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Hello my fellow potential grad school students! So recently, I've been getting a few messages asking me what I'm doing during the abysmal "waiting it out" process. Rather than going into detail on every single reply, I've decided a blog post would be the most beneficial to everyone, myself included. As much as you may think differently, I am new to this entire process myself. I say that because I want everyone to know one simple thing: I have no idea what I'm doing. Yes, I may have started this blog and yes, it may have connected with people, but that doesn't mean I'm some sort of pro! I am a 22 year old who decided to follow my dream and take the next step toward my next educational frenemy (aka grad school). So, let me answer the question that so many have asked: what am I doing to pass the time? First, let me just say a whole lot of nothing. Yes, I work, and yes, I'm partially continuing personal research on a few matters, but it boils down to doing a whole lot of nothing. I work 5-6 days a week, go to pt about twice a week, I try to do research but half the time I get distracted half way through and end up on random websites like Pinterest, Facebook, and the occasional YouTube which gets me hooked for a few hours. I would love to say that I'm continuing my research, which is coming along swimmingly, and I have made new discoveries which will soon lead me to the path of enlightenment. Or that I'm planning for my next step (grad school or otherwise) and have everything planned out to a tee. Also, it would be fun if I could tell you that I became famous in my short time period on this blog and am now in the process of publishing my first worldwide famous book that is soon going to be made into a movie and be sold out all over the world. After all, any of those options right now would be worth my time; however, sadly none of that is happening. The truth (besides what I already hinted to above), secondly, is I'm thinking about a lot of "what if" scenarios. I know I've touched on this a bit in the past, but I wanted to be honest with you. It's not like I write about something and then it magically changes the moment it gets over 200 reads. That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works. The issue doesn't go away. No matter what you or I may try to do. The thought of rejection will forever linger in the back of my mind, and if you're like me then you're the same (hate to tell you). I think everyone fears rejection, after all, no one likes to be told "no" or that they aren't good enough. If you do like to be told these things...honestly, I have no advice or witty remark to make here so you've officially left me at a blank, but still. Rejection sucks. Especially since we all know how it feels. With the thought of rejection comes the scenario of what I (or you) am/are going to do if this whole expedition of grad school doesn't work the way we expect it to. In other words, what's going to happen next if this doesn't work out? Well, I feel like in that sentence lies the root to our underlying problem. I'm sure that you've planned out how grad school is going to work out for you, where you're going to go, and what is going to happen after graduation. I have to and there's nothing wrong with that! However, if you're like me, then the question of "what if" lies deep in the core and, like I said, here lies the problem. I know I've said having a back up plan is a smart move (after all, I probably have over a dozen at this point and I still continue to add to that list), but after typing this out so many times it got me wondering. When I started to wonder I came to a frighteningly, devastating, partial realization that may be only for me, but I'm going to tell you anyways because that's the point of you reading up until this point. If by having all these back up plans, like I said I did, then that, in fact, is my problem. I started to think that by putting all this effort into the "what if" question scenarios, I'm actually taking away from what I actually want to happen which is grad school. I know that with applications already in there's not much I can do besides wait, but I could still be planning out what is going to happen not "if" but "when" I get in. We (again, I'm assuming you're like me) put all this effort into the higher possibility that our dreams will fail, but that takes away our hope of fulfilling our dreams. So, and I know this is easier said than done, stop. Stop degrading yourself to your back up plan. If it happens, fine, if it doesn't then that's great too. But at this point, you back up plan has taken away enough of our precious time. Now it's time to think about what we WANT to happen, rather than think about what may or may not happen. Finally, my last piece of advice is simple: go shopping. Not literally, of course! After all, we are potential grad school students, we're beyond broke. But play around with a few ideas like, "where you're going to live once you get accepted?" Or, "what are you going to decorate your apartment like?" To which, may I suggest Pinterest. Spark the inspiration of acceptance and think about these things. Look at apartments, look at decorating/organizing ideas, and look at scholarship possibilities (after all, we're broke and need all the help we can get). You've got more fire in you than you realize, and I hope that this sparks a little bit of inspiration. Anyways, thank you all for reading and I apologize if you have read some of my recent stuff...had a little bit of writer's block and I think I may finally be out of it. Be sure to check out the #SpreadTheLove campaign on my blog, and I also have another poll about Facebook so be sure to check it out. Also, I love hearing from you guys, so thank you all for your comments, your "fan mail" for those of you calling it that, and for your shares! It's amazing to know that people actually get a small kick out of reading my writing and it really makes me happy. Hope everyone has a great week, and I look forward to hearing from you in some way, shape, or form! Until next time, K.
