I'm so ashamed to admit this to anyone and I can't even bring myself to use my regular account to post it, but I need to get it out there. My husband is a white supremacist and I don't know what to do about it. It wasn't always this way, or maybe it was and I was just fooling myself. I don't know! What started out as him occasionally making racist remarks (e.g., calling those of Asian-descent "chinks") has now escalated into him wanting to join white only groups and hanging the Nazi flag in our apartment. When I discovered the flag, I ripped it down and we got into an argument. He says I'm brainwashed by the Jews and don't understand what the flag really stands for. It's hanging up again and he told me he'd divorce me over this if I pressed the issue. Maybe that would be for the best, because I'm completely disgusted right now. I don't understand how this happened or how I didn't see the signs earlier. I don't know what to do - how can I get him to understand that he's completely wrong? Can I change his point of view? This is incredibly awful for me... I love this man, but he's turned into someone with dramatically different values than I have. If he were just a friend of mine, our friendship would probably be over if I walked into his house and saw a Nazi flag on the wall. It's basically the ultimate symbol of hate and evil. It isn't just this white supremacy thing, either. He recently decided that feminism is stupid and women just have penis envy. I'm in a scientific field and he's constantly belittling it, saying that it's all made up nonsense. I just don't understand. He wasn't anything like this when we got married.
Advice or words of comfort would be appreciated right now.
