BunnyN
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I think the education system emphasizes too much on competition than collaboration. The "honor" means you have done somewhat better than your peers, not how much you have really achieved. To me it's more a fun game in teaching, nothing more nothing less.
It's much more healthy to concentrate on what you are interested in. Study xyz major if you like it, not to prove your superiority.
I have been an average student all my life, no cool story to share. But if I could change only one thing in my high school/college years, I would love to meet more girls.
When I was working for a multinational corporation, nobody even mentioned their past in high school. It's just too irrelevant for people of my age. Academia is a special case in professional world in that a person's academic records are highly correlated with his/her achievements.
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6 minutes ago, samman1994 said:
Dating sites work really well actually, so you could try that. Local club activities and events work well. I personally like the whole night-club dance scene (love salsa night). So there are plenty of ways to find someone, hell you might find someone in a grocery store. My parents met in a photography class they took outside of school for fun, so you never know.
A few years ago, I went to a painting class with my date. There were a ton of girls there!
Too bad I wasn't alone.
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Just now, samman1994 said:
I can't speak in regards to the ethics of it, however in regards to the guy I was talking about, he started dating one of the faculty members in our department. I won't go into too much detail, but it caused conflicts within our department with other professors. (There was a jealousy issue with one of the other professors, sometimes he would talk to her for hours preventing her research lab students from reaching her, etc.). Overall, it became too much drama for both of them, and decided it would be easier if they split.
As a TA, I know I am not supposed to date students in my class. I don't think it's appropriate for faculty members to date students in their department.
Luckily, I'm not attracted to any faculty member in my school.
It's clear to me that going off campus is the best route, I just haven't figured out how. I'll join my local cycling club to find like minded adults, hopefully it's going to work.
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19 minutes ago, cowgirlsdontcry said:
The truth is the terms male/female could refer to any animal. Although I don't find it offensive, I do prefer to be called by a human term. Simply saying female instead of woman/women infers a lower order animal, that has been used in the past to relegate women to lower positions of power. It becomes a bullying tactic some men use in grad school towards women. I call my undergrad students men and women, because they are adults, albeit young ones.
So it's a superset!
Thanks for letting me know. I'm not always aware of the latest trends in linguistics.
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7 minutes ago, fuzzylogician said:
This is my last post on this particular point because it seems like a waste of time and I didn't mean to derail the conversation. If you didn't know there was an issue and didn't mean offense, educate yourself, accept that there was something you didn't know, and don't try and defend it. All you had to say was "thank you, I didn't know that." I was giving you the benefit of the doubt that you didn't mean anything by the original post, but your latest replies, @BunnyN and @samman1994, using a term I just told you some women find offensive and mansplaining why you think it's not? Please. I find it very telling that the original post in question had the poster referring to himself as an "old man" and his potential love interests as "younger females".
Hi, I'm an old male who is interested in young women.
Am I a pervert?
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2 minutes ago, samman1994 said:
I mean, to be quite honest, I didn't think the term female was offensive either, mainly because I never looked at the term that way. (honestly I can say I have never even heard of this). I can also state many females really don't care about being called female over women, so this is more a case by case opinion on the matter. There are many words used interchangeably in our language, female and women being one of them (I can think of a million in science), that do not mean the same thing (textbook) but are used to mean the same thing (in talk). [This is not used to justify the action, but explain I don't think any offense was meant here].
Anyways, on to the post itself. In my lab we had a grad student that was in his early 40s, and he used to complain about this problem often as well. Initially he tried for people on campus (e.g. faculty members and older grad students), but that didn't work out too well (mixing relationships with work). Then he tried for maybe someone a bit younger, but he didn't really like their personalities (I guess not mature enough). He found his best success off campus, using Tinder at the time (older women use it too!), and various other dating sites. He ended up leaving a while back, but the last time we talked, he said he was much happier and having much greater success looking off campus than he did ever looking on campus.
I just turned 30 this year. I often find myself the oldest student in the classroom. Admittedly it's a little bit embarrassing, sometimes I feel that it's not ethical to date 20 something girls.
Is it ethical to date faculty members? conflict of interests?
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9 minutes ago, fuzzylogician said:
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sadfunny just how many of these your post hits.Sorry I'm not quite interested in politics and controversies anymore.
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Are you interested in other developed countries? Immigration laws are very favorable in Europe and Japan.
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3 minutes ago, fuzzylogician said:
You might want to educate yourself about respecting women, yes. Why is it surprising that women want to be treated as human beings that have value beyond their reproductive organs?
The term male is often used as a noun as well to refer to men and boys. I don't feel uncomfortable with the usage at all. Most students in my school are undergraduate kids, I am not sure whether I should call them girls/boys or women/men.
Actually, even the far left NYT uses the term "male" all the time.https://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/07/fashion/mens-style/hillary-clinton-white-male-supporters.html?mcubz=0
Anyway, if you find it offensive. I won't use the term female to refer to you.
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23 hours ago, fuzzylogician said:
I didn't know that. But seriously?