Hello my fellow readers and writers! I hope everyone is having an amazing weekend, and (because of the weekend) I really want to keep this short, sweet, and simple. For those of you interested in the feminist movement, gender studies, and everything else included in that category, you probably know what tomorrow is. That's right! It is the Women's March on D.C. (and everywhere else for that matter). Firstly, I want everyone to know that not all feminists are these man hating people that despise the world and half the people in it. Secondly, I want you to understand that feminists do, in fact, have a bad rep. As much as I want to deny this, even I know a few feminists that are just a bit...well, much...even for me, but to each their own! Thirdly, I want you to know that I am a FEMINIST. I am a HeForShe supporter, I support equal rights for ALL, and I really want to spread the word on what being a feminist really means. It means wanting to have the equal opportunity as others with the same educational background, and getting paid the equal pay wages as someone with equal experience despite being of different genders. It means getting rid of things such as the "Pink Tax," and all those standing with it. But more importantly, it means being human. Not only being human, but understanding that we are ALL human! We shouldn't discriminate, we shouldn't judge, we shouldn't be prejudice against those of different religion, political standing, and who someone loves. It is not our place to judge others, nor is it some else's place to judge me. I just want everyone to be respectful to each other during this entire movement and to know that not everyone has to understand you or stand beside you. Just as long as you don't stand in front of someone who is just trying to make a difference in their own personal life. So, without further ado, I want everyone participating in the Women's March to enjoy it and to remember that you are making a difference, no matter how small it may seem now. I want everyone to have a safe weekend, and to remember that no one stands alone. I am HeForShe, I am a equal rights supporter, and I am a feminist! So for all you gender studies people out there, remember today. Someone somewhere just might make history. Until next time, K. P.S. remember to #SpreadTheLove and thanks for reading!
It's kind of weird to see how far you've come in the past few months, or few years even. For most, the time of applications has finally come to a close and peace can finally happen...at least for a moment or two. You've finally gotten those letters of rec., the horrifying test scores went through swimmingly, and all the transcripts and writing samples have uploaded with as little drama as possible. To which I say: good for you! You've made the first steps into a life long career choice and you will always have my support. While I once said, "let the games begin," now I must say, "let's get down to business." Don't get me wrong, I'm sure the next few weeks will be some of the most peaceful that you've had in a while. However, these next few weeks will also spark your inspiration for research. You'll find yourself not only looking at places to live, jobs available, etc. etc. etc., but you'll also look deeper into your career choice. For those archaeology wannabes, our lives will officially be in ruins, and it's not strange to think that the ruins are exactly where we wish to be. While my life will (hopefully) be in the ocean, many of you will be spent in the sands of Egypt (maybe deciphering a 2400 year old papyrus...you know who you are!), in the jungles of the Amazon, or in the freezing Alaskan snow...I'm sure there's something there, but don't take my word on that. For those education wannabes, books will consume your lives and research will be your battle ground, to which I say: I want to know what you plan to research. To those science wannabes, the lab will become your home, your lab coat will be the new fashion, and the periodic table (from what I gather) will become as basic to you as your computer keyboard. Every subject as their own ruins, and every subject has their own struggles. With that being said, however, nothing worth while was ever achieved easily. You'll each have your hardships, you'll each have your points of disparity, and you'll each have those moments when you begin to question yourself. DON'T QUESTION YOURSELF. You started this journey for a reason, so do your best to remember that reason. Write it down, make a poster, do something to where you'll be able to see it as inspiration rather than a question. I plan on keeping this post sweet and simple (after all, Pinterest is calling my name for apartment inspiration), but I wanted you to at least read what I had to say. In fact, I have a little treat for you. A quote. Not from me, I promise you, but from an old story I read a long time ago that always just stuck to me. "But the rewards for struggling is that after the struggle, you know what it means to live." - Fruits Basket. With all the books that I read, very few leave me with as much inspiration as this one did (no matter how weird it may seem). Also, remember I told you that I read this a long time ago, so don't judge me if you look it up to see what it is...don't judge. So, here's to a life in ruins... - K. P.S. Please be sure to check out and vote on the #SpreadTheLove campaign to help let me know which organization you want to see supported in the hopes of spreading education for future generations! And please be sure to share on Facebook to get other people involved! The more people we gather, the bigger the difference we can make. Hope to hear from you all soon!
