How to ask about your status?

[Lt. Mango]

So I have an offer from school A, and I am still waiting to hear from schools B, C, D, and E. School A has given me a deadline to accept/decline their offer. I've called the graduate divisions at schools B-E and they all say to contact the program directly. So I'm wondering what is the best way to phrase this email? Obviously I don't want to say "tell me my freeking status NOW bc I have another offer!!" even though that is how I'm feeling!

Any advice on how to get the most information while ruffling the least amount of feathers? Thanks!

[coffeeplease]

Email the program administrator and/or DGS to the effect of, "I was wondering if you could tell me when I can expect a decision on my application. I've received an offer [you can name the program or not, your choice], and the school has asked me to respond by [deadline]. However, I remain very interested in [your program] and would like to be able to plan accordingly."

You don't even have to add WHY you're asking if you don't want to, but it might help (ie, you're not just impatient). Also something to consider: if the schools indicate that they will let you know after School A's deadline, you might want to ask School A if they will extend the deadline, given the circumstances. (This is assuming that they aren't a signatory to the agreement that states they can't compel you to respond before April 15.)

At any rate, they receive lots of emails inquiring about this, so it won't be a feather-ruffling matter!

[Lt. Mango]

great advice, thanks!