how much should i consider my boyfriend when deciding a school? he will soon be finishing his first year of a phd program at his #1 school. for Fall 2010, i was accepted into my top school (also a phd program)... but i was also accepted at my boyfriend's school. while his school is excellent in his area, it is very small and new in mine (some courses are still in development, no one has graduated from the program yet). both schools are offering financial packages, though my boyfriend's school is offering more support.
we've been doing distance for over a year (him in school, me working). obviously it's hard, but we've managed it pretty well. no drama or trust issues that can sometimes arise.
i'm wondering what a guy's perspective is on all this. my boyfriend hasn't really expressed his thoughts because he doesn't want me to base my decision on how he feels... he has said, though, that he recognizes that i got into a top program in my field.
i think i will be happier being in a long distance relationship at my top school than being with my boyfriend at his school... am i being totally selfish? i am seriously committed to our relationship. in the long run, i just think we will have more job options in the same area by having degrees from top schools in our respective fields. what do you all think?