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On 7/16/2017 at 7:13 PM, MarineBluePsy said:
I did exactly this, started my PhD in my mid-30s as a single childless woman in a cohort where most other students are about a decade younger. What helped me the most was going in knowing that my cohort or even my department wouldn't meet all of my social needs. I do sometimes socialize with my cohort because they are nice people and can actually be fun, but after spending so many hours with them each week I really don't desire to hang with them all the time outside of that. I figured being at a large public university I'd be able to connect with grad students in other departments that might be older, so I gave that a whirl. Unfortunately most of the people I came across were still either much younger or just living a completely different life being married with kids.
I then chose to take my social life completely off campus and am happy I did. I signed up for every things to do in this city list I could find, picked up all the free local papers, volunteered, and joined meetup groups to force myself to attend a few things each week whether I felt like it or not. I did things I knew I like, tried things I'd never heard of, and gave things I previously felt hohum about another shot. I wouldn't say I have close friends yet and that's ok. But I do have people that when I see them out I can hang with them and it isn't weird or we can and do text each other to exchange invites. The best part is most of the people I've met are not in school so I'm not constantly sucked into school stuff. After having been in the working world I definitely appreciate the variety in my social life and don't want to feel like I can't ever get a break from school. I also head out of town during school breaks to visit family and friends I haven't seen awhile because there is nothing like being surrounded by people who know you well.
As for dating, this too I've taken completely off campus because I just don't want that kind of drama in what I consider my workplace. Depending on the type of person (LGBT, other race/ethnicity, specific religion, etc) you wish to date there may be limited choices based on the region of the world your program is in. Also if you wish to date someone your age or older they may have assumptions about grad students that make dating harder such as you must have bad finances, you'll struggle to get a job when you graduate, your degree will take 10 years, you lack direction or something is wrong with you if you're this old and doing this, you don't have time to date, etc. I personally just mention the general industry I'm in until it seems like I may want to get to know a guy better, then he can have more specific details. Otherwise its just like dating when you work full time. Sometimes its fun and other times it really sucks lol.
I'm also thinking of taking my social life off campus.
Being in a small school where everybody is significantly younger than me makes it difficult to find people near my age.
It has been one month since I started my PhD. Actually, making friends with younger students isn't as hard as I expected. I still remember my undergraduate years, and people haven't really changed. The undergraduates today face the same problems I did ten years ago. Many of them don't seem to notice that I'm very old, or they just don't care.
Just like other old men, I'm attracted to younger females but I don't think they find me attractive, lol.
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My father has a master's and my mother has a doctorate degree. Actually, my mother is also a professor.
There's no disadvantage, but no huge advantage either. I think they have more realistic expectation of higher education, they know getting a PhD doesn't mean that much these days. They would be perfectly fine if I didn't go to graduate school at all. Doing PhD is just something I want to do. There's no pressure or higher expectation.
Interestingly, nobody in our extended family I know has a doctorate degree.
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Good enough
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Hi, all
I was admitted to a computer science PhD program at a small school like two months ago with no funding immediately available.
I emailed them forth and back in early may and they said no funding available but they would let me know in the case of future opening. It didn't look promising and I just gave it up.
Unexpectedly, they said there's a TA position opening that would cover tuition and stipends. The professor of interest invited me to a Skype interview this weekend.
I did a couple of interviews before but it's all about academics and research. Should I expect something else since this interview is specifically for a TA position?
Most applicants who received at least one offer have probably already accepted their positions I believe, given that it's already late May. I have no idea about other candidates being interviewed. But to be optimistic, I reckon the competition is possibly less fierce.
Thanks!
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The key is to cook your own food. Unfortunately, I hate cooking.
Rent & unities will be another big chunk of your total expense, but that part is easier to track.
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Your assumption that the government will give every school the same(and insufficient) amount of money isn't sensible. You need to justify your assumption. I know it's an assumption, but I'm not convinced it's sensible.
The last paragraph seems to make a brilliant point. That is, suddenly introducing the concept of free education to the U.S could be very difficult. Maybe you should elaborate on that part?
Northwestern is a private school. In Europe, free tuition only extends to public schools if my memory serves.
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My GRE score is almost the same! When the professor interviewed me, she suggested that the score would be good enough. Don't worry! Focus on other aspects in your application.
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No way.
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I went to A&M for undergrad so I'm biased.
College Station is a nice place to be. The cost of living is reasonable, people are friendly and the campus is extremely safe.
However, UCI is great for international students from Asia because there are plenty of nonstop flights from Asia to LAX. Irvine is pretty safe, too. The cost of living in Irvine is significantly higher, but the higher stipend may justify the difference, depending on your lifestyle. If you live with roommates, the rent can be quite manageable.
Financially, UBC is the toughest place to be. Vancouver is extremely expensive, and your stipend can hardly make the ends meet. However, UBC is nicer if you intend to immigrate to Canada.
Sorry I have no idea about chemistry major.
English as a second language + financial concerns for pursuing a PhD
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Quebec?
I can't speak of social work or humanities in general, but in my field, very few people are willing to do PhD without funding. Typically, graduate assistantship gives you free tuition and monthly stipend. Some schools are more generous than others, but in general the amount isn't enough to maintain desired lifestyle.
I have never been to Canada. But honestly I doubt if an average state in the U.S is superior to Quebec. There are some really prestigious schools in the U.S, maybe that's the reason you want to leave Canada?
English isn't my native language. Doing PhD is hard for many reasons, but writing in English isn't one of them