I just want to chime in here with a different point of view. Well maybe not different from you, but different from what other posters have said. They are probably correct, or almost definately are correct. Taking a more avtice role in your education is probably vital. However, I can totally understand your position, and unfortunately for some of us its not as easy as "put yourself out there" or "shmooze" because like you, I also find it very hard to do either of those things. Firstly, I'm not even sure what shmoozing is, and when other people are doing it around you and succeeding, although it may seem like that would be encouraging, its actually extremely discouraging for someonewho has a hard time competing with their peers.
For example, I work in a lab right now and really feel under-utilized and under-appreciated. I have a coworker who does much less work than I do, does drugs at work, and doesn't even have a degree. However, he's fairly charming and lied on his resume about having a degree, and guess what, he just got a new job! I could be a creep and tell his new employer to check his credentials, or I could have reported him to HR for smoking pot on his lunch break, but I'm not that kind of person. I just don't know what to do though because I'm not getting anywhere but I'm trying, I really am. If being a charming liar is what it takes to succeed today, thats a sad sign of the times.
I'm terrified that I'll encounter the same crap in grad school, and it sounds like I almost definately will. It's very discouraging because I don't seem to be equipped with the social skills to "shmooze". So does that mean I don't have a chance? I thought academia was where people like me can succeed!
I'm almost 28, I have a BS in Religion and a BS in biology and 3 years of work experience in labs. I've been getting a fair amount of job interviews lately and I haven't gotten any of the jobs. Grad school has always appealed to me and I know I want a Master's, but I'm feeling very discouraged today.
**I'm sorry for hijacking your post!** I hope your situation gets better. My advice, if you want it (LOL) is to talk to your friend about how he does his shmoozing and networking, learn what you can from him, and then if you can't stop feeling jealousy towards him, cut him out of your life. You may feel like a paranoid person or feel bad for having the jealousy that you do, but the fact is your relationship with him is destuctive and not good for you at this point.
Best of Luck! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!