Maziana Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Long story short: I made a dumb mistake. A program admitted me and I bought plane tickets to visit. Later, I realized that I don't actually want to go to that grad school, and another grad program has a visitation weekend at the same time. How bad would it be if I apologetically withdrew? It would save them time and money, and save me time (while costing me a few hundred in a non-refundable ticket!). A professor I work for says I should just visit the second school at another time, but I would like alternative opinions, since he seemed to be focusing on program rank (he's not in my field) instead of how much the research interested me. (I'm ehhh about the school I'm committed to - I COULD make it work but I'm not excited by it) Longer story, in which I can make justifications: I used to be genuinely interested in this school, so when they admitted me and said they would give me X amount of money for transportation, I immediately looked up the cost of plane tickets. They were nearing the maximum amount, so I quickly bought them. It was a busy week and I wasn't thinking. A few days later, I took another look at the program, talked to one POI, and realized that their research won't really help me do what I want to do. I guess my focus shifted a bit since I actually applied. If I withdraw, I have to take the plane ticket cost hit... which would be bad, since although I have some money saved, it's gonna be rather diminished by the time I go to grad school. Also, I might offend a few people, which would be bad, since a lot of my POIs at different programs seem to know each other. But I will have saved them money, and saved myself from feeling dishonest and ill-prepared. I'll also get to take a thorough look at the second grad program without using up too many more of my vacation days. And I'd feel better if I didn't visit a ton of grad schools. Maybe I'd open up a spot on the waiting list? If I go ahead and attend, I'll uh... have a weird sort of stressful vacation where I have to miss work, do a bunch of research beforehand, and wear my limited nice clothes? At least it'd be paid for though... I'm gonna ask another prof or two, but thought I'd check here too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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