My boyfriend of almost three years is in his first year as a PhD student, while I've been finishing up my studies at our undergraduate institution. We've been doing distance for the last 6 months across the US, and it has been absolutely miserable at times. Our plan was for me to apply to PhD programs, including the same one as his, and then hopefully join him. However, the only program I've been accepted to is still pretty far from his. I'm having trouble deciding what to do: get my PhD and endure 5+ more years of distance, or get a job near him and postpone any graduate plans until later?
I've been working towards going to grad school for several years though, and I think I would regret not going. On the other hand, there were times in the last 6 months when the thought of living with him next year was the only thing that got me through the day. I feel that moving in together is an important step in a relationship, and I'm worried about what postponing that by 5+ years will do. If things go sour... I would surely regret that decision as well.
So my question is for the long distance couples who are currently attending different graduate schools. How did you decide to do distance? How is it working for you? All thoughts are welcome. I'm feeling pretty helpless
