socionut
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Just now, Derriduh said:
I grew up in a rural community. Farming is quite fine work.
I "think" it's an insult because of the obviously insulting way that socionootz deployed the term.
never said it was an insult. i was just making a dumb joke. apparently it was still too intelligent for you.
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Just now, Derriduh said:
You should consider a career as a farmer, given your abject lack of wit, terrible writing, and total infacility for dialogue.
wow, you're a complete fucking bigot. and some social scientist, given that you think you can make valid inferences about me based on less than a dozen posts on an online (anonymous) forum. WHAT RELIABLE DATA YOU HAVE
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4 minutes ago, Derriduh said:
I'd argue that's a factual observation. Or, as you'd likely put it: id assert that the nature in which that comment has been written was factual, dickhead.
also, I don't think you understood what I was saying. that you're a liar is a factual observation, indeed. you told us you were no longer going to be polluting this forum with your garbage, and yet here you remain.
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2 minutes ago, Derriduh said:
I'd argue that's a factual observation. Or, as you'd likely put it: id assert that the nature in which that comment has been written was factual, dickhead.
>tries so hard to be clever that he fails to communicate anything meaningful
>ends sentence with "dickhead" just for good measure
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2 minutes ago, Derriduh said:
I would pay good money to watch you in a workplace! Haha.
"But Mommy, HE DIDN'T DO WHAT I WANTED!"
you should consider a career as a farmer, given how excellent you are at building strawmen. first claiming that there's open deliberation over which elite school to attend, now framing me as a toddler when in reality i'm just observing that the real douchebags in this thread don't apologize for being douchebags. the commenter to which i was originally referring falls into that category, and it would seem you do as well.
take your pathetic pity party elsewhere. no one feels bad for douchebags.
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48 minutes ago, Derriduh said:
Now, I have wasted enough cognitive/emotional overhead responding to this thread and the results board for a single lifetime. My defensiveness has morphed into arrogance and calousness, two traits which I'd rather not exhibit. This will be my last negative comment, here or otherwise.
I guess you really are a liar, then, huh?
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44 minutes ago, Derriduh said:
I worry about how you (and the other hyper-sensitives in this thread) will fare in an employment context. Here's an uncomfortable truth: workplaces can be, and often are, dysfunctional, "toxic" places where demands for an unearned and unnecessary apology will be justifiably dismissed as sanctimonious whinging. I'm also concerned with how this species of posturing arms the moronic, bloviating conservatives who trash our set of disciplines in the popular discourse. (As someone else in the results thread noted.)
My original comment is a perfect example. I was cranky that day. I admit I could have/ought have chosen more sensitive, less confrontational language to express (what I believe is) a reasonable point. The pushback I received in that narrow and limited context is warranted. Yet, the issue has been continuously revived by additional posters, ostensibly unrelated to the original dispute, for the sole and express purpose of attacking me personally. I've been labelled a dick, an asshole, a Trump supporter (lol, I'm Canadian and extremely liberal), unintelligent and a liar - by individuals who were unharmed by my original (admittedly distasteful) comment. Save for my original comment, every post I've made, both here and in the results section, has been in response to someone who berated/admonished me unprompted.
To the original poster, provided they are reading this thread: I apologize for my inelegant and aggressive phrasing. I appreciate how overcoming an obstacle/set of obstacles elates one to the point where forethought of others' emotions is not practical. I ought have exercised more restraint myself. With that said, to this poster and others: there is a certain dignity in humility that seems largely lost in the reactions on the board and this forum. It is justifiable and expected to react positively - even vocally - to perhaps the greatest success you've achieved in life. Simultaneously, though, your application cycle cohorts are experiencing soul-crushing defeat. Be considerate of how you comport yourself (the irony is dripping, here - I know.) Regardless of the underlying circumstances, openly deliberating over which elite institution you'll choose translates as tone deaf to a sufficiently large proportion of your peers - as demonstrated by the respective up/downvotes - that I feel comfortable in (re)asserting that it's a tactless move.
Now, I have wasted enough cognitive/emotional overhead responding to this thread and the results board for a single lifetime. My defensiveness has morphed into arrogance and calousness, two traits which I'd rather not exhibit. This will be my last negative comment, here or otherwise.
To the admits: congratulations! To the rejections: I was rejected from all 12 programs to which I applied last year. This year, I have been accepted to every program (thus far). Write like mad, publish everywhere you can, go to conferences, harass professors, and reapply next year. You'll be successful.
you're an idiot. i'm merely calling for equity here. @utley24is the only one being hyper-sensitive in this thread. i think it's dumb as hell that he got to throw a hissy fit until @jriveracal(who has every right to be anxious) felt forced to apologize, and then he got to stand even higher on his pedestal afterwards. if someone needed to apologize, it was him.
also, no one in this thread is "openly deliberating over which elite institution" they'll choose (the only "open deliberation" there's been has been over institutional support for parents. the poster to whom you refer didn't mention any departments at all in the comment which prompted this whole hissy fit in the first place.
also, how self-absorbed are you to make this about you? sad truth: no one here feels bad for you. especially when you're preaching sensitivity in a thread where you referred to someone's writing as "tortured." are you legitimately trying to start a pity party about how YOU'RE being singled out for your asinine behavior? protip: dont be an ass.
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On 2/13/2019 at 4:13 PM, utley24 said:
For what it's worth, I actually agree with your premise that celebrating/bragging on this site can be in poor taste, since so many people here are primarily anxious and dealing with rejections and/or difficult decisions. I think this forum ought to primarily be for information exchange and commiserating--although claiming acceptances is fine when done appropriately and lends credibility to the results board...but because this is all anonymous, we can't really properly actually celebrate the individual's accomplishment, so bragging about one's wealth of acceptances really just serves to make other people feel like shit while signaling that some person out there is having a swell time with this process. Nobody really comes out ahead there.
That being said, you were a dick about it when you could have just said something simple like "Hey congratulations, that's great, just be conscientious that a lot of people reading this board are nervous and dealing with rejections of their own".
Don't be a dick. And go Google the Streisand Effect while you're at it.
Remember this? The dick just a couple weeks ago called out someone else for being a dick when they could have just said "just be conscientious that a lot of people reading this board are nervous and dealing with rejections of their own"
practice what you preach, or sit down. pls and thx
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1 hour ago, utley24 said:
I know I said I would stop checking this, but I'm glad I did, because these sentiments are both well-articulated and depressingly true. So many people are blocked out of this world altogether because grad programs don't offer anywhere close to adequate financial supports. There are so many barriers in place because universities see PhD students as disposable cheap labor, and it perpetuates the systematic inequalities we see throughout academia.
Good luck.
So wait, this guy gets to be a total dick to someone for no reason, like nothing happened? Like, @jriveracal apologizes for rightfully being stressed, and this guy doesn't have to? he gets to reply to her post like "oh, this is what i meant all along?" what bullcrap.
Interviews/Acceptances/Rejections Fall 2019
in Sociology Forum
Posted · Edited by socionut
i'm done, and i apologize for contributing to the toxicity. i hope it's as clear to you as it is to me that @Derriduh is a seasoned troll, and he's clearly been baiting me. unfortunately for this forum, I took the bait (I do sincerely apologize -- I needed to blow off some steam, and @Derriduh is as deserving a target as I could wish for (i mean seriously. he posted today JUST to start a pity party for himself, and to call me too immature for the workplace)). I'm done, I promise! like i said, the real douchebags posting in this thread are the ones who won't apologize. i'm not one of them, i swear. it's just been a tough week.
sorry for derailing this thread for the sake of my emotional catharsis! and sorry for contributing to today's toxicity.