I am a PhD student in molecular biology, and thusly spend my summers doing research and training undergrads. I am already leaving for almost a whole week in July to be in my best friend's wedding (but will only be 2 hours away so will be coming back to check cell culture, etc... just not getting any research done).
Here is my dilemma: My beloved grandmother has been in an out of the hospital for the past few months and isn't doing well. My family is planning to drive halfway across the country to visit her for a week, for perhaps the last time that any of us will see her alive. The week they are going is two weeks after my best friend's wedding. I told my family I wasn't sure if I could go, because I was already missing a week for the wedding. They seemed to understand, but i am filled with guilt. I mentioned the dilemma to my PI, who said that if it were her, she would not be doing any of it, but that she certainly wasn't going to kick me out of the lab for missing two separate weeks in July. She suggested video chat with my family and grandmother while they were visiting.
What would you do? Stay in the lab while my family visits my grandmother, and set up a video chat? Or do I put family first on all accounts and visit my grandmother with my family? Any other suggestions?