Hello GradCafe community,
Back in early January, I got on-site interviews to several schools that are among my top 3-5 choices. The obvious thing to do at that time was to accept the interviews and book the plane tickets. However, I have since then been accepted to my 1st and 2nd choices. and my top choice school happens to host an admit weekend on the same weekend as one of these interviews. I already bought tickets that can be expense at the schools where I will be interviewed and the admitted schools.
So I have a few questions regarding what to do in this situation.
1) The chance that I would want to go to the schools that are interviewing me is rather small, so it is difficult for me to do a good interview. Otherwise, I'd love to chat with some professors in this field at these schools, but it seems to be a waste of time for them. Should I let them know of this circumstance? before or during the interview? What is a proper and respectful way to approach these interviews now.
2) My top choice school has an admit weekend that I'd like to attend. But I already bought tickets for interview at another school (at $400). In theory, the interviewing school should prefer that I let them know I'm probably not going even if admitted, so they can stop wasting any more time and money on me. But if I do that, then it seems I have to eat the cost of this plane ticket. On the other hand, there are a few respected professors in this school I'd like to meet, and have a nice chat. But it is really pretentious to say the chance of me attending is very small, but I'd still like to chat. Withholding this key information also seems improper. So what is the proper thing to do here?
Thank you so much!