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    surefire reacted to ProfLorax in Writing Awards Bust   
    The first rejection/failure stings. No matter how rationally you can understand how this award doesn't demonstrate your abilities as a writer, the first one always hurts. I remember in my MA program; we had a peer reviewed and edited student journal, and each year, my essay was in the top quarter of ranked essays... but it always missed the cut to be published. The first time, this broke my heart. The second time, I laughed.
     
    That's the good news: I now just shrug. One of the hardest parts of our career is how abundant rejection is. Your abstract will be rejected from conferences, you will lose competitions, you won't be granted a fellowship, your publication submission will be rejected. It's part of the game, and the more you play, the more rejection you will face. After a while, I realized how impersonal these decisions really are. Lots of times, it is a question of fit, or there are behind the scenes politics that affect who will get chosen for what. Either way, rejection is rarely about your abilities. Even though it stings now, trust me that this will get easier. You will build a tougher skin, and soon, you'll celebrate the wins and not even blink at the losses. It takes some time, but you will get there. 
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    surefire got a reaction from HrdyWordy in Group Sulking   
    There's something about the phrase, "I want to know all about the weird nachos you make when you're sad", that is incredibly charming to me. It strikes me as something reassuring that a significant other might say when the "let's move-in together" cards go on the table; it's both requesting and validating vulnerability in this endearing and quirky way. LOVE IT!
     
    If I need something to sooth, I'll go with any doc that has David Attenborough; if I need to laugh, I watch YouTube videas of John Pinette stand-up (you should look him up, his jokes are mostly clean and about food, nothing too complicated or mean). Sometimes I'll raid my bookshelf for comics and cuddle up (anything by Gaiman or Moore or Vaughn or Ennis will do the trick or, if I've really regressed, Calvin and Hobbes). While I never initially feel like it, a nice run with a podcast works wonderfully (like "Welcome to Nightvale").
     
    The nachos remain a closely guarded secret, you'll have to move in with me to find out
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    surefire got a reaction from NOWAYNOHOW in Group Sulking   
    There's something about the phrase, "I want to know all about the weird nachos you make when you're sad", that is incredibly charming to me. It strikes me as something reassuring that a significant other might say when the "let's move-in together" cards go on the table; it's both requesting and validating vulnerability in this endearing and quirky way. LOVE IT!
     
    If I need something to sooth, I'll go with any doc that has David Attenborough; if I need to laugh, I watch YouTube videas of John Pinette stand-up (you should look him up, his jokes are mostly clean and about food, nothing too complicated or mean). Sometimes I'll raid my bookshelf for comics and cuddle up (anything by Gaiman or Moore or Vaughn or Ennis will do the trick or, if I've really regressed, Calvin and Hobbes). While I never initially feel like it, a nice run with a podcast works wonderfully (like "Welcome to Nightvale").
     
    The nachos remain a closely guarded secret, you'll have to move in with me to find out
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    surefire reacted to gellert in Group Sulking   
    I watch Netflix or play video games.  And wallow.  And eat cupcakes. I also like watching zombie films.  I don't want to really consider too deeply why that makes me feel better.
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