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I have been a longtime lurker in these forums and finally decided to join the convo. I'm writing about a topic that is relatively sensitive and in a 2019 context is highly charged so I'm hoping this dialogue can be productive and respectful. Full disclosure, I am a woman of color and this has been the most emotionally taxing process I've ever been through, and I've been through some shit. I know this is something everyone has to accept, but I feel terribly alone at the moment. The silent but toxic stress of carrying all of these identities is killing me. After being one of the few members of my immediate and extended family to complete a bachelors degree, I entered the workforce for several years and after mind numbing work, I decided to re-enter academia and apply to PhD programs. Though I am not first generation, I might as well be. My mother has an associates and my father completed his masters shortly after I entered college myself. Beyond that, I don't know anyone who has ever ventured into getting any sort of advanced degrees of any kind let alone bachelors degrees or high school diplomas. My parents, though supportive, proved quite useless during this process and many of my other family and friends didn't understand why I'd give up a great career to "go back to school." It's draining at family functions to have conversations about things no one understands and judges me heavily for. Navigating the application process was such a difficult process. I reached out to other minorities and POC (person/people of color) during the initial stages but they too vocalized how taking on this endeavor can be very difficult if you're the first to do it. Not to sound like a martyr but for much of my academic and career journeys thus far I have always been the first and only in the spaces I exist in. I am one of a few POC at work and I was one of 3 POC women in a group of about 10 total in my undergraduate program. The stress of constantly feeling like I need to represent an entire group is draining and the burden of not feeling like I can measure up is exhausting. Imposter syndrome has been real. At every step of this process I have been filled with self doubt. I waited 2 years to take the GRE just because I was afraid of failing. I did not I got 160Q/167V/5.5 Writing respectively. Then I applied to programs and felt like my statement of purpose wouldn't be good enough, I was told by many that it was great. I went to open houses and info sessions thinking I didn't belong only to walk away feeling empowered. But now, that has all come to an overflowing boil. I am at a point in the PhD application process where it's becoming more readily apparent that I will probably get a flush of denies to every program I applied. I have seen acceptances and invitations for interviews go up and my inbox remains empty save for the 4 denies I've already received. When people ask me how the process is going, i can't bring myself to tell them I've been denied so I just keep saying "I'm still waiting to hear back...". Though this is true, I have no faith that I'll get into the remaining 3 programs I'm waiting on. Even my 'safety school' denied me already. What's more frustrating is the current undertones that exist in admissions -- the Harvard case against affirmative action, the feeling that spots are "deserved" rather than earned, this idea that POC are given spots in program. I was not expecting to be admitted based on some diversity metrics, and I don't fully believe at the PhD level special considerations are made based on race, religion, ethnicity, or gender. But to continually get denied makes me feel double as bad as I feel like I truly was the worst of a group that already gets special considerations/concessions. I am not sure how to move on from these denials and face the hoards of family who thought I was crazy for considering this, the coworkers and friends who have supported me with a zeal that honestly made me even consider doing this in the first place, and the countless other marginalized groups I wanted to encourage through my application and acceptances into programs. Though I identify (and exist) as a woman of color, I know I am not alone. I know there are countless women, people of color, international students, immigrants, LGBTQ, and other underrepresented or marginalized populations who hopefully can identify with these emotions and I just wanted to allow for a space for folks to be vulnerable.
Hi, GradCafe! I used to have another account here when I was just starting to apply to grad school and I'm glad to be back on here. Grad school can be *SO* stressful, and I think that our loved ones often have no idea what we're going through or how to check in with us. We so often say "fine" when asked how we are, but that doesn't really get at how we're feeling. I made (with the help of a bunch of other grad students) this video to help people understand how to check in with the grad students in their life: I hope you all like it!
This spring I finished my B.S. in 3 years (Yay, less student loans!), packed up and moved 9 hours from my undergraduate university and childhood home to start my PhD in Plant Breeding & Genetics three weeks after graduation. I've known I wanted my PhD since the 2nd year of my undergrad, and the sooner the better for me! I know if I take time off to work/just travel/etc. that I will get out of the swing of things and like the freedom/money making it much harder to go back to school. Just my personality! I'm in my third month now, and I would like some advice on how to deal with this nearly ever present feeling that I'm drowning/stupid. Yeah, I'm aware that this feeling is normal. SUPER normal. I did 3 research projects during my undergrad, so this isn't my first time in a research environment either. But of course I have a LOT more power over my project(s) this time. However, as I've started making decisions towards constructing/executing my research project I feel so much stupider than my co-workers and adviser. The whole age gap isn't helping much (I'm 21, the youngest I've met in the dept that is a PhD student is 25). I don't think they ACTUALLY look down on me for being so young but I can't seem to shake the little voice that says "Wow, people are wondering how the hell someone like you managed to get in here". Or that every little misstep, no matter how understandable, is seen as stupidity. For example, I tried a DNA extraction protocol that was recommended to me by an older/experienced lab technician and it completely flopped (at least for my uses - nextgen sequencers require high quality stuff). I've been sitting here thinking to myself how stupid my adviser must think I am for wasting time on it, and scared to tell this tech his method doesn't live up to my standards! So beyond riding it out, how did everyone deal with this "imposter syndrome". I'm committed to my program no doubt and I'll keep plodding along no matter what, it would just be nice to go to bed slightly satisfied with the work I'm doing, you know.