I am a first generation American and college graduate. I will be starting a PhD program in the sciences in the Fall. I am already facing challenges in terms of relating to my family and now I wonder how things will develop. I am pretty nervous about going to visit my family before school starts. They keep asking questions like "Why aren't you going to school to be a real doctor?" and "What kind of job will you get?" , "Will you still be a good wife?" and my least favorite, "How long will this get in the way of starting your family?" Ahhhhhhhh. Most of the women in my family are homemakers.
I am a nontraditional student, going back to school after working several years and am totally stressed out about keeping up with my home life, commuting to campus and doing well. It is really great to know I am not the only one worrying about getting started in the Fall. I hope this thread stays lively so we can support each other through this transition. I have heard so many horror stories of students tanking in graduate programs because of poor social skills. It really is about more than the academics. Good luck to my fellow first gen students in gearing up for the first year!