Regret Decision -- Too late to change mind?

[colbertnation]

hello all,

So I was stuck with choosing between two schools. One was in my home city, the other was out of town. I decided to play it "safe" and stay in my home city and not burden myself with incurring debt, moving across the country, etc etc.

Now I regret the decision and I'm wondering if you think it would be too late to change my mind. I feel like I just played it "safe" but ultimately this was not the best choice for me. It's almost two weeks since the April 15th deadline. Would I be able to contact the school I already declined telling them I was stressed beyond belief and after further reflection I whole heartedly want to attend their program, and want to see if the spot and offer would still be available?

Does anyone have any experience with this?

I also realize that I've accepted another offer and according to APA guidelines I'd have to get written release from the institution. At this point, if I can get my other spot back, I'm not too concerned with this or severing ties with this school.

Thoughts?

[TakeruK]

It doesn't hurt to ask the other school if they will still take you. The guidelines are just guidelines, not actual laws or even a contract. If the other school says no, your home school won't know about it, so no harm done. If the other school says yes, and their offer (potentially different now) is acceptable to you, then you can let your home school know about your decision change. They won't be happy but you have to make the choice that is best for you. If the cost of upsetting people at your home school is reasonable for how much the new school is a better fit for you, then go for it.

[emmm]

If you are so unconcerned about severing ties with your current school, it seems to indicate to me that you really do not want to attend. Maybe you should just decline your spot, whether or not the other school takes you, and reapply to schools that are better fits next year, if necessary.

[colbertnation]

Thanks for the replies. @emmm, it's not that i'm so unconcerned with severing ties , perhaps I should have expressed myself better, it's that its not a huge concern of mine in the big picture if it means being able to get my old spot back. Something I could live with. Besides that, it's a great institution, and if I didn't have this other offer in the pas, I would be happy attending.