Only because "the thing no one wants to talk about yet everyone needs to think about at some point but no one wants to because it may seem like you're heading towards failure" was a bit long to be title worthy... Welcome back, guys and gals and all those lovely folks who have read my writing before...you know, in that one "blog" post... I hope everyone is having a great day! Why? Because I'm about to ruin it. I know, I'm such a horrible person, but it was bound to happen eventually. In my last post (So, you've entered the abyss...) I briefly discussed the idea of having a back up (or BU for those loyal readers out there...you know, the entire one of you). Well, now it is time for me to elaborate. This is the one thing that everyone who begins the grad school process must come across at some point, however briefly it may be. The truth of the matter is, though, this is going to be the path that some of us end up taking. I thought it best to bring it into the light. Now, the BU plan is different for everybody and doesn't have to be set on a single thing. For example, I'll use myself. While my graduate dream is to become the world's best and most well-known maritime archaeologist by the time I'm in my early 30s, I have a hugely different back up plan...12, in fact. What can I say? My OCD causes me to plan for multiple contingencies. After all, you never know what may happen! So, obviously, my next plan is to become a world renowned writer. Just kidding! While there may be one or two of you out there who are actually getting what little amusement you can out of my writing, it's not my next plan of action. A plan of action, yes. I wouldn't have a three or four half written books sitting on my computer for nothing if it wasn't. Apart from becoming some sort of writer, I may end up starting my own dessert food truck where all the fandoms can unite in the form of your new favorite desserts. (And before you ask, I do have baking experience. I used to be a dessert baker at a local...well, that's beside the point.) If that doesn't work out, I'll go work in a museum somewhere, or maybe do an internship abroad, or, heck, I don't know, become a hard core princess of some small unheard of country! Although not every single one of those may seem attainable (the part about me becoming a writer part, because of course it's possible for me to become a princess), that's beside the point. The point is to have a plan. Any sort of plan, because any sort of plan is still some sort of plan. So, while you are starting to have that little inkling in the back of your head of something else that may seem a bit interesting to you, my advice: look into it. Entertain the idea of actually accomplishing it. That being said, however, don't let a simple back up plan distract you from your main goal. You've got it within your to get yourself where you need to be. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. At least now you know that you'll always have my vote of support. So now go! Go out and make your back up plan. If you don't get into grad school, then show the world just what you can do without it. Don't cut yourself down before you've even begun to fully stand up on your own two feet. Become the tree that rises towards the heavens and who's broken vines and branches have only made you stronger. If you get accepted into your dream program, that's amazing! But if not, then don't worry because there is something better out there for you, even if it takes you a little while to find it. I really wanted to end this little post on a high note so it wouldn't be so depressing, and I hope that I achieved that... Thank you for reading this far and I hope that one day I get to hear what your back up plan may or may not be. Be sure to stay in touch and good luck with all your future endeavors! Sincerely, K.