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Everything said here is so true, and this may seem strange, but it really clarifies what I need to do. I'm going to man up and lay it all out there for my ex. She was (is?) my best friend, is sweet, funny and we always had a great time together, so what in the hell am I doing sitting here sulking all alone? I broke up with her because I was lazy and pretty scared about making that next level of commitment which after four years we really need to do. I convinced her and myself that she just didn't measure up anymore. What a jerk I am. I totally convinced myself that the grass was greener. I am going to do what I need to do and take what's coming to me and if she tells me to get lost, then I will follow the advice of all of you. This really helped me figure things out. Thanks.

Thanks for the advice. I have immersed myself in my studies, but it's the nagging realization of what I left behind that is haunting me. I don't want to become bitter, because really, it is all of my own making. I'm still thinking that on some level I should try with all my might to get her back.

So yeah, I broke up with my girl this summer after dating since high school. To be honest, I think I did it more to play the field than anything else. I told her that we just weren't meant to be, but here it is months later and I am totally a mess. The other students in my department are okay enough, but they have their own lives and interests and it isn't at all like undergrad. She was the love of my life and here I am sitting in the middle of a big school feeling totally isolated. Getting her back is probably not a good option since she is pretty angry and is probably moving on anyway. My question here is how do I get myself out of this feeling and into the grad school experience?

I hear you, man. What makes it worse for me is that I actually broke up with my girlfriend of four years before I left this fall thinking I was some kind of bro. I guess you can call it karma that now I'm missing her like crazy and my ideas of having all these girls falling all over me hasn't happened. I was a real d-bag and here I am, lonely and sad.