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@PHILOKEV Okay, that makes sense. I think I was just unsure because the department seemed to really want me to keep them in the loop on how things progress where I felt almost pressured to commit to keeping them updated. At the time I felt really good and happy that they were this interested and outright said I would let them know any news I get, but after a little while I started to feel like I shouldn't have been that agreeable and should have been more vague because now I feel like I promised something I shouldn't have ?. I just didn't know if it was looked down upon to not fully update a school who you said you would update (obviously excluding if you knew 100% you were going to turn them and go somewhere else, but that isn't the case I am wondering about). I didn't want to feel guilty that I didn't tell them every time I got a rejection or something (which is how I feel a little bit even though I guess I shouldn't). I guess I just feel like I put myself in a position I am not sure how to approach

@PHILOKEV @MtnDuck Thank you for this! The department didn't pressure me to decide soon or anything, they didn't even bring it up. They just seemed to be very interested in what other offers or potential offers I had and wanted to be updated, so it is less about the timing and more about how much I should disclose to them. If I hear back from the other school and it isn't an acceptance, should I just withhold what I hear back unless the department asks? I would definitely need to think about what I would choose if I got both offers because I don't definitively know if I would choose one over the other, so that isn't the problem I am talking about here. I am just worried if I get rejected or waitlisted and then have to tell the first school about the position I am in (like if I am rejected and I don't say anything, how bad would that be to do or is that recommended?) It feels like I am in a good position in limbo, but it all might fall apart if I don't have the advantage of another acceptance and in that case I would worry about getting in trouble or something for not telling them about a rejection or waitlist if I have found out about it. I recently got another rejection, not from a school I interviewed at or anything, but it made me think about this potential problem (I have a feeling this might be my case based on some information I recently heard). Basically, do I have to tell a school about the negative outcome of a potential other offer (like a rejection) or does that look really bad to hold off even if I know the result? If I get waitlisted, would it be to my benefit to tell them or should I say I am still waiting and then see if I get an acceptance? I would be waiting to see the result of that anyway before I could decide, so I don't think I would be holding anything up unnecessarily. I am interested in what to do in both case scenarios (waitlist vs rejection).

I need advice. One of the programs I was accepted to asked me to let them know if I am considering anywhere else and get any other offers. I told them about an interview I had coming up and now I am not sure if I was supposed to do that or not. They asked me to keep them updated and I said I will. I know that it is good to tell them if I have another acceptance, but what if I end up being only being waitlisted or rejected? Should I let them know since they asked me to keep them updated? Or will that look bad on me or like I am not a wanted applicant? Could it affect potential extra funding I might be up for? Should I just not tell them at all what I hear back or would that be even worse? Hopefully I am accepted and don't have to worry about it, but I feel like I may have put myself in an awkward position, unless this is what you are supposed to do? I am new to the process and have no clue how this goes.