Dear Grad fellows,
I've been in a MA program for a year now, and seriously considering switching to somewhere else. The situation is that I don't feel good studying there at all. It was not such a good year, and I didn't do my very best because it was hard being in this university. When it comes to bad behaviours, Academia is certainly not stranger to it. I thought that because it's a well-ranked program, people will not engage in low behaviours but I was wrong.
Basically, I'm being singled out because of the way I look. Not my ethnicity, but because, and I heard it from students, I get a lot of attention due to my physical appearance which is apparently very pleasant. They told me that I shouldn't be studying but rather do something that show off my face and curves. What kind of nonsense is that? This is one stupid attitude but it is true, and I was very disappointed by this. The head of the program, the secretary and the students (99% are female) ignore me or at best belittle me. I thought it would subside when they get to know me but it did not. I participate in the group work, but when it come to socializing they just leave me out, they don't want me to join. They exclude me completely unless it's uni related.
The only one who is nice to me is the program coordinator, a young male PhD stduent. So I'm polite but I don't familiarize too much with him because of the situation.
It has made my year very unpleasant. How can I be and do my best in a hostile environment? I have self-confidence and know my worth but still, I'm a human being.
There's one year left but I can't see myself going through this again next year. It's normally a one year program but because they were so annoying I went part-time to spent less time with them. So next year, there will be a new group, but I'm afraid it will be the same atmosphere. I think that I deserve to be in a healthy environment and not being treated that way. I wanted to complaint to a third party on campus, but I was afraid that it would make things worse.
I think the best thing to do is to find another program where they are nicer, and get a validation for the classes already passed.
What would be your advice? Thank you in advance.