I have a family member that could likely get off the wait list at a top program if they agreed to pay the tuition. He says this would be a tremendous black mark on him his entire career. He has the funding so it would not be a painful thing for him other than to his ego. Is this really true? is it worse to give up a dream ? I don't know the academic world well as I am in an entirely different field.
any help/comments/advice would be appreciated. the program is in the top 6 in his field.
thank you
