Hey all,
Reading through all these messages has been heartening for me. As someone who's on the other side of the process from most of you (my boyfriend of three years is in the process of choosing a Phd program as we speak, while I'm waiting to hear on a Fulbright), I can tell you it's just as hard, if not harder, from this perspective! Wherever he ends up, he'll be there for six years, with not a lot of wiggle room to move around. That means that whether he goes to New Haven or Ann Arbor or Chicago, that place will be a part of my life as well. At the same time, I'm firmly of the belief that I have to do what's best for myself and my career right now, wherever that takes me.
Unfortunately, the idea of never compromising for a man is a lot easier when the man is just a theoretical guy somewhere out there in the universe. It's a whole lot harder when it's your best friend.
So...this is my way of saying, I have no idea what's going to happen when we both graduate from undergrad in May. We're committed to staying together, but as for the details, we've yet to figure out something that really works. SIGH.