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Thanks, but this is actually nearly the reverse. (the program with less funding is closer to home, including in-laws) Thank you again. I have recently emailed the DGS and I, for the most part, used your basic format. I think you've encouraged me to make the right things known. I might PM you the results of said email! P.S. No illegal drugs, no. :þ

Actually, to clarify. I am not sure what obligations I have that would justify mentioning them. I simply like the program and their offerings better than the one with more funding.

ianfaircloud: Thanks for what can basically be a template. I think it hits all the things I was trying to hit. Bolded I have questions though: 1) What level of detail? I am trying to find a balance of communicating the level of competition to be met, meanwhile not just showing my cards. 2) I am kinda surprised that I would say what my obligations are. Overall, though, I think I can or will adapt what you've said. You've been a great help.

Exactly.

How do you deal with new offers? Do you want to update other programs? If so, how do you tactfully ask if they can make a counter-offer? My guess is that I should tell my other offers, but I don't know how to tell them with the hope that they make a counter-offer.