Jenny, thank you so much for your thoughtful response to my queries. I read it the day you posted it, but I have been dealing with a debilitating migraine this whole week, and could not get on my computer to respond until just now.
All the points you made resonated with me so much, especially regarding POI and lab resources. In fact, I just recently spoke to the POI of the school I was all but sure I would accept, and when I told them that I almost certainly will be choosing that school, they were genuinely thrilled. Their research interests intersect with mine so closely, and they vocalized all the avenues for us to collaborate. It was so gratifying to hear from them the very reasons I wanted to work with them in the first place, and that they were enthusiastic about me. So yes, I will now second everyone that says that fit with advisor is absolutely key to my decision. [Or, I mean, I guess I'll let you know in a couple of years lol]
While I am still waiting to hear on funding from one school, as I keep joking with friends, unless they offer me some insane amount, little will keep me from this school.
But anyway, I just wanted to say that all the posts here really helped me, and reminded me of my priorities going into graduate school. Thank you all so much!! I hope current/future applicants who come across this thread find it useful too.
Bon courage to everyone! ❤️