maxwellhouse

So a little about us: both in our mid 20s and have been dating for over 2 years. Ive held a number of good career jobs and have finally found one i am happy in (6 mo into the job). My girlfriend has always been planning to leave the SF bay area to go away for an internship year. Long story short she got placed in Tucson. Having researched the job market, it is less than ideal, plus i finally have a job that I actually ENJOY. In her mind, and probably my own, is that if i do not follow her to Tucson then we break up. I don't want to leave a job i love plus my aging (/sick) parents are still here in the bay area. I am really conflicted and this stems from alot of personal issues I struggle with in regards to making decisions, but I can't seem to find the answer whether i follow her there. I've always wanted to leave the bay someday and I do value our relationship. Long distance would be tough on the both of us so I do think its the best call to have a fresh start if i decide to stay back. Our relationship is deteriorating based on my lack of commitment one way or the other, but can't put it off any longer. We both love and care for eachother, but I am not sure if this is a sacrifice i want to make at this point in my life. Anyone else go through this dilemma with their bf/gf? did you make the right call in the end?