Jessamary

Hi all-- I am a first year MFA and MA student with a husband and three kids. While there is some information out there about having a baby during grad school, I have found little-to-none about being in grad school with older kids. Our kids are 13, 10, and 8. We moved 1200 miles away from everything we knew so I could go to grad school. I'm trying to find my groove here, and it's been hard. Besides the social issues I've encountered (no one wants to invite the 36 year-old MOM to outings, even though I'd gladly go), I'm really at a loss as how to create a functioning schedule for myself. When should I study (which right now is just a lot of reading) vs. being with the family, doing the mom thing like grocery shopping and shuttling to kids' activities? My husband is very supportive and will do what I ask of him, but I don't know what to ask right now. Has anyone been through this before or could point me towards some sites that talk about this? The Google searches are a joke on this topic.