rilke26

Thank you for the reply. I know I won’t find “the answer” on a forum, but I wanted to get different perspectives. It’s a tough choice, and I have to bring it up with my wife soon. Just trying to get my mind centered before we talk. Much appreciated!

A little background on myself: I'm a distance doctoral student (the university is a four and a half hour drive). I'm married, own a house, and currently work full time. My wife is an assistant professor at the university in my town (not the one where I go). I currently make 40k and she makes 50k. My adviser contacted me today to offer a 20 hour/week GA position working as an editorial assistant for the most well known journal in my field (he is the editor). It pays 14.5k and covers tuition. My current job is awful (it is not one I want to stay in, nor is it in a field I would want to pursue) and a new job is a godsend. Also, I would like the time to focus more on research and developing my CV.; therefore, this would be an amazing opportunity. The pay cut doesn't bother me personally (I can survive on it). However, I must move to my university city to take the position. It's a great opportunity for my career; however, I know my wife will immediately object to it. I know this isn't a common situation (I assume), but I was wondering if anyone had advice. Am I selfish if I take the position?