Hello, longtime lurker here!
I am currently waitlisted at one of my top choices; fortunately, I have offers from other good programs I have always admired and would be thrilled to attend; at the same time, however, I feel reluctant to make a commitment until I know all of my options ... aka waitlist purgatory.
As the April 15th deadline approaches, I have some niggling concerns which, rationally, I know to be dumb but wanted to bounce off you folks on the GC. I can't seem to erase the feeling that being waitlisted essentially equals not being the school's first choice, and was wondering if there are certain, even if subtle, repercussions of this slight hierarchy, for want of a better word choice. Is it the norm for students who are taken off the waiting list to be treated differently, such as being given different (lesser?) funding opportunities, and does this translate into a different academic experience once the student is in the program?
I'm aware of how neurotic this sounds.. and it hasn't helped that, due to personal circumstances, I am unable to visit any of my prospective schools. I wish I knew the "feel" of each school, what the general atmosphere of the incoming cohort is, if students accepted from waiting lists are treated differently, if such different treatment is felt/perceivable, etc. I have been told by acquaintances that, depending on the school and program, students can be very competitive, collegial, and anything in between, and I'm wondering if this extends to the division between students "picked first" and "picked last," as juvenile as this might sound.. but, at the same time, experience tells me that potent concoctions of pressure and competition can do extraordinary things to even the most rational of people, so ... I'm open to hearing your thoughts!