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Getting rejected by your bottom choice program. 

Waking up and realizing you're Justin Beiber?

Not applying at all.

Getting rejected not only by the top choice but also by your bottom choice program at the same time.

Yuckkkkk I got it.
In fact, i was sad for two weeks and I wonder whether the schools that did not send me any letter will also reject me.    

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This is SO true. I currently work at a bookstore and that's pushing it in the customer service department for me...

 

Maybe that's why the GRE has those infuriating customer service optimization problems in the maths section. It's like saying, "Hey, if you fail this test just remember that there's always customer service!" 

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Well, this happened to me.  I'm pretty devastated and depressed.  I'm really quite shocked because I thought the interview went well overall, and they more-or-less intimated that I was overqualified for the program.  I got into Safety School and will go, but it's not Top Choice.  I believe in reality.  Top Choice is Northeastern Establishment.  Safety School is Regional Powerhouse.  The ultimate goal for me is teach music theory on the tenure track.  Top Choice would have made that a vastly easier proposition.  It's going to be incredibly, incredibly more difficult to do that coming out of Regional Powerhouse.  I doubt it can really be done, unless Regional Powerhouse itself hire me in.  

 

In the beginning, I was only going to apply to Regional Powerhouse for various reasons (my wife is a schoolteacher and she is credentialed in the same state as Regional Powerhouse--- going anywhere else would have meant having to get credentialed again or at least going through a lot of hassle to get the credentials recognized).  But I got talked into going for Top Choice by a mentor who said he'd write the strongest letter possible.  But, it obviously wasn't enough.

 

And now, instead of just going to Regional Powerhouse as I planned in the first place full of enthusiasm, I instead feel like a Top Choice cast-off.  It has completely robbed me of any enthusiasm I have for where I'm actually going to be going.  I feel that the rejection has branded me with the imprimatur of inferiority.  I'm not good enough for the big leagues, for the Northeastern Establishment, which is very real.  

 

This would be starting my second doctorate.  My first doctorate didn't amount to a hill of beans.  There are no jobs in the field of my first doctorate.  I'm obviously not the shiny new penny blank slate that Northeastern Establishment wants, and I can't do anything to change that.  I feel absolutely helpless and like a complete and utter failure.  I'm going to limp into my new mediocre regional school and languish in obscurity.  I know, people will say, but, look, you got in somewhere!  Lots of people don't get in anywhere!  Okay, true.  I got into Mediocre Regional Powerhouse.  It's not Top Choice.  In some ways I wish I didn't get in anywhere, because I could give it another shot next year.  Instead, I am under (a goodly amount of self-imposed) family pressure to go through with Mediocre Okay Regional Powerhouse because I got a fellowship and it would mean income for my family, which we need.  If I had completely struck out, I would not be on the hook to go through with anything and I could try again next year with a clear conscience.

 

So to answer the original question, what's worse than rejection from Top Choice?  Well, there's always death and taxes, I suppose, but little else.

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Aww, I am so sorry gr8pumpkin. I am going to go with the old-age advice. Do not put down anything that makes you seem over-qualified for any position that you want to apply to :(

 

You should still be excited though! Show Northeastern what a great student they missed out on!

Well, this happened to me.  I'm pretty devastated and depressed.  I'm really quite shocked because I thought the interview went well overall, and they more-or-less intimated that I was overqualified for the program.  I got into Safety School and will go, but it's not Top Choice.  I believe in reality.  Top Choice is Northeastern Establishment.  Safety School is Regional Powerhouse.  The ultimate goal for me is teach music theory on the tenure track.  Top Choice would have made that a vastly easier proposition.  It's going to be incredibly, incredibly more difficult to do that coming out of Regional Powerhouse.  I doubt it can really be done, unless Regional Powerhouse itself hire me in.  

 

In the beginning, I was only going to apply to Regional Powerhouse for various reasons (my wife is a schoolteacher and she is credentialed in the same state as Regional Powerhouse--- going anywhere else would have meant having to get credentialed again or at least going through a lot of hassle to get the credentials recognized).  But I got talked into going for Top Choice by a mentor who said he'd write the strongest letter possible.  But, it obviously wasn't enough.

 

And now, instead of just going to Regional Powerhouse as I planned in the first place full of enthusiasm, I instead feel like a Top Choice cast-off.  It has completely robbed me of any enthusiasm I have for where I'm actually going to be going.  I feel that the rejection has branded me with the imprimatur of inferiority.  I'm not good enough for the big leagues, for the Northeastern Establishment, which is very real.  

 

This would be starting my second doctorate.  My first doctorate didn't amount to a hill of beans.  There are no jobs in the field of my first doctorate.  I'm obviously not the shiny new penny blank slate that Northeastern Establishment wants, and I can't do anything to change that.  I feel absolutely helpless and like a complete and utter failure.  I'm going to limp into my new mediocre regional school and languish in obscurity.  I know, people will say, but, look, you got in somewhere!  Lots of people don't get in anywhere!  Okay, true.  I got into Mediocre Regional Powerhouse.  It's not Top Choice.  In some ways I wish I didn't get in anywhere, because I could give it another shot next year.  Instead, I am under (a goodly amount of self-imposed) family pressure to go through with Mediocre Okay Regional Powerhouse because I got a fellowship and it would mean income for my family, which we need.  If I had completely struck out, I would not be on the hook to go through with anything and I could try again next year with a clear conscience.

 

So to answer the original question, what's worse than rejection from Top Choice?  Well, there's always death and taxes, I suppose, but little else.

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Having the guy you're dating take you out to a restaurant where his "friend" is working, finding out the "friend" who is waiting on you is your date's ex-girlfriend, who he confesses to still being in love with......on your birthday.

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O - O Uh PsycD, I think you should like stop picking mates and let your friends do it... either that or run from Modor as fast as you can and don't look back. Also, please tell us what state you are from. We will be sure to avoid it like the plague. 

 

Things worse than getting rejected : Laying on top of a guy after you two have just done it and he says and I quote, "You are alright in bed". I am so sorry that I'm not a whore like the girls you've dated and I haven't slept with 50+ men and women in the span of 2 years, you sociopath. 

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O - O Uh PsycD, I think you should like stop picking mates and let your friends do it... either that or run from Modor as fast as you can and don't look back. Also, please tell us what state you are from. We will be sure to avoid it like the plague.

 

Oh Kitty...I've tried letting other people choose for me. Hmmm let's see...

 

There was the conservative Christian with the porn and gambling addiction, the military officer sex-addict who, while on a road trip to New York decided it was a good time to tell me he was still married, and the guy who fell in love with a cheerleader...a male cheerleader.

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Having your boyfriend's mom tell you that you'd better hurry up and have children because "THE CLOCK'S TICKING!!!"  :huh:

MY mom does this to me all the time. I'm not even engaged yet.

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