samruns

haha thanks for the advice. I will clarify that my resistance to the flirty thing has less to do with morals and more do to being in a very male dominated program and lab. Seriously, imagine the big bang theory. Thats my lab group. I am sort of the Penny of the group (except inteligence wise). I don't mean that in a bragging sort of way... I am just trying to paint the picture that i don't have the standard nerd look and I am surrounded by a bunch of men who don't seem to take me seriously until midterms come around and I kick their butts on the test. I think that my PI currently thinks pretty highly of me since I have been working my butt off in the lab but I don't want to lose that and be thought of as that ditzy, flirty girl since I work hard to fight that actually. That explains why I am feeling a bit unsure about it. I work really hard impress him and don't want to ruin that by turning out relationship from professional to all flirty.

I realize that this is a super weird question but am wondering if anyone else has found themselves in the situation. My PI is a very attractive man in his late 30s. He is brilliant, good looking, dresses well, etc. I find myself attracted to him unfortunately and I think the feeling is mutual. It is always awkward when we are alone in his office and there is always tons of sexual tension (at least I feel it). Now, let me say that I would NEVER pursue this or let it turn into anything and I don't think that he would try anyway. He has a family and I have a SO who I would never ever ever cheat on. The tension is there whether I like it or not though and even though most of our meetings are in group settings, 100% avoidance of 1 on 1 meetings isnt an option. I am just wondering if anyone else has had a similar situation before and how you dealt with it. Obviously, I will be ignoring the feelings as much as possible.