My situation is that I have an excellent offer from school A, but am waitlisted at a much better school B. The department chair informed me that I have a decent chance of being admitted based on his past experience, but that the offer will not come before April 15th. Obviously this puts me in a bind. I am happy to go to school A, but would obviously rather go to B. The differences between the schools could be huge career-wise--not to mention I am a much better fit at school B.
Obviously I can't just reject school A and hope for the best! Some of the comments on the results page seem to think withdrawing is some sort of huge offence. Does anyone know if this is generally true? I can see how it might be a problem for them, say, if I withdraw in June, but if I withdraw April 28th is it really that damaging to them? My understanding is that they still have some people on waitlists at this time.
Plus, I wonder if I should care how it effects them. Shouldn't I worry about what is best for me? Me not going to A is probably not going to have a lasting effect on their department, but me not going to B, may have a significant lasting effect on my career. Maybe I won't be accepted at B and this won't be a problem!
Also, does anyone else think these rules as they are set up are detrimental to students, but beneficial to departments?
Finally, though I don't have plans to do this, I am wondering if anyone has experience themselves or knows of anyone who has done a year in one program and then left for another. How do programs generally look at this?