Hello everyone, I need your help very much. I'm a 23 year old married guy with a baby on the way very soon.
I've been offered a job as a research scientist at a company in very low cost area of California. They are offering me $85,000 base salary plus guaranteed 5 to 15% bonus each year ($90,000 - $97,000/year)
and a $10,000 moving allowance check (I keep whatever I don't use for moving expenses).
I have been admitted to the PhD program in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology at UCLA. They are offering me several fellowships amounting to $27,000/year for five years. UCLA is only 1 hr and 45 minutes away from job. My wife is in the hospitality industry and LA would be a great place for her to work. However, I am not sure what I would do with this degree outside of academia, and I'm not sure that I want to be in academia. I would have to TA in later years as well.
I've been admitted to the PhD program in Environmental Science, Policy, and Management at UC Berkeley. They are offering me a $28,000/year fellowship for four years (or $36,000/year with the parent grant if I receive it). I'd be able to choose whatever project I want here and the degree is much more applied, meaning I can go into academia if I want, but I can also work in industry upon completing it. Actually, the job I'd be taking is related to the type of research I'd be doing for my PhD and I wouldn't be adverse to staying at the job after completing my PhD. However, the four hour distance from the job would mean I'd have to make strategic once or twice per week visits to Berkeley to take classes/attend meetings. I'd see my wife and daughter less with this option.
Because I am having a hard time choosing either of the three singly, I want to choose the full-time job and one of the schools and try to do both simultaneously.
I will have a Master's degree from an Ivy League school this summer. Should I just not go to either school and focus on the job exclusively at this point? I really want a PhD and I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't pursue it but I don't have it in me to turn down this job, which is a dream job of mine.
PLEASE HELP ME!