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I want to apply to various grad programs (PhD) across few countries. During a heated argument, my SO says I'm selfish applying to places farther from where they stay. That I am choosing grad programs over them. I haven't started applying yet and I feel very discouraged from this. Although I'm applying across few countries, if I get one near to where my SO lives, I would prefer that over the others. I don't feel I have suitable opportunities in SO's grad school itself, so I am not sure if I should apply there. I'm very conflicted right now since few application deadlines are coming up soon and I'm just trying not to let it affect me but it's hard. Context: SO is also a grad student and we're in long distance in different countries now and thanks to covid it's harder than before. Used they/them because I don't want to disclose gender or any identifying information.