Mindreading

Thanks so much for this! The way that email is phrased, it makes it seem like much less of the huge dramatic catastrophic event I'm imagining it to be...haha.

Thank you so much. That is so reassuring, and congrats on going to UCSB! Santa Barbara would be soo amazing to live in!!

Aww, thanks. I really appreciate your words! Alright, I've made myself a goal of telling them today (*nervous*).

Thanks so much. Its good to know that you've seen it happen several times. I have been trying to google for similar situations but for some reason it didnt seem very common which made me quite scared about the whole thing. I just feel so, so sorry about this whole situation and I completely regret that I will cause the department this damage. But, you're right, it is my life and I need to do what is best. I really appreciate this reply. :)

Hey everyone, I need some advice if thats okay. So, I accepted a funded offer on April 15th for Fall 2015. I had planned on doing nonprofit work after the PhD rather than go into academia. I've also been working part time at a non-profit company that I love in a country that I really love. When I told my company I was officially leaving, they offered me an *amazing* position with visa sponsorship to stay in this country. When it comes down to it, I'd feel so incredibly stupid not to take this job as it would allow me to stay in this country and would look great on my resume. I know in my heart that its the right thing to take this job. So now I feel absolutely horrible about withdrawing from this program, seeing as they may not be able to give my spot/funding away at this point. Will this reflect poorly on my letter writers? Does this kind of thing ever happen (where people withdraw from programs before they even start)? I really dont even know what to expect when telling them. I would never have done this on purpose and when I accepted the offer I had the full intent to attend but this is just how it happened... Thank you!

Thank you SO much for putting all of this effort into helping me out. I really appreciate it. This is great advice! Hope it will help other people in the same situation.

Thanks so much. I just want to make sure I don't miss the mark on something here.

Can I ask a quick question? A program asked me to contact them via skype. Is there any proper etiquette for this that I should be aware of? Should I prepare anything? Thank you.

Yeah they did last year although I didnt think it was funding related. Its just interesting that there hasnt really been any word of anyone hearing from them this year.

Has anyone heard anything from UCBoulder? I havent seen anything on the survey and they released earlier than this 2 years ago.