.

    Well I'm sorry you're infertile that's really sad... But anyways why would anyone want to be pregnant in school, in a PhD program.. Whatever
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    .... I know the whole "birth control fails, condoms fail" argument (even though I have NEVER once met someone with that as their excuse but ok). Anyways like I said if you don't want a baby or aren't READY for one then we all know how they are created. 
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Jealous of???? 
     
    Believe me if I wanted to be pregnant right now I am sure I could.. not that hard to be irresponsible, obviously
     
    Out of curiosity how old is the OP?
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Well actually I said my THERAPIST had an ideal situation. My point is if you don't want a kid then we all know what it takes to make a kid. If I was in a PhD program I wouldn't get pregnant if I didn't WANT to. Just saying. What I said was honest. I mean HE created his complex situation did he not?


    Anyways whatever I'm not going to argue about it.
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    I mean I would think one would think of how a baby would effect their life BEFORE they do the things that create babies... Anyways it is in there now so guess you just have to adjust. Good luck. 
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    hyperjulie reacted to LittleDarlings in Baby on the way   
    Haha who cares? Honestly who cares about OP and this ridiculous problem? How is this even a problem?? YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY not online freakingout seriously... If you don't like what I said too bad.
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    hyperjulie got a reaction from xiaoma in Notification Thread   
    Haha. A week or so ago I answered a call from an unknown number, hoping that it might be one of my grad schools. An older, confused sounding lady on the other end asked if she could speak to Inspector Campbell. Not what I was hoping for, but at least I got a chuckle out of it.

    (My boyfriend's response to this story: "Did you patch her through?")
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    hyperjulie reacted to gellert in The psychological joys of applying to grad school   
    Right now the scariest thing about the whole waiting game for me is the fear that all I will hear is silence. No invites, no acceptances or rejections or waitlists. Just a never-ending silence.
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