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Thanks for your thoughts folks, I also really needed to vent so sorry about the wall of text for everyone who read all of that.

I started grad school last fall and found a random person to move in with close to campus, we get a long well, but are not really friends, we've never really had any kind of serious conversation and don't have much in common. Also, he made me a little uneasy when I moved in, he didn't help with moving boxes/furniture, which I suppose is all right but I would have lent a hand, also he didn't make any effort to make me feel welcomed by doing something like clearing a space in the kitchen for me to put food in or a shelf in the bathroom for my stuff, I just moved his stuff out of the way and took over some space which he seemed fine with. But the price is right and the roommate agreement only requires a 30 day notice to move out, so it works for me. A few months ago my roommate started dating a young woman, hes in his 30s she is about 21 or 22. She would stay over a few nights a week but not every night. One night I woke up to hear them arguing about something but just went back to sleep, a bit later I hear the front door slam and his car peel out of the parking lot. Apparently she had been texting her ex bf to come pick her up so that they could go do pills at 3AM, to me that would have been a deal breaker but a few weeks later she is back in the picture. I don't really remember the time frame but a few weeks later she's gone and he tells me not to let her into the apartment, and then she's back. Also, something that is really weird is at some point they start web chatting, she lives like 10 miles away at her mom's but they would web chat \all night on webcam I think so he could keep tabs on her, which is in my mind really unhealthy relationship behavior. Anyway, a few weeks go by, she is gone again, roommate tells me not to let her into the apartment, and then shes back, this happens a few times. I really don't appreciate being told not to let someone into the apartment, if he has a problem with her he does not need to involve me in his nonsense. They were together when I went home for break and then my roommate texts me to say he had to change the locks and that my new key is in a lockbox and gave me the code. I figured that was the end of her but then a few days into the new semester she is back. In general I prefer not to pry and none of their drama has interfered in my life at all so I didn't say anything, and frankly I don't care but it does kind of raise questions about my roommates judgement but I suppose love does crazy things to people so I just let it go. So about a week and a half ago they tell me she is pregnant, she just found out and is 2 months along. So she starts staying at our place every night, we have a 2br apartment with just a kitchen, 2brs, living room 1 bath, not really ideal for 3 people. On top of that she is always here, watching TV, I mean all day long, in fact I doubt that she leaves the apartment lately unless she is going with him somewhere. I believe this is so that he can keep tabs on her since she seems to like to disappear every so often, and I don't think she has a key anymore. When I first met her she said she had a job, but who knows if that is true. This is fairly distracting when I am trying to get homework done and I can't really use the living room if she is watching TV to get work done. I could go to campus to do work, but I think its crap that I should have to leave my apartment to do homework when someone who doesn't pay rent is hording the living room. Then this last Friday he texts me and tells me not to let her into the apartment, and when I come home she's back with him, whatever. So she is living with us and he did not bother to have a conversation with me about this, or anything AT ALL, when I mentioned that he changed the locks it was the first that I had heard that she had a key to the apartment. On top of that I think odds are even that the kid is not his since her recreational drug of choice is, and no lie, GHB, but really that's his problem and isn't something I am going to bring up. Also, she also smokes cigarettes which really bothers me since she is you know, pregnant though I suppose she does deserve credit for being "sober" as she calls it. In addition to this, my girlfriend of several years and I broke up a week before the semester. It was really a mutual thing and we are still friends and talk, I actually feel pretty good about how it all went down. It has been tough though. Also, grad school is generally stressful, so this on top of breaking up with my gf and school this has really put me on edge, I am a fairly tightly wound person and my brain has been racing all week so I have not slept much and have not gotten any work done all semester. I really don't know what to do, on the one hand I feel bad about moving out, I know that this is not my problem and that I did nothing to create it but my roommate is in a bind here and I don't want to be piling on. On the other, this is total crap, he didn't tell me this crazy girl was moving in and would just be loafing around the apartment all damn day because he can't trust her. I'm not on the lease so I could theoretically just leave and have that be it, though I would lose my $300 deposit, I could give him the 30 days notice and get the deposit back but I would have to stay here for another month. I was planning on leaving around May anyway in the event that I got an internship out of town so it is not like I am that upset about having to move. Also, I want to be gone by the time this bundle of joy and chemicals is born. One of the other students in my program bought a house with his girlfriend next door to us and had asked me if I was interested in moving in in the past. We are sort of friends and his girlfriend doesn't do pills so that might work. He is sort of friends with my roommate so I am sure that if I bailed on my roommate and moved in with them that it would create tension there too so I don't want to do that, but it would be the easiest option for moving out and he knows about my plans for the summer. Also, I am fairly tightly wound up and my brain is on overdrive right now so I have not been able to get a solid night sleep for about a week which totally sucks. TL/DR: My roommate's batsh*t girlfriend is pregnant and she moved in without him telling me, wtf should I do?

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