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Wow thank you everyone for taking the time to reply! Vene: In hindsight, I agree-going to the director was a bad call. Even though the director agreed with me, in the end, I'm the one who has to see him everyday and has to take the repercussions. I don't know think going to the director for help is going to do me any good. It may even look worse that I'm going to her again for an issue against my boss. My colleagues have witnessed all this firsthand and I also have good relationships with other profs in the dept so I'm not worried they will think that I am the issue. I'm not a princess either and this job is actually very low paying. I don't get Healthcare and I am paid less than what I should be with my qualifications and experience - yet I took this job because I knew it would do wonders for my cv and give me the research experience I need for grad school. I have two other pt jobs to support subsidize my income which is why quitting my main job would be doable. (I work weekends and Friday nights) Themmases - sorry to hear you went through something similar. I hope things turn around for me too but I know I should also prepare my resignation in case anything goes wrong. The 'future reference' is also something I'm worried about but I hope that once I'm in grad school, my new supervisor will be my reference and as the years pass, his reference will be less relevant. Thanks guys for the input. For now I'm going to stay put. In my mind, I think if I tough it out, at least he can't write to my new supervisor for leaving before my contract ends and he cannot ruin my reputation at my current workplace by making it seem like I used him for the LOR and left him the moment I got an acceptance.

Thank you for your replies vene and bsharpe! The situation has gotten much worse to the point that I had to take it to the director. The director asked him to delegate these responsibilities to the appropriate roles however this made him even more upset at me as he now knows I went above him. I tried to salvage our working relationship during a meeting afterwards and he yelled at me for 'taking this issue out of the lab'. I'm okay with leaving-but I'm paranoid he may do something drastic like write to the school I will be going to in the fall or rescind my lor. I would not put this past him and that is my fear of quitting.

I'm currently in a difficult situation and would some feedback from fellow graduate students I was accepted into grad school for fall 2014. This is something I have been working for the past four years and when I undertook a research position three years ago, I was upfront with my boss(LOR writer) that I was planning to go to grad school. He was very supportive and gave me many opportunities to get valuable experience in my field and I was able to get a paper published in the topic I wanted to pursue in grad school. This year I finally decided to apply and he told me he was happy to write my letter for me but that he thought I wouldn't be able to get in so soon because my undergrad marks were subpar. I ended up getting in and since then, his attitude towards me has changed. All of a sudden my research projects have been put on hold. My drafts on my current studies have not been returned to me after three months. I've been assigned to fill out paperwork, file, organize etc. When I ask him about the project progress, he gets upset and tells me that I need to learn to work on other tasks. He also frequently emails me and tell me I haven't done tasks which were actually emailed to him weeks prior. My colleagues suggest that I should quit but I only have a few more months before my contract is over. The lab is more tense as he yells at me in front of the other members. Im not sure what happened. I don't want to burn bridges and I know I owe him for giving me a headstart on my cv and writing my LOR. However the situation is getting increasingly worse as I cannot take the constant blame for things out of my control. I'm not sure if I should just tough it out. Not sure what the ramifications would be if I gave him my notice to leave. I would also like my last few months before grad school to be a relaxed time. Anyone ever had a similar situation? What did you do?